failed at life.?

Question

I have troubles and i dont know how to resolve them.. im 20 years old, over weight, live with my dad.( mom died at when i was 13) theres 2 main problems, one is i cant get a job.. i apply and apply but i never get hired. i never get called for a second interview. so im have no money and my dad isnt happy about me not working.. and saying i owe him money for living at home and for using the internet.. i used my last 500 i had to pay off cox cable bill for him that hasnt been paid in months. 2. my weight.. im over weight and constantly im reminded of that from my dad the constant yelling and name calling.. i just take it all in, and every few months or so.. i explode yelling back ea time worse then the last. last few times i remember being emotionaly unstable were at halloween, then another time around may. this time i ran to the bathroom and closed the door while my dad tried to force his way in. since he couldnt get in he destoryed my room. computer was in shambles and so much more..

Answer 1

first...failure is an event, NOT a condition.
second..you are old enough. Move out of there asap
third..NO ONE gets a job on only one application. It takes weeks/months to land a position that's worth anything
fourth...get yourself over to the local McDonalds, Wendy's, Taco Bell, etc..any fast food place and flip burgers. It isn't much but it's money.
fifth..quit feeling sorry for yourself. Instead, use that time to change the things that you do not like.
sixth...keep looking for a good job while you are at the foodies. You get work FROM work.

Answer 2

Aw, I'm so sorry. First you have to remember that you don't deserve to be treated this way then maybe see a counsellor and dietitian.
The dietitian will help you with a food plan but it's pretty basic thing to follow but it can be hard when you have issues and are emotionally unstable so the counselling is important.
Just try to stick to eating 3 square meals a day. Make sure you get some cereal (not some sugary cereal either) for breakfast, a sandwich with some salad for lunch and a meal with vegetables for dinner. Then fill in fruit and nuts and yoghurt for snacks. It's pretty simple once you get into the routine. Oh and exercise. That is also a good thing to do because it improves your mood and make sure it's something you like, better than pumping weights at the gym!
And then keep applying for jobs, don't give up, there's sure to be something around somewhere. And, maybe even do some sort of course or something to boost up your resume.
Good luck, you'll get through.

Answer 3

First off, you can't get healthy in an unhealthy environment. So, if you have friends that you could room mate with until you get a job, that would be great as a start! Abuse, especially emotional abuse... won't give you the emotional/mental shot you need to get over your weight problems. Obesity isn't just a physical issue--its based in genetics AND in mental/emotional states of being and self-esteem. So, if you don't handle the root issues FIRST--no amount of weight loss success you gain for yourself will help because you will still have the issues that kept you piling on the pounds anyway.

As for work--have you considered going for a job that is phone related, such as a call center? Many people find overweight people intimidating in person, so the more you can do to help people not feel intimidated by your size, the more you can do to get them feeling like they want to help you.

Also, have you considered going back to school? There are MANY MANY programs that you could take online classes with full financial aid--this would gain you some kind of income for a bit and would also get you a degree that makes you more marketable in the workforce! You don't even have to get out of the house, but I feel that getting out to classes that help you build your future might be a real help--especially because your Dad will see you actually DOING something with yourself other than sitting about feeling sorry for yourself and your circumstance.

Believe me, I know how hard it is to keep going when you feel defeated--but the way to get over defeat is to make a success for yourself. And sometimes just getting up and taking a walk IS a success when you're stuck in a rut that doesn't move. Just remember, you CAN do it! You CAN be a success--its just a matter of finding the path through the thorny woods you're stuck in now! So... grab a preverbial machette and get to work on those vines of self doubt that have you so tied up you aren't moving anymore. You CAN DO IT!

Good luck!

Answer 4

There is no way you are a failure, and you're only twenty years old! You have a long way to go and have so much potential. I suggest you live with a good friend or relative temporarily to cool things off with your dad. As for applying for jobs, yes it is tough going on a job hunt these days but don't give up hope. Everyone have challenges in life and there will come a time when our faith get tested-- take the cicrumstances you're facing right now into a opportunity to try do your best in life.

To make yourself feel better, how about registering at a college and take up a major that you're interested in. Most colleges have a work-study program (you get paid), and apply for a job at the school's office, library or bookstore, while taking courses. Also it's best to surround yourself with positive people and try to maintain a positive energy so good things will come to you. To deal with being overweight, work out a gym or get on a diet/fitness regime to get yourself in shape.

More importantly, you and your dad seriously need to talk regarding issues with each other or go to a counselor to help strengthen the relationship. Remember family is important so please don't give up hope on him.

Right now just take things step by step and it is a guarantee everything will work out the way it should.

I hope things goes well for you.

Answer 5

You are 20 and you have failed at life?

Imagine looking back on your life on the day before you die, sometime very far into the future, and see that you have been successful doing what you always wanted to accomplish.

That is the goal you want for yourself. Focus on this more hopeful target for your life.

Now starting today, make getting a job your job.

Challenge yourself. Send out ten resumes with covering letters every day. Out of that, make it your goal to get at least one or two interviews every 2 weeks.

And keep that up until you actually find a job.

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Answer 6

YOU HAVE NOT FAILED AT LIFE!! You are still alive, but have made choices in eating that do not agree with your health or looks, weightwise. Try going on a SERIOUS regiment of exercise. Also, you could go to a trade school. A lot of times they will help you find employment doing what you learned. If you take these steps, and start thinking positively about yourself, things will go better.

Exercise
Eat right
Go to school
Don't stop looking for a job. They are out there! You just gotta be persistant!

Answer 7

at 20 you are far to young to say you have failed at life, there is so much more to live. I can understand you difficulties, and I can understand your dad's feelings too. I suggest that you need to set some goals and then do whatever you have to to attain them. Perhaps, lose 50 pounds, or go to college, or do something to improve your employability. Take classes on how to fill out a resume, on how to act in an interview. Just sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself will get you no where.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like you grew up in less then ideal circumstances and fees pretty stuck. since you are 20, and i assume you finished highschool, go and give job corps a call and see what they can do for you and if you qualify for their program. It probably holds you back that you had no job training. Job corps would get you out of the house, pay you weekly spending money, give you job training and help you get a job afterwards. A call and asking wht they have doesnt cost you a thing and you may find the program to your liking.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

dear friend , dont be too thinking about it about ur weight be confidence do exercise , u can do light cardio boxing for burning your fat faster . and also do a litlle bit diet. I believe u can loss ur weight soon...