What is the proper etiquette regarding what the mother of the groom wears at the wedding? I was told that she should ask the mother of the bride what she's wearing and then coordinate from that standpoint. Are the bride's wishes or her mother's the ones to go by?
2007-09-14 08:05:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, I picked out my gown, from there my mom found her mother of the bride dress and then I told the mother of the groom color options, i left everything else up to her, you want them to be comfortable, so just give her some color ideas that will blend nice for pictures.
2007-09-14 08:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by bekaj13 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The mother of the groom should really chose her own outfit however she should consider the color scheme and the other mother. If the bridesmaids are all in purple, then she might wear lilac or a deep purple. There should be a compliment to the colors. Naturally, you don't want to wear a dress just like the other mother, but rather a complimentary tone. The bride should say Mother Jones, the bridesmaids are wearing a really light peach and my mom is wearing a dark peach so that she has an idea on what she wants to pick.
It will make for an unhappy relationship with your future family if you try to dictate what she wears.
2007-09-14 08:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An old tradition says "the mother of the groom wears beige and keeps her mouth shut." I like to think that people have a little more sensitivity to all parties involved these days.
The mother of the groom wears what she chooses. And if she is considerate, she will run it by the bride to make sure it doesn't clash with (or totally match) the dresses of anyone else in the wedding party or the mother of the bride.
2007-09-14 14:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Mother of the groom picks out her own dress. She just can't wear the same style or color as the bridesmaids, or white, or black. If the mother of the groom should wear a dress just as formal as the mother of the bride. The mother of the bride gets to choose how formal though.
The bride has absolutely no say.
2007-09-14 14:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mothers of the bride and groom should have a chat about what color they want to wear, so they dont both wear the same color. It is not up to the bride.
*The bride should only intervene in the rare circumstance where the mother says she is going to wear white or some real trashy number.
2007-09-15 02:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spoke with the mother of a groom today who told me that her future daughter-in-law not only picked out her dress but also picked out her shoes! She asked me if I had ever heard of that before. I told her that usually the bride suggests a color based on the overall scheme of the wedding and usually asks that she coordinate with the mother of the bride. In all honesty, I had never heard of such a situation and could tell that this mother was not very happy with her future DIL.
2007-09-14 13:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother of the groom chooses what the mother of the groom is going to wear! She does not wear a bridesmaid's dress, so her wardrobe is not chosen by the bride.
It is polite for her to ask the bride what the mother of the bride is going to wear, so there are not glaring color clashes in photos, but when it comes down to it, she chooses what she wants to wear, hopefully with proper taste in mind.
2007-09-14 08:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's absurd for anyone to tell an adult woman what to wear. She's a big girl, let her make her own decisions. If you're really that worried about it, maybe advise her that these are your wedding colors and this is the color the mother of the bride will be wearing but I would never tell a grown woman what to buy and wear.
2007-09-14 16:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother of the groom of course. Supposedly the bride is wearing white or some version of it. Everything goes with white. There will probably only be one or two pictures with both families in the same shot, and almost no chance that the two of you will be side by side, so I don`t see how what one person is wearing affects the picture. (If it was a work picture, would you have to co-ordinate with all your work mates)
2007-09-14 08:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by always b natural 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so the bride picks out her dress. Then she shops with her mom to pick out HER dress. Then the mother of the groom should consult with the MOB before she shops so they can make sure that their dresses coordinate with the wedding and one another. That being said, if you have some thoughts or suggestions about what the MOG should wear, tell her. For instance, I told my fiance's mom that I want her to be comfortable and not overly formal. She told me what she had in mind and asked if that would work.
If you're worried, offer to go shopping with Both moms. That way you can bond and still make sure to get a say in the final decisions.
2007-09-14 08:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋