ok me and my current gf have been going out for 10 months and i thot i loved her but sense iv met this other girl im not sure anymore. my gf and i have gone on 2 breaks becaus she wanted to date some1 else and now iv fallen for some1 else. when i look at it, it seems that im the 1 that puts the most into the relationship and all she seems to want now is sex she dosnt seem to care bout anythng else. on top of that its a long distance relationship and with the other girl i see her every day. i dont kno wat to do, i want to be with the other girl but i dont want to hurt my current gf... some1 please help me
2007-09-14
09:40:09
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i have already told my gf and she said i should try it out because she feels she owes me, and i woul never cheat but its all i can do to stop me from kissing the other girl
2007-09-14
09:59:26 ·
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Wait wait wait. Your girlfriend goes on breaks so she can date someone else. Dude that is not a 'break,' she dumped you, twice. A break just means you two need some space, when she starts dating other guys you are broke up.
here let me tell you a secret you are not her boyfriend. You are her backup. You just her study guy, who is always there inbetween the guys she really likes.
if you like this new girl you owe it to yourself to ask your girlfriend for a "break" so you can do what she did. If nothing else she owes you.
2007-09-14 09:49:39
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answered by The Teacher 6
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how old are you two if you are under 30 don't worry about it! you are too young to be so attached. just tell her you want to go out with the other girl and play it by ear from there. you don't know what will happen. It could strengthen your relationship or ruin it; but at least you'll know the truth to everything instead of pandering it. Either way it seems like things will work out for the best. Tap as much *** as you can while you're young. If you don't you will regret it when you are old, fat, have kids and an annoying wife! Always prepare for the future senor!
2007-09-14 09:49:17
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answered by Anonymous
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Yeah, she HAS sort of set the precedent by breaking up with you, so this should make things much easier. In any case, you have the right to find you happiness and the right to break up from even the NICEST, SWEETEST, KINDEST person if it is not working out for you. (You don't see girls fretting about breaking up with nice guys, do you). Simply decide with which girl you want to be more and break-up with the other one. It's that simple. It seems to me that you've already made your decision. Of course, first make sure the other girl wants to hook-up.
2007-09-14 09:52:54
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answered by Anonymous
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You'll hurt your girlfriend more if you stay in the relationship and want to be with somebody else. You have to really think about what you really want. You need to ask the question , "If i break up w/my girlfriend, will I regret it?". Sometimes the grass looks greener, and sometimes you no longer love the one you are with. Do you want to lose your current girlfriend? If you don't, I would have a long talk with your girlfriend and tell her that you are attracted to another person.
2007-09-14 09:49:43
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answered by lordmisrule2004 4
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Someone is going to get hurt, you the other girl, or your girlfriend. But you should remember the longer you wait the harder its going to get the more complicated it will feel. Think of it like a band-aid, rip it off fast, it'll sting but at least it'll be done and over with. hop to it. but make sure this isn't a case of the "grass is greener" re-evaluate you current relationship. the butterflies of someone new are exciting, but the hotter the fire the faster it burns out.
2007-09-14 09:49:31
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answered by melindiva 2
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I advise which you remind her how lots you care approximately her. Do little issues for her that'll teach her why she began dating you interior the 1st place! perhaps discover the place you're lacking and step it up slightly, or perhaps flow romantic and purchase her some flowers or goodies? For me, i like to be reminded by capacity of my particular somebody that they care approximately me, in any different case i'm getting apprehensive that they don't look to have an interest and we start to opt for the flow. If she's needless to say not digging you in any respect, ask her what's up. it incredibly is extra perfect to be straightforward along with her and understand the placement extra perfect than assuming issues. She could such as you and you're able to properly be misreading her. If she hasn't broken up with you yet, it incredibly is a sturdy sign, perfect? reliable luck!
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answered by shams 4
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id say break up with ur current gf and date the new one so at least u can see her everyday. Long distant relationships NEVER last and its only been 10 months.
2007-09-14 09:46:55
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answered by coolchicka 2
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Life is young. Do what you want. You're not going to get married anytime soon...are you? If not, don't worry about it and go for it. Make sure you break up with the first girl before you go after the second one. Don't be shady. Be honest.
2007-09-14 09:48:03
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answered by Joe T 3
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when ppl say they want to go on break i think its crap especially if its 2 breaks.if this girl u met feels the same way about u maybe u should persue it.as for ur long distance girlfriend,she probably doesnt care for u as much as u do for her so its no point in tryin so hard for something that is pointless.i dont think she would be hurt as much as u think she would.
2007-09-14 09:48:51
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answered by sweetkisser684 2
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all you can do is be honest and just say . Im sorry but I dont have the same feelings for you anymore, and just tell her what shes doing wrong you know tll her you just seem like you want sex ect... and thats just not gonna work out. Good luck.
2007-09-14 09:48:33
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answered by Anonymous
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