still has not bought me a ring and i dont know why it may be money problems or something else. what do u think? He says he does want to marry me but why has he not given me a ring? I love him very much and we have already set a date and i have started planning the wedding as in decorations and dresses and so forth...but i dont want to get all worked up for nothing. ur opinion please and no sarcastic ones please i can handle the truth but do it politely please. thanks for ur time.
2007-09-14 05:20:48 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is probably just money problems. If he did not want to marry you, he would not have asked nor would he have let you keep on planning and decide on a date with you. Maybe you should talk to him. Tell him that you want to marry him, but that you would like to have an engagement ring on your finger. If you two truely love eachother then the size and cost of a ring would not matter, and maybe the two of you could agree to just have a simple plain ring for right now, until he can afford a better one. Something on your finger is better than nothing, and then you will know that he does want to marry you. Tell him that it would not matter to you if all he could afford to get you right now is a 20 dollar ring from walmart, as long as he loves you. And if there are some money problems, you might want to have a fairly long engagement so that you can slowly buy things for the wedding and save up some money for the more expensive things you will need. That will save some possiable problems in the future of him being worried over where he will get the money to pay for the wedding.
2007-09-14 05:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's more to an engagement than a ring. I know that you feel that it is important, but in the long run, what would mean more to you..a ring or a good solid marriage with a man that loves and respects you and works together with you to have a nice home and a wonderful life.
There are many reasons that a man does not give an engagement ring aside from financial issues. Maybe it's not a tradition in his family, or it's against his religious beliefs, or not part of his cultural heritage.
Or he may be simply waiting until you all pick out a wedding ring set and will buy your engagement ring and wedding ring at the same time.
When it comes down to it, the ring that is given to you when you say your "I Do's" is the only one that will matter in the end. That's the only one that is a tradition in nearly all religions, cultures and families.
Good luck and congratulations...
2007-09-14 05:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by simmychick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It maybe money problems. Or he may not know what style of ring you like. Try casually dropping hints like when you are walking thru the mall and pass a jewelry store. Say something like "oh honey look, thats the kind of ring i would like. I like where the stones are placed but I would want a different type of metal." Perhaps you could gently approcah the subject with him as to why he hasn't gotten you a ring yet. "Honey, I love you very much and I was just wondering if there was any probelms getting an engagment ring for me." But don't sound pushy or else you might scare him. Just a few suggestions. Good luck and congrats on the engagment. My fiancee and I have been engaged since June.
2007-09-14 07:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him directly what you two are going to do about a ring? Tell him you feel silly planning a wedding and telling peole you are engaged because they want to see the ring!
Maybe he is fearful that he can't buy you a really nice ring and so is intimidated to even try it. It might take the heat off of him if you let him know that you would be happy with a simple, less expensive engagement ring for now, with the possibility of upgrading it later in your marriage. Get a magazine with rings in it and sit down and go through it with him. You do some kind of a ring, even if only a simple gold band and small diamond chip. The ring isn't the issue here, the issue is that he needs to think things through a bit better and have a plan. Maybe he does. Ask him.
2007-09-14 05:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mystic Renegade 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I never got a ring when I got "engaged" . Simply, we just started to plan a wedding and the commitment was implied. Yes, we got married.
My suggestion to you is to buy a bridal set that has both an engagement ring and a wedding ring and have then both on your wedding date. Go pick the set with your fiance, and that way you have the peace of mind that the rings will match and that they are of your liking.
Congratulations and good luck
2007-09-14 08:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Correct me if I am wrong but it seems you feel the need to have a ring as security to assure he really wants to marry you. If you are having doubts, you should ask him. There could be any number of reasons that he hasn't gotten you a ring - only he knows.
A ring is a promise but even if you have it promises get broken. My sister got engaged (with ring) planned and payed for everything but whenever it got close her fiance kept postponing the wedding. She is still with him (insert eye roll here) but they are not married. I'm not telling you this story to be sarcastic or scare you. Just to tell you that if you are having doubts about his sincerity, talk to him now because getting worked up for nothing is hurtful.
2007-09-14 05:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's asked you, seems genuinely happy about getting married and you guys have been planning already -
then I don't think there's a need to worry.
There's a ton of explanations, the first one being that he may not think a ring is necessary.
He may have ordered one and it hasn't arrived yet or he really may not have the money.
You could playfully ask him.. something like "soooo... when are you going to make this official and put a ring on my finger mister?"
Ask him - just be sure you're not sounding worried or accusing - just curious.
Good luck - I'm sure everything will be just fine!
2007-09-14 05:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by xajide 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him? You guys are getting married, for crying out loud. You should be able to talk to him about a ring. If he has money problems, this is the time you found out about them - his "money problems" will affect you when you're married. Suggest going ring shopping together this weekend. Maybe he's just very busy. All you have to do is ask.
2007-09-14 05:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
UMM> By planning the wedding, that requires money deposit. So, he does want to marry u. Ring, maybe he's going to surprise u. My girlfriend was engage with no ring for 8 - 9 months, and they keep continuing with the wedding. 2 months before the wedding he had surprise, her. So give him the benefit of the doubt. If there is deposit on the cake, church, then u know. If u guys are just talking about it, with money deposit on anything, then u know.
2007-09-14 05:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by camille 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi. Talk with him and ask him. Could it be a couple of things?
1. Probably money issues AND
2. Maybe he is thinking of just wedding bands for the two of you? Lots of people I know do this. They don't have an engagement ring, per se....they just go with a wedding band. There are lots of nice ones out there. Look on this link and good luck! Happy planning!
http://www.bluenile.com/product_catalog.asp?catid=126&oid1=4428&track=row_mod4&elem=miniheroHdr
2007-09-14 05:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋