I am trying to get some opinions on this matter, because I'm a lil perplexed. I met this guy back in '05, we had a relationship (mostly casual) that lasted until he had to moved back to his hometown for a job & to be closer to his family. That was 1 yr ago this month. After he left, we continued contact, but I was doing more of the contacting, whereas sometimes he didn't answer the phone or whatever. Then he called me one day & told me he met a girl, I was happy for him because we were just friends when we left, but I had feelings for him & I believe he knew. So I stopped contact w/him, which probably seemed odd to him. Then after 4 months, he called me, said he broke up w/his gf, said she wasn't as cool as me, told me he wanted to look for a job back here where I live, and he said jokingly "you want me to marry you?" that came as a surprise. But I took all of this w/a grain of salt. Ever since then, he's been contacting me every other day, planning trips w/me, always answering his phone when I call, just a total different turnaround of what he used to be. My question is, if he was ever just in it for (casual) would he go through all this trouble if he could get "it" where he lives, or is he now thinking serious w/me?
2007-09-14 04:22:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well maybe this girl he was dating broke his heart or something, and he knew you still liked him. maybe he still has feelings for you; maybe he wants something more then casual.
2007-09-14 04:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by [kristi lou!♥] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely into you. How much, I'm not even sure he knows. I think he realizes what he lost and that you are a person he may want to spend the rest of his life with, but knows it would be weird to just show up a year after your breakup to propose. So he's trying to be your boyfriend again, and trying a lot harder than he (probably) did last time.
He definitely seems socially savvy, so there is a chance he is playing you, but I really don't think so. Unless you were so against being a booty call for old times sake that he knew he couldn't score that way, he'd have no reason to go through all this--there are easier, more honest, and less hurtful ways to get sex out of you if that is all he wants. If you have never seen him be evil for the sadistic pleasure of hurting someone or for his own gain, and he has nothing from the past to get back at you for, I'd say he's realized that he wants you and is trying to be the best he can so you'll want him too.
2007-09-14 11:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words-- so is he acting serious? Calling every other day is more trouble than most guys would go through just to get some in the future. He may have realized what he lost in you when he dated the other girl. Ask him where he sees your relationship going-- or look for hints like he wants your opinion on his apartment or furniture before he buys it. Or you could just ask to meet his parents-- if they've heard of you then he wants it to be serious.
2007-09-14 11:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by pkateh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes serious..most guys dont usually bother will all of that just to get laid by someone. They will just be straight to the point and try to get in your pants. This guy is talking about moving back..do you think he would go through all that trouble just to sleep with you? I don't think so. He cares about you and wants something serious. Also, you should confront him on your feelings about this. Don't let him go through all of this if you aren't interested in settling down. Good Luck Sweetie
2007-09-14 11:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jessi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being with this other woman made him appreciate the woman you are which sais a lot about you. Embrace this but keep a weary eye that this isn't the sort of person looking for the Bigger Better Deal.
2007-09-14 11:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kristian K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably what you call maturing. It happens sooner or later to all of us. With men it is usually later; whereas with women it happens sooner as a general rule. You probably have qualities a little absence brought to the forefront.
2007-09-14 11:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't rush anything... but you can definitely tell that he is more interested now than he was. it was probably because he was with that girl... and it made him realize his true feelings for you.
or, he might be falling back on you... b/c you are always there to pick up the pieces!
i don't know... but it seems good... so just stay positive and everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
2007-09-14 11:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys will pursue a chance for casual sex over years and continents.
2007-09-14 11:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, this is a toughy... I say that he is either realizing what he missed.. or he is just trying to come back and have you, then go back to his home... but more so it sounds like he misses you, and really does want something... but this could be that nice guy naivety kicking in
2007-09-14 11:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋