We use to always have sex, everyday! Now we do it once every 2 wks, if that : (( We live together, fyi.
He says we have a relationship where sex doesnt reallly matter. He loves me more than anything. I believe sex is 90% of a relationship, if the sex is not good or not happening it wont work or last.
Do you think he is cheating or not sexually attacted to me anymore??
2007-09-14 09:34:12 · 68 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OKAY PEOPLE! Some of your answers crack me the hell up! So I thumbed up some, fyi.
He told me his previous relationships were mostly sexual, with lots of pot involved. He knew Im not going to be in a relationship with a stoner so he stopped on his own will. We did not have sex until we were OFFICAL , which was about a year after we met, now we have been together for 2 yrs. I am in love with him and we would have the most amazing romantic sex. It was romantic not raunchy! It made us, or at least me feel closer, part of him, knew he loved me, yadda yadda.
Now that he doesnt want it anymore or even initiate it Im confused. I have talked to him and he says 'we dont need sex in our relationship'.
That answer doesnt cut for me. Why now? All of a sudden?! So Im asking what you all think...cheating or just in love, or over it .
Thank you so much and have a truely wonderful day.
(((I'm 24)))
2007-09-14 09:58:11 · update #1
It’s important, but it’s not 90% of a relationship. I think 15-40% is more along the right portion. Talk to him and try to figure out why he’s not as interested. Some of that is normal, most couples’ sex life goes down some after they’ve been together for a while. But his comment "sex doesn't really matter" is weird.
2007-09-14 10:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by RSJ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should be having it more than once every two weeks i agree with that prob couple of times a week at least.
But if you think sex is 90% of a relationship then I think you have some issues. While sex is very important so are companionship and conversation and non sexual intimacy and .. well the list could go on for some time.
I dont know if this has anything to do with previous relationships you have had or whatever but if its just about sex then its not really a relationship.
2007-09-14 09:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by regaloid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he may like sex, but relationships and togetherness doesn't mean 24 hour sex. If you want more sex, set up more situations that will end in sex. Be creative, spontaneous, and just fun, and he should be more interested too.
And no I don't agree that 90% of a relationship is sex. there are many parts to it, and thats just the end result of a good close, relationship.
Ask him what he considers a good relationship, as in define it. and let him know you want more of the physical part if necessary. He's not a mind reader.
2007-09-14 09:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by almondsarenuts 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well for one, sex isn't 90% of a relation ship. What would happen after yall got old and your joints hurt everytim eyou moved? What then? Relationships should be based on more then just physical attraction or relations, it should be based on personality. The personality of a person is not esily changed, unlike the body which gains weight and loses it, grows old and starts sagging. Try doing other things together then just sex, you might like it.
2007-09-14 09:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best Thing To Do: Sit and talk with him about it before you go and accuse him. Because a relationship isn't based on sex. I know, I have a high sex drive and thought is run the same way. Just let him know how you feel about the whole situation. That way it'll answer your question. Watch his reaction! The main thing is to see if he is really lying or if he stands by his word. Just watch him!
2007-09-14 09:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by Playboy AKA Jovan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for a long time. And I can tell you it's not all about sex. It is how you make him feel emotionally, about how you stimulate his mind, how you treat him, if you trust him, all sorts of things.
Being in a relationship takes hard work and more than just sex. If you are really worried about it, ask him. The truth is always better than not knowing at all. Good luck.
2007-09-14 09:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well a relationships shouldn't be built around sex there should be a lot other things that you both have in common and also the love and the need to make the other happy and satisfied should be there also..send me an email and lets talk more about what going on ok.
2007-09-14 09:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he may be turned off by something about you. How old is he? Do you two experiment with different positions? There are so many different reasons why he may not have a high sex drive. He may just not care for it that much but loves the hell out of you. I wish I could help you.
2007-09-14 09:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
wow are you like 16 or something? if sex is all the relationship is about and you want to stay with this guy...then you're going to have to deal with some stuff in your life! relationships are about loving each other and communicating and showing how you love one another. and sex is just another way of showing love...when you are in a committed relationship. talk to him and tell him that you feel like you are wanting sex more. if you jsut keep venting online here, he'll never know you're unhappy. just talk to the guy, but i would suggest getting married before you do anything else....if you are already living together and sleeping together, you are living in sin and you will be judged for it.
2007-09-14 09:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sex is like half the relationship darling.
There comes a point where people in relationships dont' have sex as much as they used to. It's a natural process.
You can tell him you want more if you haven't.
2007-09-14 09:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋