Should i ask him out?

Question

I have a huge crush on this guy in my college program. I see him everyday and will be in his classes for the next 2 years. I feel an attraction between us ( though i have been wrong in dept. before)
Its 3 weeks into this program, should i ask him out? should i wait til he does? should i just wait..i dont want any weirdness between us if he says no since we;ll be working closely together for the next 2 years. Hes very mature and very nice. What should i do?

Answer 1

Sure, ask him what is the worst that can happen, he could say no?

At least he will know you are interested.

Answer 2

Just try and be really confident about yourself, you seem like a really cool person and the more you talk to him the more he will see that! Get to know him a little better and help him get to know you without seeming desperate or anything. Once you feel the time is good and he likes you then ask him out, if he hasn't asked you already ; )... If he says no, well, you said he was very mature so he probably won't be weird about it later while you are working with him. Give it a shot, you won't know until you try!

Answer 3

Early bird catches the worm, but don't look before you leap.

Make sure you know he's into you too, because if he's not, he'll let you down easy but it can be an awkward 2 years.

Start off slow don't try to jump right into a relationship especially if it's only two weeks in. Men like to feel free and usually want to weight their options.

So ask him to a movie, a play, arcade, museum, picnic. See how that first "date" goes. Show him who you are inside and out then when you she him showing more interest (more eye contact, touchy, feely) then make your move.

Answer 4

I answer this question because an experience my wife and I have had with her friend. She has liked this guy that she goes to church with. It was the whole "am I just a friend" or does he "like" me. We kept prodding her to invite him to do things with him - to show that she had some interest. But she didn't want to be pushy and didn't want to ruin a friendship if he wasn't "interested".

She finally did invite him to dinner with us last week. Since then, they have gone out again. She didn't have to do anything pushy or out of the way. But he needed confirmation that she is interested.

Without knowing more about the two of you, I'd say that you make a point of inviting this guy to some group activities first. "Some friends are going to a movie. Would you like to come?" That way, you get more of an opportunity to size things up without putting everyone into an uncomfortable situation if he's not interested.

Eventually, you have to make your interest clear. But you can do it in such a way that he can refuse without a confrontation if that's what he wants.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Just casually ask him if he wants to grab a little lunch on campus. If he says yes you know he is at least a little interested. If he says no, he is either not interested or has a previous engagement. If it is the later he will ask you out later because he knows he will not be rejeced. If it is the former he will not ask you out in the next few days and you should move on. The casual lunch response can tell you alot.

Answer 6

Do it!! But do it casually, ask him if he wants to go to a movie sometime, or some other activity. Don't make it seem so much like a date. Then see how that goes and move on from there.

Answer 7

Leave some strong hints and see if he bites. Most guys, contrary to current popular opinion, don't like aggressive women. The ones that do usually lose interest soon after.

Answer 8

1. Just be yourself.
2. Make sure you take a bath everyday.
3. Brush your teeth
4. Wear clean clothes
5. Study and try to impress him during class.

........and i just might ask you out. See you in class!

Answer 9

Why dont you try to get a little group to go out first before going alone, At least that way youmight get a better idea on what he will say if you do ask him to go out one on one!
Hope it all works out for ya!

Answer 10

you should just go for it i'm sure you hate just waiting around thinking what if this what if that and if u keep waiting longer the anxiety is going to kill u so if he says no you wont have to waste your life thinkin what if and then you can just move on
P.S. i mean what if he is shy you will never know unless you try

Answer 11

Take the initiative!!! Many guys find it refreshing to be asked out instead of playing the usual games (like flirt and hope he figures out what the hell you mean.)