people.......and ive experienced this for a long long time, but ive tried to ignore it, but now its getting me a bit unsettled and uncomfortable.
how should i deal with it?
ive had alot of trauma in my past, so present an aloof and stand offish approach....but nothing to look at me for...plus because of my trauma i deal with alot of anger.....i'm keeping it under control, but it is hard. and i wait for therapy.
can anyone advise on this?
2007-09-14 08:35:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Humans are curious by nature, I'm sure you've heard of people watching we all do it to some degree or another. Perhaps you are just more adept at catching others at it - making eye contact just as their eyes are skimming past you. Most people are oblivious to this unless they are the ones doing the looking.
It is possible there is something in your personality that makes you just a bit more interesting. Charisma, energy - it could be many things.
Since you can't tell what people are thinking when you catch them looking, you could be jumping the gun on getting angry. Thre are plenty of times I've been lost in thought and looking off in the distance only realize that there is someone directly in my line of sight - that can make for some uncomfortable moments.
You can only control yourself not other people - now you get to decide if you wish to let this make your miserable or can get beyond it. I wish you luck as it sounds as if this is truly a trial for you.
2007-09-14 08:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by BettyBoop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just good looking? Have you ever thought of that? I get alot of the same responses and feelings and not having any self esteem I really take it to heart and I process it for hours until I take something to feel "numb". I have always been told that I look very with drawn and have a troublesome look on my face but that's probably because I'm so panicked in public that I'm trying to make sure nothing is going to happen until I'm home again... I guess that's some pretty serious anxiety... Every one has their OWN look and maybe we're just special people that keeps others wondering... Good Luck
2007-09-14 09:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by chantale 31 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes I think the same thing, but I'm convinced it is all in my head. People look at people, that's it. I always worry that I have something weird on my face, food in my teeth, a body part exposed, etc., but it's just paranoia.
Whenever you feel this again, just remind yourself that you look at people too and there is nothing unusual about most of them. Who knows? Maybe people find you attractive or interesting. Take it as a compliment!
2007-09-14 08:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by mirabelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they might be admiring you, or they are just rude. People who stare at other people have no manners,...I would just keep ignoring them and stop taking it personal...that is how people are...now if someone comes up to you and start attacking you or something, then you can just walk away from that as fast as you can also..but there are just a bunch of weirds in the world nowadays...try to take a cab when you go out, if you live in a rough area...and just don't make eye contact, I find that is the best way..I act like I never saw them..
2007-09-14 08:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the problem is that you seem to think that other people are looking at you because there is something strange about you but have you ever thought that perhaps you are just interesting? a person's outward appearance is not all that is seen by people, it is a combination of the body language they put out, their spiritual state, their general health and what they are wearing.
so just keep that in mind...personally, i dress strange but people like me because i like people... there are a few i don't understand, but most people are interesting because they are different.
2007-09-14 09:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have the same problem I do. Ppl tell me I always have a mean look on my face unless im smiling or laughing. I dont even have to be in a bad mood and ppl tell me that. try being a lil more smiley and see what happens.
2007-09-14 08:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by blue-eyez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stop being angry, you ought to accept life as you find it and stop seeking whatever it is you want, to get whatever it is you think you need, and just be here now....
When you're here now, the peace and happiness you were seeking is revealed more and more as already here, inherent to the present moment....
Be here now and you'll be healed of all misery....
Being here now long enough, you will notice problems are just a rumor that others speak of, but that you can no longer believe is real.
2007-09-14 10:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could do this...look at them until they stop looking at you. Hey..maybe YOU'RE looking at people...and they're just looking back at you. How would you know that they're looking at you if you're not looking at them? Does somebody tell you that somebody's looking at you? Or when you look at them..do they look like they've been "caught" looking at you.? Try wearing a cap down over your face and see if they still look. It happens to me too. I wanna say, "Watcha lookin' at????"...but I don't .
2007-09-14 10:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Deenie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are they real or do you feel like they are? That's the point of live, we are all unusual because we are not our father or our mother. Your past is what you are and it makes you do what you do. I am the past and the past is me.
2007-09-14 15:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
perhaps your just a bit paranoid?
2007-09-14 08:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by David 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋