I'm trying to decide if i should have my rehersal dinner at red lobster or at applebees. Which one is better, and who gets invited to the rehersal dinner?
2007-09-14 05:28:50 · 26 answers · asked by Ethan's Mama 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance and I are paying for the rehersal dinner and the whole wedding and honeymoon. we can only afford eigther red lobster or applebees. we are already paying $115 per head for 200 guest at the wedding reception so we dont want to spend anymore money that we can save.
2007-09-14 05:57:02 · update #1
Whoever is in the wedding and your parents, sometimes the officiant, your immediate family if you want, it's up to you from there. You can have the dinner anywhere you please, usually the nicer the better.
2007-09-14 05:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by ETicket 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi. Personally, I like Red Lobster better. At Applebees I don't think you could all sit together. At Red Lobster, they can move tables together so that you can all be together. Also, Applebees is loud....they have TVs going, people singing for birthdays, etc. Too loud.
The rehearsal dinner invitees:
All those that are IN the wedding. Bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearer.
Then.....if a bridesmaid or groomsman is married, engaged, or living with someone.....those people should also be invited.
Also....if you have a flower girl or ring bearer....the parents of those children need to be invited.
The pastor/priest/minister is usually invited. I have never been to one where they actually came though. I disagree with some others who posted....you don't need to invite any singers, organists, instrumentalists, etc. unless they are real close friends.
Of course, the parents of both the bride and groom are invited.
Then....and only if you want, any out of town FAMILY that are coming in. This is not mandatory....it is optional.
Good luck!
2007-09-14 06:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite both your parents and your bridal party members. The rehearsal dinner is generally exactly what it says, anyone participating in the actual ceremony, attends a dinner after the rehearsal.
At one time I would have only recommended Applebee's. However, the Red Lobster in our area was recently greatly improved. Probably because they're next door to each other and Red Lobster had to get better or fold.
Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding!
2007-09-14 05:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehersal dinner if for close family and the bridal party and groomsmen, and the officiant, if you like. Anyone who is going to contribute to your wedding day in a special way.
Who is paying for the dinner? Traditionally it is the grooms family who pays. If this is the case, it would be appropriate to discuss this with his parents, or have him discuss it with them. If you are paying for it yourself you have a few more options of inviting whomever you would like but don't forget key people who are contributing to the event, i.e.,flower girls and ring bearers family, bridesmaids, maid of honor, your parents, etc.
I would think Applebee's would be a great choice as it is nice enough and has more variety than Red Lobster.
2007-09-14 05:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mystic Renegade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite anyone directly involved in the wedding ceremony and your immediate family members. You also might want to invite the officiant. I've been to some rehearsal dinners where all out-of-town guests were invited, but that is certainly not expected so don't be afraid to keep it smaller.
I'd go with Applebees...we went the casual route at a BBQ restaurant for ours and it was a blast!
2007-09-14 05:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Moorelove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People in the wedding party should be at the rehearsal dinner. I haven't read anything on it that's just my own thoughts on the matter. I imagine Applebees would have a little more variety food wise so I would suggest going with them.
2007-09-14 06:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only people who you need to invite to the rehearsal dinner are the people who are in the wedding party and the person performing the ceremony. Parents traditionally come too, but then parents traditionally pay! :) You don't have to invite spouses if you don't want to, but I recomment parents of flower girls/ring bearers for obvious reasons!
Check out the knot.com. They helped me alot at my wedding!
ps
I pick applebees! More fun!
2007-09-14 06:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either place is fine for your rehearsal dinner. I had my rehearsal dinner at a social club and just ordered 6ft heroes and salads and we had some beers and wine. It suited my budget completely since we had sunk so much into the wedding and could not afford to pay for many people for a sit down dinner.
You usually invite the attendants in the wedding party as well as the bride & groom's parents.
Good Luck!
2007-09-14 05:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by starryeyes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well here is what were are doing like you we are paying for everything for wedding as well. So we are on a tight budget as well. So we are having our rehearsal at our location and inviting every one back to our house after wards where they can bring there guest and there kids, grandparents and all out of townees are welcomed.
We are having several kinds of different pasta sauce. Meat sauce, shrimp Alfredo, tomato basil,(will have ready in crock pots), bow tie pasta and angle hair pasta pre-cooked and waiting. Were all so going to pick up bread sticks and salad from olive garden on the way home.
It is cheaper and everyone can come and enjoy. Plus then you don't have to dress up and can have fun. Best wishes to you on you special day.
2007-09-14 06:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red Lobster is better. Usually the people that are invited to the rehearsal dinner are the ones in the wedding. Most of the time they bring there bf/gf, husband/wife and even kids.
2007-09-14 05:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Usually parents of the bride and groom. Those that are in the wedding party, of course. But, it can get complicated if you have some family members that are not a part of the wedding party, but want to come to the rehearsal dinner. They should really understand because it is a REHEARSAL DINNER, ans if they aren't part of the wedding party, they have nothing to rehearse.
2007-09-14 05:36:38 · answer #11 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋