Besides a law, why is it morally wrong for a girl of this age to have intercourse with a male if their body is ready and they have a Bat Mitzvah. I mean its a celebration for becoming an adult right?
I know most of the time in their mind, its not developed enough to handle it. But I mean, they can still have it so whats the problem? I mean I believe a child should wait much longer but I mean who thought up this crazy idea? If she is ready, why wait? Sociery makes it seem like its a very bad thing for younger girls to have these types of relations EVEN if its with a boy thats a good person. I think society needs to work on keeping the children happy and safe. This does not fall under tnat catagory. My opinion.
2007-09-14 05:55:24 · 12 answers · asked by CuriousMaude 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Good Point!
2007-09-14 06:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
just because you CAN do a thing doesn't mean you SHOULD do it. the Bat/Bar Mitzvah was started when life was much shorter and becoming an adult with all the responsibilities started sooner. keeping children happy and safe includes stopping them from doing things that they are not physically or emotionally ready to do. if you have sex are you ready for the possible consequences? pregnancy and venereal disease happen to even careful people. a 12/13 yo girl's body isn't ready to carry a healthy baby to term. the chances of giving birth to a handicapped baby is much greater the younger (or older) the birthmother. you don't have long to be a kid and have a carefree life. you have a LOT longer to be an adult with all the responsibilities that go with being "grown up". don't rush it.
2007-09-14 06:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Let's put aside the obvious reasons why a 12/13 yo girl should not have sex: the law, emotional issues, and society's own view.
Biologically, even though the young girl's body has started menstruating, her body is preparing itself for childbirth. However, having a child at this age would be extremely risky for the young body. Both mother and baby have a greater chance of birth defects or worse. The girl's body becomes more prepared for childbirth when she is around 14/15 years old. But the best time for a girl to have children is between the ages of 16-24. These are the years when mother has a greater chance of a healthy pregnancy and the baby has a greater chance of survival. After the age of 25, the body starts getting older and after the age of 30, the baby has a greater risk of birth defects.
Of course nowadays, many other factors come into play for both mother and baby and their chances for survival.
I hope this answers your question.
2007-09-14 06:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Rubette73 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Even interior the shuls that permit a woman to be bat Mitzvah at age 12, (the youngest), the girl could be 12 in the previous the ceremony. i'd change shuls to a minimum of one with a real rabbi. Or i'd make useful he did no longer get a clean settlement, no longer less than. you have the best to try this YOUR way...(I bumped right into a pair of problems with my rabbi, too. I virtually fired him from the Bar Mitzvah because of the fact of his physique of recommendations). in order that which you comprehend...there is not any reason a rabbi could officiate. in case you do no longer purely like the way your shul is doing issues, you may elect yet another venue, and locate ANY grownup (even then, provided which you elect) to be the officiant. we've 2 or 3 back-ups (our rabbi is barely section-time, and all and sundry has the best to elect whomever) that are waiting to run the provider in an exact and formal way...for useful, Rabbi has the main adventure, yet he's kinda a blow-complicated, and did no longer choose me to invite the singers of my determination! (He additionally had a pair of words to assert approximately my mom doing the tuition...because, you comprehend, that's what she does at HER shul...which, btw, is the place i advance into Bat Mitzvah, besides!!) A Bat Mitzvah is as real as a Bar Mitzvah...a woman comes of age, purely as a guy does. She should not be predicted to have her ceremony until eventually she is 12 or older (13, if it somewhat is the custom on your shul...the two is fantastic) I had mine each and every week in the previous my birthday, and my sister did hers 3 weeks in the previous, yet that advance into my mom's determination, based on the time of 365 days, and snow storms/commute. do no longer enable your rabbi have that plenty administration...or he will take over each and every thing.
2016-10-04 13:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sex is more than a physical act. A 12 year old girl is not able to accept the responsibilities that come with having children, or the emotional ramifications of having sex at this age. Their minds are not developed enough to make a truly informed decision and they do not have the life experience to know who is in fact a good person.
2007-09-14 06:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by DoulaKaren 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Sex is more than intercourse. When you have sex it effects you emotionally, physically, and mentally. A girl that young can not fully understand the responsibilities that come with having sex. And there are also a lot of consequences that come with having sex. People say to wait for marriage or a exclusive loving relationship for a reason.
2007-09-14 06:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a lot of hyprocisy in society. For instance 12 year olds getting tried for murder as adults, but at 12 you cant legally drive a car. Similarily for buying alcohol vs going to war at 18. Similarily for girls who "mature earlier" at 12, but cant make birth control decisions in their late teens. Thats just the way it is, try to change it if you're unhappy.
2007-09-14 06:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by lillilou 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think they should wait because its to many disease going around and young people is caughting it fast I'm not saying its bad but just wait until you both know what you are doing and not just saying you ready
2007-09-14 06:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Pri6kitty 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been to Israel, for a bat-mitzvah. They do get to have sex. Because at 13, they're an adult. They could get married. If possiblee.
2007-09-14 06:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Miss M 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Your Too Damn Young Thats Why
2007-09-14 06:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by AmanDa B 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
it's just another way of keeping women oppressed. it should be done, but as usual, the male child is held to a higher standard.
2007-09-15 00:25:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋