2007-09-14 05:42:04 · 5 answers · asked by Brian D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you're turned down, how do you return to the boss/employee relationship without running the risk of harassment allegations? What if, for instance, a year from now you're required to fire this person? Will asking them out come back to bite you?
2007-09-14 05:53:13 · update #1
It's a bad idea- on many levels, so I wouldn't. If she says yes, or no- either way, bad feelings can linger for ages. We have 2 people in my office who dated briefly 3 yrs ago. He dumped her. They have both gone on to marry other people, supposedly happily, but tensions/pettiness still prevails. He is 52 and she is 41 so age doesn't mattere.
2007-09-14 05:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never ask out a subordinate, ESPECIALLY if he/she is in your chain of command. It is okay to ask out a peer (and okay, but not likely to ask out a superior), but not a subordinate.
Even if he/she works for someone else, he/she may work for you some day.
Overall, it is just a bad idea. Don't do it. It doesn't matter if everyone else is doing it. Of all the people I know, most did not meet their spouses at work. Those who did were, for the most part, at the same place on the totem pole. I only know one guy who married his secretary.
2007-09-14 12:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is totally inappropriate for you to ask out a subordinate. In addition, it may create a situation that may backfire on you in the future. Don't do it.
2007-09-14 12:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by cmd0622 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say no.
Ever hear the expression "Never sh*t where you eat?"
2007-09-14 13:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't because you can't. Bad idea.
2007-09-18 11:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋