The maid of honor from hell has not purchased her dress, attended any wedding-related functions, or even called or sent a text message. The wedding is in 3 weeks. Any suggestions?
2007-09-14 09:06:44 · 17 answers · asked by WinstonPug 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have attempted calling and texting her. A fellow bridesmaid has even called her. The only response I've received is that she's busy.
2007-09-14 09:17:34 · update #1
Wow. I can understand why you are upset. I would call her and say, "I can tell that you are really busy and probably didn't realize the commitment it was to accept being my maid of honor so I'm going to let you off the hook and have someone else do the honors. It's nothing personal but this is our big day and I don't want you to be stressed out because you obviously have been busy." Something like that. I wouldn't be rude or start a fight. It's not worth it. Concentrate on your big day. Congratulations and I hope all goes great.
2007-09-14 09:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you the truth, a truth that you may not wish to hear, but nonetheless this is what the reality is here: If you kick your maid of honor out of your wedding party or disinvite her to your wedding on the basis of nothing else but all you have in your question and background details related, I assure you of this: You will permanently lose this individual as your friend and best friend; and I feel that that is not a sacrifice that you should be making under these circumstances. Yes, I don't know this individual, but this is how I feel about the two of you: Sometimes we have someone as a friend that is not Miss Perfect but we know that what makes the friendship work in many respects is that the two of you accept each other "as is", that means pluses and minuses, flaws and virtues, weaknesses and strengths. Your friendship with this young lady is such a friendship as this, don't throw it away, stay friends forever; and try to focus on your happiness and let go of anger and resentment that could ruin your happiness as to both your wedding day and thereafter. Congrats.
2016-05-19 21:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!
I would have been on her pigtails a lot earlier than this and would have kicked her out some time ago.
Say "You haven't purchased your dress, attended any functions or even called me, since you don't seem that enthused to be in my wedding I will not be having you as my maid of honor, you can attend, but you will no longer be in the wedding party".
2007-09-14 12:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would go with Suz's approach. But given that she's not doing ANY MOH duties including returning messages, you can consider her to have removed herself from the job without bothering to inform you. I would send her a certified letter:
Dear So&So,
I understand that you are too busy to attend any wedding-related functions, purchase your dress to-date, or to return my calls, messages and emails. Therefore, I assume you have resigned from your position as maid of honor in my wedding. I will be happy to have you attend as a guest, however. No hard feelings.
Sincerely,
Bride
2007-09-15 05:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her point blank that you've asked someone else to be in your wedding and that you'd love for her to attend as a guest. If she asks why, simply explain that you need someone who is supportive and showing an interest in being a part of your wedding. Explain that everyone else has gotten their dress and participated in wedding functions, and that as it is you have not been able to get in touch with her for days.
Promote one of your other bridesmaids and/or find a replacement that can get their dress in 3 weeks.
2007-09-14 10:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just call or write her & say that you are sorry that she is having a bad life right now & to help her out you are alleviating the problem of her having to do anything for your wedding. Tell her that you will have Bridesmaid #2 stand in her place & sorry that you won't get to see her since you are scrambling to get this major glich fixed in time for the wedding.
2007-09-14 09:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by 2020 A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Text her saying you feel she is too busy to be your maid of honor and you have decided to choose someone else to be in that position and she is still invited to the wedding and you hope she can be there.
2007-09-14 11:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me i wish i knew. i had a maid of honor from hell too back in april 2006.
if your wedding is in 3 weeks, and she hasnt even bought her dress yet, chances are she doesnt want to be in your wedding.
maybe just tell her, to either get her act together or hit the road.
2007-09-14 09:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is already out to me. If she hasnt got her dress, she cant be a maid of honour. And attending the functions, while not compulsory, are half of the fun of being in the wedding. Sounds like a crappy friend if this is the case.
2007-09-14 09:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ask someone else to be the maid of honor. I doubt this girl will even show up to your wedding.
2007-09-14 11:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by sorry sista 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋