Why Do Women Fight You Off For Sex?

Question

At first, then try to tear you apart once you are between the sheets? It seems so dishonest. If
you want it from a guy all along you should not play
games. It has happened to me a number of times. Why do women do this?

Answer 1

Maybe you are too aggressive. It's called rape.

Answer 2

"Fighting you off" doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't want sex. It might mean that she doesn't think it's the right time, even if she is turned on. I think that studies have proven that, b/c of testosterone, men are more likely than women to pursue sex without an interest in the person or the type of relationship a woman might want.

So, many women who want more than sexual encounters have learned that it's prudent not to become sexually involved with a guy until he demonstrates similar relationship goals, values, interests, etc.

Following the same type of reasoning, I wouldn't assume that, b/c some women who initially resist later give in to their sexual urges, that it will be the same with others who first say "no." In fact, if a woman says "no" but still needs to "fight you off," it sounds like you might be using pressure and coercion to get a woman to give in and have sex. Some younger women in particular, will give in just to escape the pressure, not b/c it would have been her preference even, again, if she is very turned on.

Finally, you might actually be contributing to that very dynamic about which you express frustration. Possibly, some women respond as you describe b/c it's the traditional "dance" between some men and women. Maybe if you back off and let her pursue you a bit, you would not only be met with less resistance, but you would empower women to feel comfortable expressing sexual desires. Food for thought.

PEACE

Answer 3

Well, speaking form a woman's point of view. I know why I did. A few reasons.
1. Fear and trust issues
2. Did not want to look like or be thought of as slut. Guys are players, girls are sluts (not fair)
3 For the most part was raised to be good girl, old fashioned, fight off the urges- you know, morals, ethics, values
4. Once known if potential for relationship- then the rules of society don't apply anymore.
5. Being too eager, does that not indicate to a man that it is all about the sex thing? Visa Versa.
6.Guys hard wired for it, girls need connection for the most part. It then comes back around like a circle. Meet emotional needs, reciprocates intimacy.

Answer 4

its simple survival instinct. females are geneticly programed to be hesitant towards having sex with a man they are not fully trusting of.

we have not evolved in the past 5000 years as a species, and 5000 years ago if a woman became pregnant without the support of a man her and her child would not be able to support them selfs and possibly die.

on the flip side, men where programmed to impregnate as many females as the could to ensure more offspring and greater success in the species survival.

thats why females are hesitate toward sex, that and they are socially driven, many things they do are done to help them increase there social status, and being all over a man around her friends or others in her eyes makes her a slut, thus lowering her status.

thats my 2 bits anyway

Answer 5

Have you ever heard "why buy the cow when the milk is free". Many women will not act out their desires the first time they meet a guy, they do not want to seem easy, or lose out when the guy is only out for sex. Maybe you sound think more about what the woman really wants and it could be not just sex. Plus things are different in public than they are in the bedroom. Do not assume every woman who does this, is only out to have sex with you. It almost sounds like you think you are so hot that every woman just wants to jump you, when in reality, it could be many just don't want to have sex the first night, or they are truly not interested at the moment.

Answer 6

From what I have experienced sex is not just sex to most women. It's not that simple. There's gotta be trust, an emotional connection, a commitment level of some sort, an assurance that you won't kiss and tell or in some cases an assurance that you will kiss and tell... blah, blah, blah.

Answer 7

sounds like you should learn a little more about the differences in sexuality between women and men... men have a organ that erects and they just want to stick it in something... while women have something it can be stuck in, but unless put in the mood, we don't generally feel the need to have the hole filled.... soooo... to put simply, we may be ok with the idea of having our hole filled initially... but when romanced or played with... we NEED our hole filled!! good luck!!

Answer 8

Part of the game my friend.

A lot of girls find it more exhiliarating to "finally" have something. They're under the impression that "if it takes no effort to get, it's probably not worth having".

Answer 9

Maybe it has to do with the type of women you are with, try going out with a different type and might I also suggest talking to them about it and not strangers. :)

Answer 10

its called The thrill of the hunt or chase or whatever you call it.
ya dont fast forward a movie to see how it ends do you? no, ya gotta go thru the whole thing to find out how it ends.

Answer 11

It sounds like you're implying that because of a previous experience, you believe that even when a woman "fights you off" she really does want to have sex with you. That is a very dangerous assumption.