I have done a foolish thing, advise please?

Question

I am a 37 year old divorced mom. I have a 19 year old son who is the greatest thing ever, we are best friends!!!!

Well in a week moment I had sex with one of his good friends and now I can't stop. I know its wrong but everytime he is around me I just melt, and he seems to have no problem getting me into bed.

I need to stop this before I get pregnant. what can I do the word NO just won't come out of my mouth.

Please help, help

Answer 1

are you sure your son would have problem with you having his friend as a boy toy? you ever watch movie called "CLASS"? (from early 1980's) ever make a guy use a condom or thought about going on pills?

answers are right there, as long as you don't let it blow in the wind

Answer 2

Holy....
You need to stop before you get pregnant? Aren't you using protection? There are numerous birth control methods out there; that should be the least of your worries.

STAY AWAY from this kid if you can't control yourself. Have a talk with him (over the phone-- not in person!) and tell him you think he's great, but this situation is just wrong. Ask him to PLEASE keep it under his hat.

Now, let's hope he doesn't tell your son. He might. You should tell him that this would be very bad for your son to learn (what would he think if your son were having sex with HIS mother?). Hopefully he'll agree with you and this can be swept under the rug.

USE YOUR HEAD! You know this has disaster written all over it. Accept that what is drawing you to this guy is the attention and that you feel flattered, nothing more. You can find that elsewhere.

Think about your relationship with your son. If preserving it is important to you, don't ever let something like this happen again!

Answer 3

How should I presume to advise you? No doubt you know all the same things I know, and if this young man is of the age of legal consent then yours is a practical dilemma and not a legal one. If your main concern is not getting pregnant there are ample preventative options available to you...(condoms have the added advantage of guarding against the spread of STDs, no small concern in this day and time). On the other hand if you're determined that this must stop but you feel powerless to let those words come out of your mouth, then as someone else here suggested you may try avoiding him altogether. I admit it seems a little strange that you would feel helpless in comparison to someone so much younger than yourself, but it happens. So, decide where you really stand and act accordingly. (In other words, maybe you have a problem, maybe you don't.)

Answer 4

Foolish isnt the word for what you have done. The FIRST time you could have used the word foolish.. but to continue to do this because of your OWN selfish feelings when you KNOW that it will harm your son is way past foolish.

Im sure your son wouldnt think you are his bestfriend when he finds out you are a thoughtless whore.

If anyone has ever read any of my answers I am hardly ever negative.. but seriously? You first of all SLEEP with your sons friend, continue to sleep with his friends with no regards to anyones feelings but your own and cant even take birth control to keep from getting pregnant? Grow up.

Answer 5

That is a very touchy issue! Obviously you need to stop! Pregnancy is a big worry but hurting your son, should be a major part of you wanting to quit this affair! I think that you should be an adult , and just break it off. You dont nessesarily don't have to tell him to stop coming over or leave when he comes around just, find other things to do!

Also maybe you should tell your son, god forbid he tells him first. That would not be a pretty scene.

Hope everything works out for you. Stay strong!

Answer 6

You really need to stay away from this guy. Seriously if you don't want this stress. Another thing use protection whenever you are intimate with someone. You have spent 19 yrs raising a son you need some time for you. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

OMG. How would your son feel if he found out? You say he's your best friend? How could you run the risk of humiliating him like this?
It's hard enough for teenage boys to acknowledge that their mum's are sexual beings, without having it confirmed in this awful way.
Stop it from happening again. Stop being so bloody selfish, and go and find a man of your own age to form a respectable relationship with.

Answer 8

Girl you have 37 years and you're doing one of your's son's friends? what's wrong with you?

Think about it, how do you think your own son would feel if his friend told him "hey I did your mom" and really mean it?! you're being extremely selfish and don't even realize the repercussions that you're gonna cause to your kid. Don't be so weak minded saying "no" it's never hard.

Realize that if you do get pregnant your kid's gonna need lots of counseling and will hate you for this.... I know I would.

Answer 9

Think about your son. Think about the embarassment he would feel if he found this out, or worse if you got pregnant by his friend?! I couldn't imagine doing this to my own son, you are an adult and your kids are supposed to be able to look up to their parents. Why don't you look for someone older who can be a role model for your son and benefit you in a way besides just sex???

Answer 10

I think your lonely, and its hard to say no when you feel wanted and desired. Be honest with this young man and tell him how you feel. As hard as it is to accept it's pro ably just sex to him. Make friends with your own peers, make an effort to meet someone else who is a little older. I'm ten years older than my husband and we have a great relationship. We also go to church and put our trust in God. I wish you all the best in your situation, ever thing will work out.

Answer 11

Well if you are truly best friends with your son, tell him about it. See how he fees before he finds out from someone else because I guarantee you this guy has told someone! If that happens your friendship with your son will be over. So you must decide what's more important to you, your son or sex with this friend of his.