How do I start on the path to "loving"myself?

Question

I am always nervous and am always in awe of people who can hold a converstation and look people in the eye.I'm overy self -conscious.Can anyone give me any helpful insight as how to love myself?

Answer 1

You already love yourself. If you didn't love yourself, you wouldn't want to improve on this or anything.

What you are, is shy.

Realize that everyone feels shy sometimes.

Answer 2

It is very important that we all increase our awareness of each other as the divine beings that we are.As souls we all come into incarnation to work out a much bigger plan than we can realize .Be aware of the fact that we all are apart of something much bigger than ourselves and we have a part in it.Love is the highest form of self realization and we must learn to love ourselves before we can love any body else.This is the way it has always been and the way it will forever be.We are all divine beings working out our own salvation with each and every incarnation until we all become Masters of Wisdom and evolve out of the human kingdom and into the kingdom of souls which is the next stage of our evolution towards greatnesss and spirituality.Within us all are the answers we are searching for .The kingdom of God is within us all and all of the great teachers down through the ages have told us so.The goal of evolution is to manifest this greatnes right here on the physical plane and to Angkor this kingdom in the world.

Answer 3

YES! I was a shy shy child. Now I have never met a stranger.
There are tricks and exercises you can do.
You should get a book that would help but I just learned by practice.
1- smile. When talking to people smile at them. Of course when appropriate.
2-Repeat back part of what that person says to you. This lets them know you are listening. IE "So you got a new car huh?"
3-Ask people about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. Men usually their jobs. Women their families. Ask about vacations etc.
4-Listen. Really Listen to people. Mirror them, if they have their arms folded you do the same.

There are so many communication tricks and methods that are now just second nature to me. Practice eye contact with strangers, at the drive through etc.

Also stop the bad self talk. Write down every night what you like about yourself, personality, wit, hair, eyes etc. DO IT.

God bless and good luck.

Answer 4

ask yourself, what in the world can they do to me, why do i fear them, why do i care what they think, why? when you answer this questions one of two things will happen, either you will understand that you can't help it, that it's just the way you are, or you will see a change neither good nor bad, but you will see the person that you are happy with compared to the one that you are not.. you will find confidence in yourself by the way you perceive yourself and looking someone in the eye is no big deal.. just be careful not to let yourself completely out for it can hurt others, but then again, someone always gets hurt. if you have any question e-mail me.. have a great weekend.

Answer 5

What are your best qualities? Before Going into a social occasion, Think about your qualities, the best things about yourself... Whatever they may be.. Only think about these things.... no negative thoughts.... And Don't look in the mirror,
you will only see flaws...... If you have to make a list of those qualities.. carry them with you and when you start feeling self-conscious, take a peek!
this really will help...

Answer 6

Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Prioritize them in order of how important they are to your self-esteem.

Then get in a quiet place and sit. Pick out one of the things you listed that you like about yourself and imagine yourself without that characteristic/quality. Really focus and imagine what you would be like without it.

Then pick out the next thing you like about yourself. Do the same thing. Do that with all of them.

Then when you get through the list, try to imagine what you would be like without any of those positive qualities/assets. Really picture who you would be without them. This part might be painful.

Then start at the bottom of the list, and start adding them back in your imagination. One by one, focus on them, on how much better you are as a person because of each of them, then "add" them back to the image you have of yourself.

When you're done and you're back at the top of the list, see if you would change the priority of any of them, i.e., would you move #3 up to #1, etc.

I've done this exercise with a number of people before, and I have rarely not make an impact on people who really do it.

I hope it helps show you what a wonderful and unique person God made you.

Answer 7

Well, you can start with looking people in the eye. It is easier than it might sound. I used to be really shy but I discovered that if I straighten up my shoulders, look people in the eye, and smile, the response is absolutely AMAZING. People really pick up on confidence. Even if you're just pretending to be confident, eventually, just because of the way others will receive you, you will start to actually feel confident. Try it!

Answer 8

Sometimes you have to reverse the "treat others as you want to be treated" idea and treat yourself as well as you treat others. Give yourself a little respect, and be patient with yourself when you make mistakes.

People have different backgrounds, education, etc., but no one is better than anyone else. Just remind yourself that you are just as valuable a person as whomever you are talking to.

Answer 9

We get more of what we focus on. So - focus on all your good points. Each day list all your achievements; list all the good things that happen; note all good things said to you about you.

All criticism or mistakes or failures are there just to teach us. However note that sometimes (a lot actually) it is the circumstances or the other person that is the problem. Then the learing is about handling not changing.

Answer 10

First, forgive yourself and anyone that has hurt you. When I am self-conscience and meeting people I focus on them entirely. I just keep asking them questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves and their life. Be genuine and kind. The more you give out the more you will like yourself.

Answer 11

Have a serious session with yourself

Why do you feel inferior to others?
They are no better than you.

They might appear more confident outside but inside they are just as insecure as you might feel

We are all human beings!