my best friend took a over dose she is 13 and she went into a coma for a week or so and she has slight memory loss she is coming out of hospital on sunday i have not seen her yet (her mum didnt want anyone seeing her) i am seeing her on monday what we she be like i dont know if she will of changed or like look diffrent i no she will have cut and stuff but like is there anything i should be carefull with ?
2007-09-14 09:12:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
firstly, im so sorry that this has happened to your friend. i think the best thing for you to do is treat her as you normally would , she is still your friend. let her bring up the subject of the overdose, she will talk to you in her own time.
2007-09-14 09:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by ajj 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Visiting anyone who has been ill or hospitalized can be hard. But it's important for the person who is recovering.
Let her know that she is still your best friend and that you want to help her: That is one thing that will be very much on her mind. Certainly don't let her near drugs, if you can help it: Right now, that's about the last thing she needs.
She will probably appear frail, even scared. Try to treat her normally: That will do a lot to reassure her. Does she have any favorite stuffed toys or flowers, or anything like that? Try to bring her some.
If she's up to it- and she might not be- watch a movie together.
She probably won't be cut up, but there may be places where IVs were attached to feed her and give her medicine. Don't fret about it, but if she wants to talk about it let her. Your friend has a lot of stuff that she needs to get out.
Blessings and good luck to both of you.
2007-09-15 03:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is try to keep things as normal as possible. If you make to much of a fuss you will just keep reminding her why she did it. Be patient with her and try not to get upset with her. Let her know that you are there for her and that if she needs to talk your there to listen even if you don't have all the answers, Sometimes just having someone to listen to is the best remedy. The hospital will assign her a psychiatrist which will be a good step to sorting out her problems. I really feel for your friend as it must of been severe to make her go to those limits? I hope this has been help full?
2007-09-16 15:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by jay boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, Meghan!
It's alwaya touchy when a loved one O.D.'s and lives through it. They are usually riddled with guilt, self-loathing, fear and all sorts of scary emotions. Being near her at first will be like "walking on eggshells" so "feel out the situation" first.
Let HER do the talking while YOU listen. What she needs most now, is someone who will listen, understand and NOT JUDGE HER. You be that special someone. I promise, she will never forget it and always be grateful to you.
Let me know how this pans out,
Luv, Catnip
2007-09-17 18:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by cc64bestyet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on what she overdosed on. She may not be the girl you knew before this happened as there may be some impaired cognitive function, for example she may have trouble speaking, or moving around. I would call her mom and ask her to prepare you. That would be the best way to know if there is anything really different that you may react to.
2007-09-14 09:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by sassycat_0910 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi darling I'm sorry to hear about your friend
you need to know she will probably be different by different i mean quite
but she needs to know who her friends are in case she needs to talk
just be there for her go round with some mags or a DVD you can watch and see what happens
maybe ring her mum and ask her these question she can answer them better as she knows her daughter
but remember JUST BE HER FRIEND SHE NEEDS YOU
2007-09-14 09:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by paulette7618 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her like you normally would. Ask her if she needs anything. Don't ask her if she is ok. Just be there for her. I am sure her mother is going to get her into counseling, hopefully that will help her. Good luck!
2007-09-14 09:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to marginalise her, make her feel wanted and normal continue to maintain a stable relationship with your friend. She may be depressed and socially withdrawn but if you provide support and she should be well on the road to recovery.
2007-09-14 09:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by SHF 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just wanted my mates to be normal coz i was embarrassed bout wot i did. dont mention it coz if she wants to talk about it then she will..but do say that if at any time she needs to ava chin wag then you will be available, but dont say it if you dont mean it. and dont stop inviting her out with you shoppin etc coz then she will feel iscolated..
just go with a smile and a friendly ear and you'll be fine,
2007-09-15 11:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be depressed or at least embarrassed. Just make sure you are there for her and be a good friend.
2007-09-14 09:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by godsynthesis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋