I just can't think of how my life would be without her... I don't think I would even want to live it or ever have a child if she won't be the mother of my child.........................
2007-09-14 10:02:26 · 13 answers · asked by RICK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really feel soo sad please help me
2007-09-14 10:03:10 · update #1
Honestly, when I was in the same situation years ago, playing lots of video games helped me. Everyone said I should go out to bars and date other women but that just made things worse at the time. Get an XBox 360 and Bioshock. That game rules.
2007-09-14 10:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Billy Bob Barker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I've been there too. I've felt like I could die. Wanted to die. Didn't mind dying. Waited to die. All because of some silly chick that dumped me. Well, it took a while to get over it, but now I am engaged to a woman that is 10x that other girl.
Admittedly, at the time, I believe the girl in question was as good as it gets, and I couldn't imagine being without her. But, I am without her, and I've never been happier. My fiancee is WAY cooler.
Have you ever had a Magnolia cupcake in NY? The reason I ask is because I always thought that the best cupcake I had ever had was from this one shop near where I live. Well, I had a Magnolia cupcake (the wait is 45 minutes to buy one) and it was a near religious experience. It was exponentially better than those other cupcakes.
My point, is that I could never have imagined that I would find a better cupcake, but I did. Similarly, as much as you don't believe it, or want to accept it as a reality, you will find another woman, that may be a better "cupcake".
To recover, listen to some of these guys. Hang out with your friends. Get a game console and go nuts. Keep a journal that lists how you feel, and what you would say to her if she were here (this helped me a lot). Write a book if need be.
Also, you need to change your life. Change your hobbies, change your sheets (this is paramount), change your haircut...etc. Get everything that reminds you of her and put it in a box (pics and stuff like that). Hand the box to a friend, and ask them to hand it to another friend and stash it in their basement. You will not have access to it for 2 or 3 years (the time it will take to get over her).
But, you will be ok. It's going to hurt, maybe worse than it does now, but you will survive, and you will feel good again someday. It doesn't hurt to meet someone else in the meantime to kind of help pass the time. Although, you should not be careless with another person's heart either.
Good luck.
2007-09-14 17:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm assuming that this person just left you but is still alive. I know its hard it's always going to be hard, when you feel like you need that person to even breathe. But everyday that passes, it hurts a little less and soon, after a while, it will pass and believe me you will love again. You have to allow your self to move on, don't dwell on the past. Things always work themselves out I've been there, I know. You are not the first and you won't be the last. "The sun always shines brighter after the darkest night" i think that's the saying........ let your family and friends be there for you. And please take the time to get over it before you decide to get into another relationship. Be strong! Good Luck!!!
2007-09-14 17:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by Miss_P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sun will shine again sweety. I know how bad it hurts, physical the aching for the person, constant upset stomach, the dreams, the nightmares. You will make it through this. I'm not a religious freak or anything, but pray to God for strenght and grace in this hard time. It really does help. Know that everything happens for a reason, even if we cannot fathom the reason at the time. You will come out of this a stronger, wiser person. And you will fall in love again. I promise. Remember, the darkest hour of night is right before dawn. Email me if you want. My thoughts are with you.
2007-09-14 17:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by NYCWriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one of us has, or will go through this. The world is filled with women who will love you if you give them a chance. If someone doesn't want to be with you, there's little you can do to change it. So, do your grieving, but keep busy. I promise you, life will get easier and even joyful after some time has passed.
2007-09-14 17:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You focus your attention on the other 3.5 billion women that are still out there. You say that now, you just haven't met the "one" yet. So quit looking for the "one" and let her come to you. In the mean time, get out and enjoy life, not to do so would be waste.
Feel me?
2007-09-14 17:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will change that view. 9 out of 10 of us has experienced total annihilation of the heart. We survived and so will you. Don't worry, in no time you'll have little rugrats all over the floor with someone you truly care for.
2007-09-14 17:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by lu_dicrous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grieve for the loss of her, then move on. Find new interests, pick up a new hobby, make new friends. You are too important of a person to depend on somebody else for your own happiness.
2007-09-14 17:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I watched Lost: Season 1 and 2... then you realize everyone has problems.. so you get up and do what you gotta do to forget her.
2007-09-14 17:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on a date with someone else..
go get laid...
go to a strip club and get a lap dance and forget all about her
2007-09-14 17:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by A O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋