im so confused!! help me please
2007-09-14 02:57:55 · 9 answers · asked by Colle =] x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think so. Not until you both have been together for a while. Well, I guess you could say you're seeing someone. That kinda implies that there isn't a committment. It's really up to the pair of you.
2007-09-14 03:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie_cakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think that you should very quickly determine the dynamics of your relationship. Why? Because I find that things can get so overwhelmingly out of control if you do not place limits. What drives me crazy is when somebody PRETENDS to be very open minded and then you find out there are ALL KINDS of limitations and hoops to jump through...we all want something, its best to define it as soon as possible and work out your relationship needs so that you can have them met, dont deny yourself your needs just for the sake of not being alone. Like I have seen before you have to stand for something or you will fall for anything. My most recent connection wanted a relationship but forgot to speak to me for almost a week after having sex, about being in a relationship or not, now...I AM flexible but we were not getting the face time conversation that we needed to have. So I pursued another face to face meeting, even when I was thinking it was going to only be a sexual connection by his behavior I still made the effort to get up close interaction so that we could get a more *real time relationship. When we got face to face, I found out some more interesting things, that he was very much an appointment setter allthough he likes to ACT like he is spontaneous and living in the moment. He also likes to keep people at a distance. Its good to know. I also found out that when he is suprised he overtalks the situation and becomes paranoid. Not the worst thing to have happen but can really pour water on passion...and causes undue stress. I may give it another shot but I have found out that this guy needs to be left alone to really decide what he wants. I walked out on him mid-sentence when I saw that the particular day in question he was just talking without listening, he had allready formulated an opinion in the first 5 minutes, I only stayed 15 total and he was not appreciating my company. I gave him 3 oppourtunities to respect me and he didnt. Those are some of the first basic things you need, a welcome attitude, a good communication level, and common ground to stand on. So I got out of the turmoil ASAP. I do know that if it goes any further he wants to be the control person of when, and where, and what happens and I will have to take it moment to moment with this one...so basically I am giving an example of why you need to get things defined. Not to the point of driving your new connection away but people will and definitely do waste your time in situations with no organization. Nobody deserves to be taken advantage of, and having 3 kids myself, MY TIME IS PRECIOUS and if someone has my time and undivided attention I expect results and not jargon or hyperbole. Ok, Take Care and write down your principles so you will stick to them.-Rachel.
2007-09-14 10:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would "making it official" be done, exactly? (Would you, for example, send out flyers, take an ad in the newspaper, or make sure you called and informed all of your friends?) Frankly, customs vary, but the only people who "have" to know are the two people involved...everything else you can play by ear, (and it doesn't get more official than that).
2007-09-14 10:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes that way you know that you and the other person you are seeing are giving the same answer. You don't want to tell someone that you are seeing someone and your boyfriend/girlfriend is telling people that they are not...It may sound like you are lying or that you are more into them than they are into you even if that is not the case.
2007-09-14 10:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Days 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And there is a very good reason why. Eventually people will find out about it just through, "hey who is that guy/girl" or "my bf/gf just did such and such for me". And if by chance the relationship doesn't work out and you break up after say 2 weeks then no will know about it so it will be less awkward.
2007-09-14 10:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is not fair nor right to assume that you are in a relationship with someone without their consent first.
2007-09-14 10:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
official is not necessary
2007-09-14 10:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you do or you'll get accused of cheating.
2007-09-14 10:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always make it clear.
2007-09-14 10:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by Noneofyabusiness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋