Was with my bf over a year other than him breaking up with me he was a wonderful bf..sweet, caring, so cute. So ex bf broke up with me once before, and called crying he wanted me back a week later..I took him back because I love him. About a month ago he broke up with me saying things were not working out. Now deja vu..all over again....he wants me back. I'm still in love with him...what would u do?
2007-09-14 07:09:59 · 34 answers · asked by nicky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said he broke up with me the first time because he 'needed space' and the second time because we faught too much..
2007-09-14 07:15:23 · update #1
He's either seriously confused or playing with you. Once he breaks up w/ you, asks you back, you go back, then he breaks up w/ you again...that would be it for me!
Why did he break up w/ you the 1'st & 2'nd time? What was the reason for his crying?
What I think? - DON'T GO BACK WITH HIM, please! Not unless you're ready for him to break up with you for the 3'rd time...GOSH....Just think about what you said, "he is sweet and caring???" If he really was sweet & caring, he would care enough about your feelings to not break up w/ you in the 1'st place-hurt your feelings, let alone the 2'nd time-hurt your feelings again. Are you ready to feel emotional pain again-3'rd time?
2007-09-14 07:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by metalgods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn and run the other way!! He's using you as a fall back gf. You are allowing him to do this to you. Take a stand and MOVE ON!! You are his "backup" and he's using you. You may still be "in love" with him but it isn't a healthy relationship. END it CLEAN and don't turn back. You deserve someone who will love you unconditionally, not "every now and then". There's a saying, "Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice or more, shame on me!" How much of an idiot do you want him to make you out to be?
BTW, he'll NEVER grow up and treat you better. Good Luck!!
2007-09-14 07:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him back, use him and abuse him then dump him really bad. That will give him a lesson. No offense but you are stupid for taking him back. You don't deserve it. Its soo much more fun being single. Trust me. I know. I was in a relationship for 3yrs and it was always about him 24/7. I never had time to go out w/friends or just do the things I enjoyed doing most. I never felt so free and omg i've met so many sexy guys. Now I only date guys who are older, have good stable jobs oh and some wear uniforms mmmm ;) Single up and mingle up!! Dump him now call up ur girlsfriends and go party somewhere. Enjoy your life.
2007-09-14 07:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by dolcezzamaria00 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you having sex with him? If so, he likely wants to come back so he can get it regularly again. You have to decide how often you want to be used or move on and tell him to take a hike.
If you are not having sex with him, then expect him to explain why you should be taking him back since you've already been there and done that. My guess is he has someone on the side.
His reasons make no sense. Does he think the fighting will lessen after being gone a week? Move on from this immature jerk.
2007-09-14 07:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in the same situation.. If he has done it once before.. he is going to do it again and again!!
I wouldn't let him back.. He is just going to keep hurting you and wanting these so called breaks..
Ive see it happening to many young girls now days.. Just find a guy that wants you for you and loves you and wont leave you when he feels like..
Good Luck
2007-09-14 07:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Old saying: Fool me once - shame on you. Fool me twice - shame on me.
He's had his chance. He blew it AGAIN!
tell this immature little boy that he was right - that things were NOT working out - and judging by his flip-flopping actions they probably NEVER WILL work out. So he can just find some other fool - cause you've wised up big time.
Honey, you deserve better.
Love has absolutely nothing to do with it. I love my ex-husband. It was the daily insults, shattered self worth, and all-too frequent hitting and punching that I couldn't live with.
2007-09-14 07:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard but dont take him back! or if you feel you cant live without him, talk to him and ask him why does he want to get back with you again, and since he said things weren't working out how sure is he this time it'll work out.
also, why did he break up with you in the first place? was it because of another girl? if so, dont give him another chance! seriously, listen to him, ask him questions and then decide.
2007-09-14 07:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Hena A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might still be in love with him, but he's being totally bi-polar with your relationship. You're worth more than an on and off again relationship. Dont take him back, no matter how hard it is.
2007-09-14 07:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not take him back in just out of pure fear that he would break up with me again. If he keeps breaking up with you there are better guys out there that will not break you every other month so to speak. It sounds also that he is just breaking up with you out of pure convenience for himself. He is not even thinking of you and you do not need that.
2007-09-14 07:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Trouble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if i had a bf like that, i would seriously ask him if he really wants to b with me. if the answer is yes; then i would test his love to c if he really wants to b with me. if the answer is no; then i would leave him and say that i needed space even though i still love him, until he really proves to me that he wants me back.
2007-09-14 07:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by caller-gurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋