My FI and i are paying for our wedding ourselves. After the tuxes, the flowers, the dress, the cake, the rings, the reception hall and the food, adn the DJ there wasn't anything left for favors, is that really bad? We didnt even have enough to have the place decorated, i feel really bad about it...
2007-09-14 10:46:36 · 35 answers · asked by alaska_flower2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I really don't believe that you can't afford to buy a few bags of Hershey Kisses to put in on the tables or something. It doesn't have to be anything fancy but people will expect something.
2007-09-14 11:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 2⤊ 7⤋
You actually can do favors very inexpensively, they are a nice thank you for your guests. Also you can do your own decorations just go to you local party or craft store and see what you can find. If you really can't afford favors and you are having a simple wedding then I wouldn't worry about it, BUT if you have spent a lot on everything else but don't have any favors believe me people will notice so be prepared for snotty comments. You may want to reconsider doing some your self.
Oh and by the way the tradition of giving favors dates back to at least the 16th century in England where the bride and groom would give away love knots made of lace. Many other countries have similar traditions so it isn't really a made up modern tradition, but it is your day and you can plan it however you want.
Good luck!
http://www.weddinggazette.com/content/003140.shtml
2007-09-14 13:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all, skip them, they are a fairly new thing, I was talking to my sister about her wedding which was 12 years ago and I asked her what favors she gave, she told me that back then (only 12 years ago) favors werent done. Martha Stewart came up with favors, they are by no means mandatory.
As for decorations, dont feel badly, think back to weddings you have been to, do you really remember the decor? Chances are no. Its the food and drink and dancing that everyone remembers, not the flowers or color cordinating or any of that junk.
You'll have a great wedding! Good luck!
2007-09-14 14:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I give you credit for what you are doing, and on your own! Favors are not necessary. For my wedding, I decorated the tables with flowers picked from some friends gardens and also we went into the woods and found some Queen Annes Lace. I used some vases from flowers sent to me, and collected others from friends and I bought some simple ribbon at the local fabric store (didn't cost but a couple of dollars) the color of my bridesmaids dresses to tie a bow around each vase. Kept the vases in the refrig. until the next morning and had my host couple take them to the hall to put on tables early the morning of the wedding to put them on the table! If I had got married in winter,I'd probably have gone and cut some holly branches with pine branches! Decorations can be cheap to almost no cost. Just use your imagination! Some crape paper on the ceiling and cut out some wedding bells out of heavy construction paper to tape on the walls and around the entrance door! My mom and I made these rose buds out of some silky fabric and glued them onto some very thin dowls (for stems) and filled them with birdseed (you tuck in the ends). When we left, everyone got one and shook it on us. The "flower" was their "favor". I don't think the whole thing cost more than $10.00 for everything, and that was for 300 people! But favors are not necessary, the people are there to enjoy the wedding, reception, and the two of you! That is what is most important at a wedding. God Bless you both
2007-09-14 14:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by bpsgirl123 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same boat with my second (current) marriage. We had to pay for everything and living with 3 kids on one income. I made a lot of everything (bouquets, bouttenieres, etc). We didnt do favors for the guests but we did have favors for the wedding party and people helping with the wedding/reception. These were our center peices on our tables for the reception.
As for the guests, I don't think they'd mind. I mean, heck, you feed and entertain them half the night!!
If you want to do favors for the wedding party/helpers, I'd do a search online and find something simple to make or cheap to buy.
2007-09-14 10:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by southernsweetheart76 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
Don't worry about it. In all my posts I tell people NOT to do favors if it's a budget issue. Some people have an endless budget, so if they want favors, fine. But if you are in a budget "crunch" , again, don't worry about it. I only like the favors that are edible anyway, like chocolates. The others are a waste and not even taken, or if they are, they are thrown away when people get home.
And don't worry about decorations either. Again, people may not even notice. They are busy visiting, eating, looking at the bride and groom! Sit back and enjoy your wedding!
2007-09-14 12:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
1) Don't feel bad. Nobody really wants favors. I mean, think about it. We throw them out or stick them somewhere where they're just another thing to dust. I wouldn't give it another thought. I was a bride 19 years ago and my favors were those tacky Jordan almonds wrapped in tulle. Those things are on a par with Christmas fruitcakes
in terms of desirability. We were spending money we didn't have on items that nobody really wanted.
2) Machowolf, you're a riot. Your post made me laugh. I could have used a sense of humor when I was planning my wedding!
2007-09-14 11:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My FI and I are also paying for our wedding by ourselves. I am not planning on having favors because as many people have stated they just get eaten or thrown away. For me personally, I'd rather spend a little more money on the food or drinks or photographer rather than something people don't care much about anyway.
2007-09-14 11:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean. What I've done is I bought a whole bunch of salt water taffy and some white bags from the craft store and viola! It's way cheaper and creative than those fancy things you can buy.
If something like that is even out of your reach I would say not to worry about the favors, they're a technicality and not necessary.
2007-09-14 11:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think favors are a total waste of money, and even though we do have the money, we aren't having them. Every wedding I've ever attended had 1/2 of them left behind on the tables after the reception was over. People don't want some $1 candle or a wine glass with your name on it. They just don't.
2007-09-14 11:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Most likely favors will be thrown away and forgotten about.
Unless you get edible ones.
You spent your money in the most important areas.
Honestly I don't remember any wedding where I even remember what the decorations were. I remember the food, the dj, the dancing, the ceremony, but not the decorations.
2007-09-14 11:32:16 · answer #11 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋