I like to play golf and have been since high school. (I'm currently 24) My boyfriend doesn't care for it, and I would like him to, but I can deal with it. He said sometime he might try to learn and go with me, but doesn't seem to be really happy about it. SO.. I have other friends ( male friends) that play. My boyfriend (of 2 years) gets really jealous and hates that I go golfing with male friends. So.. I haven't gone golfing with them in awhile because it will just start up a fight. But I would really like to have someone to golf with!!!
What am I to do?? Not many women golf, men mostly do. I tried to get my girlfriends to go but their not very interested.
2007-09-14 04:23:18 · 25 answers · asked by K.D. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you're going for a walk, and that you'd like him to come along.
Take the golf clubs along on the walk on the course.
Maybe walking along with you as you play will spark interest in the game for him.
Hire him as your caddy.
Have fun
2007-09-14 04:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure their are things your boyfriend wants you to do but you don't like to! Why don't you use that as an example while asking him to play golf with you.
If it's a passion to you he should understand your love of the game and want to share the insight that you see in it!
he may be worried that he isn't going to be very good and you are going to show him up. Men and their bruised egos when a girl is better than them at something, especially sport!
Tell him you will teach him, not laugh or make fun.
Give him some lessons for his birthday! Or ask him if he would want a few lessons to get the right swing etc and then play with you so he won't feel as down when you beat him!
Say that you would love to play golf with him, no one else, and explain how much it would mean to you!
Happy golfing!!
2007-09-14 11:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think having a hobby or a physical activity is healthy for all of us, and you shouldn't have to give it up because your boyfriend doesn't enjoy it. He also needs to understand that half of the people in the world are male, and you are going to have male friends in life. You two will have to work out a compromise, you get to golf twice a month, and he gets to do something he likes twice a month. You get the idea. And you both have to agree that there is no getting mad about what the other chooses to do.
2007-09-14 11:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there are other things that the two of you can share. Don't make a big deal out of your bf not wanting to participate. OTOH, your bf needs to grow up and accept that you are just playing golf with some buddies (and they happen to be male).
You may have to re-assure him that this is just a golf outing and nothing more (we men like to be re-assured).
If need be, drag him along one day so that he can see that it is nothing more than your love of the game. It would help to compare your liking golf to one of the things that he like to do.
Best,
PoetExcelsior
2007-09-14 11:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by poet_excelsior 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't like it, then learn to play. You are just playing Golf. Tell him to get over it. If he is that insecure over playin g a game of golf, then you need a new man. Jealousy is a wasted and useless emotion. BTW, do you want to play golf. Just got some new golf shoes and they need to be broken in.
2007-09-14 11:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cup of Joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband plays golf, and I don't, but I really enjoy going with him once in a while. I think that I slow him down when I go, but he appreciates my effort. Maybe compromise with your hubby- if he goes and plays with you, you will do something he likes to do. As for the jealousy thing, he is just being silly. I am sure that every activity he enjoys isn't strictly male-oriented.
2007-09-14 11:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kristi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love of golf will last a lifetime -- and your love this guy will last only as long as it takes for you to realize, that he's a sh*thead.
His angle is, that you can't take care of yourself -- and that you're gullible and will be "taken" by some man, soon. Or, that you'd meet a rich guy or a rich man's playboy son, etc. etc. This is harmless -- as long as you know most guys want to see you naked & take advantage of you .. you can cope.
Join a golf club, there's women to golf with there... You should find a person to golf with (females or males), and tell your boyfriend he either plays with you... or, stops his nonsense. If you let him control you on this, your life will never get better -- believe me.
2007-09-14 11:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I'd tell him, look, you didn't want to take up golfing as a thing we do together, so I'm doing it with people who would like to do it with me. If you're that concerned about what I'm doing with these guys when we golf together, than maybe you should come alone. Otherwise, he has no room to get jealous.
2007-09-14 11:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what, I like a clean house and my wife doesn't. I hope you can take a little constructive criticism. I think that you're using this fact that you can play golf and your boyfriend doesn't as a sort of power trip. Not every guy does golf. I've never had a desire to golf. I don't like shopping either, but I wouldn't get offended if my wife found a guy to go shopping with.
You need to get over yourself and learn that there is more to life and relationships than trying to prove how inept your boyfriend is because he can't play golf.
2007-09-14 11:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Go golf with your friends and enjoy the time out. I love baseball and my husband hates it. When the season starts up he knows that if there is a home game that I will be at the park with my friends. He is always welcome to join us but he usually doesn't and it is good for us. He does something with the kids or we get a sitter and he goes out with the guys. Don't let him take away things you like just because he doesn't like it.
2007-09-14 11:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by justagirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋