evicted due to unpaid lgts & gas bills. A lot of people don't like her because she beg. Exp: free bus ride by ask the driver, want rides from people without having gas money,one of neighbor got mad at her she told me she was on the phone for hrs at her place, she even ask me did I cook anything for dinner,do I have any change,going to the rental office making copies, microwave. The mgr put a stop to it. Some of it I observe myself. A lot of the neighbors told me. She don't go to nobody bldg unless she want something. I had a feeling she is using people & me. 2 wks ago she visit me but later she ask me can I help her carry her clothes to the laundry (walk 3 blks up the hill). I told her I couldn't do it. I had a infant child 4mths even though his dad was over he had to go back to work. He don't like her & told me she like to use the Bible to manipulate.
She was fill out job ap. yester.. & gave me 2 to fill out. I'm about to job search. Is it wrong
for me to not deal c her no more?
2007-09-14 05:18:11 · 11 answers · asked by tasha 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She sounds like a parasite living off of other people. If I was you:
Don't answer the door to her.
If you can't avoid her try saying sorry you can't come in because I'm about to have a bath . If you keep making excuses she may get the hint. If she doesn't just be blunt and tell her to leave you alone as you have a family to support and you can't afford to look after her as well.
Good luck!
2007-09-22 01:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true Christian wold not impose themselves on people like that. The bible tells us that it is good to work, idle hands are the work of the devil.
It seems this woman is taking advantage of your community's hospitality.
Rather than getting mad at her, compile a list of organizations (religious and government) that can help her in her needy times.
1. Her local church
2. Local welfare office
3. Salvation Army soup kitchen
4. The Red Cross etc.
Give her this card the next time she asks for help and state to her that as an individual you are not equipped to give her the kind of help she is looking for, but these resources may help her.
Tell her to contact the local churches in the area as they may have a food bank that could supply food to her.
Ask a pastor to visit her and pray with her.
If she really needs help, she will get help. If she is just mooching off the community for a free ride, then stop the help so she can start helping herself. Too much help makes a person lazy, but point her in the right direction and she will be on her way.
The saying goes; "Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish and he eats for the rest of his life."
2007-09-21 08:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by blogdog123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question and I understand your feelings, but you left out a few things... Does she have a mental illness? Is she a drug user?
If you work with her she will get a ride with you to work everday. She will borrow your money and ask you to cover for her while she takes extra long breaks. My advice would be to LOVE HER FROM A DISTANCE. Keep her in Prayer, be nice, smile, but never let anyone use you, but dont be down on her because you never know when you may need her...
By the way the ref to two edge sword means ...
The word of God cuts the person preaching it and saying it.
for instance I cant preach to you without following the same rules my self or being convicted for the rules I have broke and told you not to. 2edge sword it cuts coming in and going out.
2007-09-21 10:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by staymay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the phone number for Health and Human Services, The Red Cross, Salvation Army, and the handy bus.
Quite frankly if I were in your position, I would tell her that I have enough of my own problems to deal with and to call her family or her preacher if she was in need.
2007-09-21 11:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by tomainetilly2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in helping others in need and loving them as though they were angels in disguise. However it gets to the point sometimes when we begin to enable them which really allows them to be disabled. In Al anon we are taught to detach with love. That means to no longer enable them, but to stop doing it while still loving them. At times we make it easy for someone to no longer take care of themselves in ways that they could. Doing for her, when she can do for herself is enabling her to continue in this destructive way. I'm not saying don't deal with her anymore, I'm saying, be a true friend and keep telling her no. Tell her what I just told you. It won't hurt and it may do some good! Let me know how this turns out if you don't mind.
Blessed Be
btw I'm 50 too. She needs to do for herself and stop conning others just because of her age. No offense meant, just calling it as I see it.
2007-09-22 02:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. There is nothing wrong with helping someone out once in a while. Gee Whiz we all need help from time to time. There has to be a limit though. Especially if the other person is a healthy able bodied adult.
2007-09-22 04:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Wilma S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs prayer, When she comes around ask her if she goes to church and if she would like for you to pray for her, If they are not really in need they don't want to talk about Jesus because he convicts their heart and makes them feel guilty. The name of Jesus is sharper than any two edged sword, it cuts all the way to the bone. Good Luck!!
2007-09-21 05:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure looks and sounds a lot like a troll post.
In the SLIM chance that it isn't...wow! Had to read thru all of that "almost English" to find the "question".
No, it's not "wrong for [you] to not deal c her no more".
2007-09-14 05:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to deal with her gently and give her what you said to us to her, I am sure she should hear it all intead of us.
Bring her glass of water and some oxygen and tell her to go home.
2007-09-21 18:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a pest.
2007-09-20 08:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋