What would be the point of a short engagement?

Question

If you're truly in love with someone, and want to spend the rest of your life with them, why would you put off walking down the aisle?

Answer 1

My husband and I got engaged in the end of April and we were discussing when we were going to get married and we thought we were going to wait til the following may...well all of the sudden (there were some things that made us change our mind) but at the beginning of June we decided to get married this august so we had 11 weeks to plan our wedding and it was fabulous. I am so glad that we moved it up.
I agree with you that there is no point to a long engagement. You obviously love each other because your engaged. I say that engagements over a year are pointless because it's like why did you want to get engaged if you want to wait another two years to get married. I think short engagements are the way to go. I am proof that a wedding can be planned in two months if you stay focused and don't put things off.
Good Luck with the planning!

Answer 2

People have a long engagement for a number of reasons....all personal to them. One can be financial....they may be paying for the wedding themselves and want to save so they can have exactly what they want. Another can be personal obligations like school, that they would like out of the way before walking down the aisle so they can start their lives free. I'm not sure what you consider a long engagement though. My husband and I were engaged for a year and that's about what it took to plan a nice wedding. Most people are engaged for a year so wedding vendors are used to that timeline. When you try to book them only a month in advance or something, you'll often find you're out of luck because brides booked them a year ago!

Answer 3

Do you mean what would be the point of a long engagement..? I don't think an engagement should be longer than one year, but I know a lot of people disagree with me on that one! I don't see the point in getting engaged when you can't get married any time soon. But on the other hand, having a very short engagement means you probably don't have time to plan a full, elaborate wedding. Now if you're going to elope or whatever, that's different. But it's difficult if you want 100 guests, full reception, etc.

Answer 4

Love is very important in a relationship but remember that love is blind. Make sure you really KNOW the person you want to marry.
Having a long engagement also helps to make sure the wedding and honeymoon go off without a hitch. Many reception halls are booked a year or more in advance, so it might be hard to find a good place at the last minute.

Answer 5

I would imagine timing and cost would be the two critical factors.
If you both want a honeymoon in the caribbean you might like to get married at a time hurricanes are less likely.
If you want to be married on the beach or some other outdoor location, winter is probably not a good idea.
If you don't already have alot of money saved up, you need to pay for the wedding - - these days I hear the average is about $20-grand. If you could save $1grand per month you would need to save for almost 2 years to have that money.

Answer 6

My now hubby and I only had a 4 month engagement I thought it was great we didn't have enough time to get stressed out about the little things that come with planning a wedding. We just did what we needed to do and had fun doing it. Now we're ready for a baby =) I wouldn't of had it any other way.

Answer 7

For the most part I totally agree with that. Very long engagements sometimes cause more problems than they fix. About the only good reasons to have a year or so long engagment is to be able to finance the wedding, finish school, buy a house, etc.

Having engagements that last years and years rarely work out in my experience. I know there are exceptions!

Answer 8

Because LOVE is not always enough, and neither is the desire for it to be happily ever after. It's nice, when the intense emotions are there, but you also have to know that other person, know how they are in a crisis, know how they act under stress, know how they behave when they are grumpy or elated. Know how they handle finances, money, extended family relations. It takes TIME and EXPERIENCE to really get to know a person. There is nothing wrong with taking some time to make sure your love is also a compatible life mate for you. Otherwise you are just living in fairy tale land and not being very practical or sensible.

Answer 9

Good question. I wouldn't. If i know in my heart that this is the man i want to spend the rest of my life with there is no point in putting it off, we both know how we feel about each other so, hey, let's do it! That's my attitude about that.




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Answer 10

When my husband asked me to marry him, and I said yes, we (I) planned our wedding in 2 1/2 months.. I said yes, I made a decision and didn't see a point in a long engagement. Also if your trying to wait until you have sex, a short engagement is the only way to go :)