Honestly, ladies. How would you feel in this situation?

Question

Honestly, now.

Would you be uncomfortable if your boyfriend/husband had breakfast with a woman that he considers a good friend?

Here's the kicker: What if you knew they had an intimate past? Now, what if she constantly gave her unasked for advice and opinions about your relationship with your boyfriend/husband?

Also, you weren't able to go to this little meeting because you have to be at work at 8:30AM and both your significant other and his friend work the night shift at their separate jobs and they get off at about the same time.

How would you feel and what would you do in this situation?

Answer 1

i'll admit, i'm a jealous girl. Not so much that i think my boyfriend does things.. but i think there are a lot of girls dying for his attention b/c he's very good looking.

that being said... i would b pi ss ed off! :) Even if they are good friends, they can wait till the three of you have a chance to go out to eat. He shouldnt be out dining with other women. Especially women he used to have an intimate past with!!! You better check ya boy hunny.

Even if this is nothing (which it could be nothing)- dont let the opportunity for 'something' arise....

Answer 2

It would be very hard to not be suspicous. Even if there is trust in a relationship there's always going to be a thought in the back of her mind is he cheating? The best advice I can give is...just be honest with him. Talk with him about it and tell him that your feeling a bit insecure about the situation. Maybe you guys can come up with some mutual agreement that would make you feel more comfortble with the situation. But communication is the key

Answer 3

I would definitly be dealing with some jealousy and trust issues.... and I wouldn't really like that girl, no matter who she was... I trust my boyfriend would never cheat on me, but you have to ask yourself if you trust your boyfriend/husband enough to never do anything to put your relationship in jepordy. Even if you do trust him, you should still tell him how you feel about this whole situation... You have to be open and able to talk about anything with your significant other. Just try not to come off defensive & mad.

Answer 4

OMG Girl! I would definitley be forward with questioning him. If he gets defensive, and tries to throw back anything in your face, just explain to him and tell him how much you love him, and it's only natural for you to worry.But make sure you make him feel guilty enough during the question so that he don't feel right in his conscience lying to you. And GIRL, if he IS doing something behind your back, HE DON"T DESERVE YOU! Move on! I know that's easier said than done, but he'd be a loser! And about getting off at the same time....HELLO! That is such a RED FLAG! Make him introduce you to her, and then make sure she knows you're not stupid, or kill her with your kindness, and make sure youre all over your man in front of her! You know how 99.9% of us women are!

Answer 5

Weeeell...it demends on wat person you are and wat persons we are. Some might be jealous some might not. If you are jealous u must not overreact! You must be calm and not attack immediately. For example do some search. What do they do at those meetings? Are they holding hands or something? Maybe they are only friends. And you will yell at him for no reason. You could send a friend that he doesn't know there to keep an eye on them. And of course if you see something intimate between them again, you should DEFENATELY talk to him...or maybe both? Talk with him now too. Say that u want him more with u and that she is kinda getting on yer nerves.

Answer 6

Well, I have to admit with the way you describe the background of the situation, I'd be jealous. You could try telling the guy something along the lines of "your relationship with her makes me uncomfortable because she seems very critical of me. I'd rather you didn't meet her when I'm not around."

Answer 7

**** THAT! I have met all 15 girls my BF has ****** and its so hard to even feel comfortable in the same room with them. Then when he goes to hang out with his friends these girls are always around cause they are part of the group! I hate it! He has even cheated on his past GF's with some of these bitches!

I totally know how you feel and would not feel comfortable at all. Maybe if there were a group of people going, otherwise, if he cared about your feelings he wouldnt go.

Answer 8

ok.... here it is..... Stop looking for ways to hate this man. Stop making him feel guitly or afraid to tell you things. You need to chill out. You are pushing him away.

My clue is that he is talking to his friend about how you make him feel. And this friend of his wants to help. She shouldn't have to. He may be playing a sympathy card on this friend, but it sounds like and by your own words, that he needs it.

If's you love the man you would have no doubt. And if he ever prooved to be unworthy then move on. This thing inbetween is just not helping either one of you. Love him or leave him. Sorry to be so bold, I hope you all the best.

Answer 9

I look at this way. I can worry myself sick about what he or she is doing behind my back, but the truth is, it will not change what they're doing or not doing. All your doing is wasting your time and energy maybe even damaging a great relationship for nothing. B/c in the end, if it's going to happen, you can't stop it.

Answer 10

I would voice my concerns to him that I am not happy about this at all. Then I would flip it around and ask him how he would feel if I was going on a lil date with someone I used to sleep with. If you are married you can tell him not to go. He might not listen but you have more rights, if your just dating then you really can't tell him what to do.