I am getting married October 6th and send out our invitations the end of August with a reply date of September 21. As of right now I have over 50 people who have not replied. If on the 25th I still haven't heard from them, do I call them and ask them if they are coming to our reception or do I just assume that they are not and that is why they haven't send back their response card.
2007-09-14 07:18:27 · 22 answers · asked by charlie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had the same problem. I even included postage on my RSVP's.
I'd suggest calling them. We called a few and got a few phone calls the weekend before. We decided to go ahead and guess a number and the actual number of guests that showed up was much less than we had thought we would have. We had planned for 150 guests but only had 80, which in turn meant we could have had more space available for dancing, paid too much for food, had too many things left over.
It's better to call and be safe than try to guess and get it all wrong.
2007-09-14 07:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by obsolete_allurement 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good job on thinking ahead and putting a response date. Definite kudos to you. You would think this would make it easier for people wouldn't you? Unfortunately, there are always going to be those people who think the rules don't apply to them.
When the 25th comes around, make some phone calls. Be really friendly and tell them that you kind of need to now if they're coming or not. However, if there are people you can't get in touch with, scratch them from the list. You gave plenty of time for a heads up and there's no reason why some one wouldn't be able to simply drop an RSVP card into the mail by now.
2007-09-14 14:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel free to start calling them a couple of days before the 25th - it sounds like you will have a bunch of calls to make.
I had the same thing happen at my wedding - and most of the people I hadn't heard from were planning on being at the wedding. They just forgot to send the card, lost it, or otherwise spaced it out. It was the people who definitely knew they couldn't make it that were on time with the RSVP's.
Just call and say that you hadn't heard from them and you wanted to make sure that they received the invitation because you really hope they can make it. That way you don't come across sounding like a shrew who's scolding them for not sending the RSVP.
I know, it's just one more thing to add to your already full pre-wedding plate! You can have your fiance help with the calls or even a bridesmaid or maid of honor.
Good luck and Congrats - I hope you have a wonderful wedding day and happy marriage to follow!
2007-09-14 14:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mirage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call them. You don't know if you didn't get an RSVP because they're not coming, because they are coming but didn't know what RSVP meant and didn't send the card, are planning to come, but just haven't mailed the card yet, or did mail the card back but it was lost. You don't want to have a short count with the caterer to the extent where people don't get a meal. It's worth a few phone calls. And, don't worry yet. It's only the 14th!
2007-09-14 14:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married the 22nd and I am still receiving RSVPs back and I had a due date of September 1. I had about 30-40 that hadn't responded by the 1st. Call them if you are concerned about people coming or not.
2007-09-14 15:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally was told you shouldn't call. You should have you mom call her guest, his mom call there guest and bride-maid call friends. Then your guest will feel as though they can tell them the truth. With out feeling like they have to say yes because your the bride. Then back out later, then you have to still pay for there dinner and could of invited some one who would be there.
I was also told to have the bridal party call the week before to every one that has RSVP. To see if they have the map, sunglasses if outdoors etc. Then those who are planing on coming will happy your crew reminded them and those who are going to flake for some reason (some on always does) will tell your maids and maybe you can invite last min friend. Best wishes and good luck to you on your special day.
2007-09-14 14:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play guessing games. You and your helpers should start calling now and not put it off until your deadline. Since you gave people a date, you can't push them to decide sooner, but those who know whether it's accept or regret will probably be happy to be able to RSVP by phone. Obviously, these are folks you don't like filling out and mailing little cards.
A bonus of this sort of call is that a lot of folks will ask what sort of gift you might like. It would be rude to bring up the subject yourself, but it they ASK then give them a frank and candid answer.
2007-09-14 14:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never assume that people are not coming if they have not replied, you MUST call them and double check, I don't know why people find it so hard to RSVP, especially if you include the RSVP and stamps etc, it's just plain rude. You must call them, it's a pain in the neck but if you only cater for the number who have replied you could find yourself short of seats and food.
2007-09-18 12:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to get a flood of rsvp's around the 21st and up to a week afterward.
You can call the rest, or have someone else do it for you....or just count on a total of 75-80% of invited people showing up as a good rule of thumb.
2007-09-14 15:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make those phone calls. Yes, it's a pain in the @$$, but people have lost all decorum when it comes to responding anymore, so it has become the duty of the host/hostess to babysit these people and make sure.
Otherwise, you would have to ASSUME (and we BOTH know what happens THEN) that they'll be there, and when they don't show, that's a LOT of wasted food & money, or you ASSUME they're not coming and when they do, you're short seating AND food. Either way, you'd be screwed.
Better to follow up and get a firm yes or no out of these dingbats.
2007-09-14 15:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋