There's this lady at my job, and she'll say hi, and whatever, me and my other co-worker:all three of us went to lunch, and we were talking about kniting, and out of nowhere she say'Oh for instance you can knit a new bag" and my bag has strings and stuff iy's not in the best condition, but I thought that was sort of rude, and then she's asks me"Do you watch t.v." I thought that was a stupid question...am I being too sensitive?
2007-09-14 09:37:50 · 15 answers · asked by Virgo1980 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
hold on. she asked if you watch TV and you were offended? that is being way too sensitive.
2007-09-14 09:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible you're being way too sensitive here.
Unless she was pointing and laughing at your bag at the time, she could simply have meant that youc ould knit a new bag because she happens to like knitted bags (there are some great ones around!). And "Do you watch TV?" is not a stupid question-- many people don't watch much any more, and it could simply have been a pre-cursor to a bigger conversation ("because I thought the last episode of "Scrubs" was great-- what about you?").
This person is trying to fit in, from the sound of it. Some people are less confident in personal social situations. Lighten up and give her a chance.
2007-09-14 17:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being too sensitive. It sounds as though she may be shy or not very socially skilled, but she is trying so please give her a chance. Sometimes it takes a huge effort for some people to be sociable because the skills don't come naturally to them. Once she and you get to know each other and she can feel relaxed with you, she may well turn into a true friend for you.
2007-09-14 17:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are being a wee tough on her. You're reading into everything she says when she probably meant nothing by it.
In order to get along with others you have to try a little harder. Don't take things like they are all negative and so personally.
You KNOW when someone is being rude, hon. So just relax a little - working is enough of a stress isn't it?
Good luck to you!
2007-09-14 16:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Done 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yesy uo are being too sensitive! you need to tell her that yes you can knit a new bag obviously it wouldn t be an old bag if you just knit it! and then offer to do something nice for hre like knit her a new mobile home
2007-09-14 16:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by itnihkyouscuk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well she insulted your purse, which was surely tacky- but you could have responded in kind~ oh yeah, but I like the broken in look! or something like that. The tv question was just being conversational- kind of dull, but not meant to be prying I'm sure.
2007-09-14 17:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes about both. She was probably just trying to be helpful and tried to move on with the conversation.
2007-09-14 23:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by coolcatjg16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so.
She's likely just trying to reach out and connect with you. Possibly it may be viewed as clumsy but she seems to be putting in an effort at it.
2007-09-14 17:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by You Ask & I Answer!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No we were all made different for a reason. And sometimes people don't know what to say out there mouth.
2007-09-14 17:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by make?love*not$war! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOTALLY too sensitive. I don't know you, and hope I'm wrong, but it sounds like you carry a big chip on your shoulder all the time?
2007-09-15 05:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋