I don't know how to control these emotions and how to deal with anxiety?
Any ideas. - It is drives me to drink - and I should not be drinking as I have liver problems. I know there are anti-depressant tablets out there but they take ages to work. Anyone got any advice - and not anything sarcastic thankyou.
2007-09-14 03:32:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
anti depressant tablets do not take that long to work, usually within a few weeks. You might want to see your medical doctor and get started with these medications. I also recommend you see a psychologist to examine why you seek out men That are terrible to you. you need to find out so you don't keep repeating the same mistakes.
2007-09-14 03:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's really worrying when we begin to recognise that we are repeating the same pattern again and again. I don't think it will really surprise you to hear that such ongoing re-enactments usually relate to problems inside us. I'll make a guess that you don't feel very positive about yourself, and somewhere in your heart of hearts you actually believe that it's inevitable that men are horrible to you, because you're not really nice. Now, this isn't ACTUALLY true and part of you probably also knows that (else you wouldn't be asking how to stop it) but somewhere in your unconscious, tis is what's going on.
Anti-depressants (which, as people have said, don't really take that long to work, certainly less than the period of feeling lousy would otherwise be) might help the symptoms, but they aren't going to stop you being drawn to men who treat you badly. For this, you're probably going to benefit more from some good counselling or psychotherapy. This would also help generally with your anxiety and with your self-destructive behaviour in drinking despite your liver problems.
If you're in the UK, find a properly qualified and registered psychotherapist or counsellor on http://www.bacp.co.uk or http://www.psychotherapy.org.uk If you're in the US, just similarly make sure you find someone properly qualified and registered (governed by a code of ethics).
2007-09-14 11:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ambi valent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have anxiety and one thing that i have done is reduced some stess in my life which has meant not talking to some people that have caused it, so i would maybe get away from these guys that you are seeing and stay single for a while and work on you. now most antidepressants do take a few weeks to kick in but you can start to feel a change with in the first couple of days. also you might want to consider anti anxiety meds for you anxiety instead of drinking. i don't know how they are on your liver but i would deffinatly ask your doc about it. hope that this helps
2007-09-14 10:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a simple answer that might be able to release almost all of the anxiety that you have: stop dating the "men" that give you an horrible feeling. These men aren't going to help you in life, most likely they have the intentions of discouraging you or to make you feel horrible. The best thing for you to do is probably to stop seeing the same kinds of men. There are many ways to deal with anxiety. Try taking a few deep breaths, but drinking is definitely not the answer. You might need to see somebody who can prescribe you something to end this anxiety.
2007-09-14 10:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear this. The problem isn't the jerks, they can't help themselves. Look in the mirror, you are the one going out with the losers. Change the way you meet guys and look for traits prior to going out with them. Every thing else is your insecurity with yourself. Realize that you are a worthy person with a right to expect to be treated as a lady and insist on finding males who respect that.
2007-09-14 10:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by The Voice of Reason 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, where are you finding these men? and what is it about them that you are being drawn to? have you ever thought about seeing a dr about this? and antidepressants dont take that long to work, i noticed differences in about a week when i was on them back in highschool. even my mom noticed the change that quickly.
as for the drinking, there are pills for that as well, and they really do work quickly!
2007-09-14 10:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We tend to be attracted to the same kinds of men. You probably need to try and date someone completely different from what you are used to. You should see a counselor also.
2007-09-14 10:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by emily1980 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please seek counseling and don't try to date until you are making progress in treatment. You might also want to try to go to AA. It's for people that have a problem with alcohol. They have a program that can help you learn many tools to deal with your life and your emotions and other people. Good luck to you.
2007-09-14 10:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
SEE A THERAPIST IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY. I AM NOT BEING SARCASTIC OR FUNNY. I THINK WE ALL NEED SOME HELP SOMETIMES. THEY WILL TALK WITH YOU ABOUT YOUR OPTIONS AND WILL MAKE U FEEL A LITTLE BETTER. THEY'RE SUPPORT, AND THAT HELPS ANYONE THROUGH A TOUGH TIME. HANG IN THERE AND GOOD LUCK. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. WE ARE ALL ONLY HUMAN.
2007-09-14 10:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you have to ask yourself what is it in you that makes guys think they can do that? Usually guys act like that when they're with women who are way clingy on them and so they know they pull their crap and you'll take it.
2007-09-14 10:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by radman2035 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋