My Pet Dog Dies It was my best friend how can i get over the sadness?

Question

my dog died the other day and im wondering if anyone would no how to stop my sadness !

Answer 1

I think most owners have gone through this at some point in their lives and its never easy. I lost my beloved little terrier two years ago from cancer and my little Maltese girl this year because she was a a dog who was breed carelessly by irresponsible backyard breeders and suffered many health problems. Its been two years and 4 months since bothe their deaths and I miss both my dogs terribly, but time has eased my pain. I found this video, and I hope it make you feel better, enjoy.

http://www.indigo.org/rainbow/rainbow.swf

Answer 2

It's really just going to take time. Dogs are a part of the family, loosing a dog is like losing a family member. There really isn't much you can do to stop it from hurting. You just have to try to remember all of the joy and happiness your pup brought you, try to remember the good times instead of thinking about how sad you are right now. It will take time, but it will eventually get easier. I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you start feeling better soon!

Here's a poem that might help some...

The Rainbow Bridge

By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
Where the friends of man and woman do run,
When their time on earth is over and done.

For here, between this world and the next,
Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
On this golden land, they wait and they play,
Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.

No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.

They romp through the grass, without even a care,
Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,
Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.

For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
Together again, both person and pet.
So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
The time of their parting is over at last.

The sadness they felt while they were apart,
Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
They embrace with a love that will last forever,
And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together.

Answer 3

Aww sweetie, I am so sorry that you lost your dog. People that don't have pets don't understand the attachment that we have for them. It can be so deep that when they are gone there is a gaping hole in our life. I know for a fact the pain that you are going through. I have dogs (I've always had dogs as long as I have been alive), so as the years go on, you are going to lose a few. When they die suddenly, like from an accident, it makes it even harder to handle.

Just know this...it will get better. What I have always done when one of mine passes on is I go out and get another friend. Its not to "replace" the one you lost, because you can't. It's just simply to bring another friend in your life. It really does help with the pain. It helps to put your focus on something other than your grief. That';s not to say that you will still be sad for your pet that is no longer with you. But, like I said, you can have some good in there too. Does any of that make sense?

Anyway, I really do know what you are going through. I can feel your pain in what you write. If you want to talk, please feel free to e-mail me.

Answer 4

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Everyone is different.... I can not live without a dog (& they are always my best friends).. so, I do what has to be done... & get another puppy ASAP!
My last one passed day before Christmas 2004.
My Mum, like my best friend (below) believed I should wait... But, upon seeing me moping around & being totally miserable... Mum found an ad in the paper for a pup..... Needless to say.. my new best friend is perfect & wonderful & will be 3yrs old in a couple of months!
OMG.... I can't believe it has been that long.

Each pup/dog in my life was perfect & yet different from the next... I honestly can not say one was better over all than another... just that each was different. When I was younger is distressed me to no end that they had such a short life span compared to humans. But since I am as Old as Dirt now... I am glad to have had each and every one of them in my life & can't imagine never having had the pleasure of their love
Anyway... for me.... no hesitation... Look for another pup to love & become your best friend.

On the other hand....
My best friend & my Mum... both need to wait & grieve....
But my friend just got a 3yr old dog from a friend of a friend who's boyfriend did not get along with it (doberman...). And I must say, they needed each other... it was perfect timing..

I wish you well,
Niskai

Answer 5

Sorry you're going through this. It takes a long time to heal the loss of something that was so special in your life. Maybe write your feelings in a journal and talk with friends about it. You could have a memorial of sorts, even if it's just you doing it, it could help you get some closure, but the pain will be around for awhile.

I would suggest giving yourself time to heal before thinking of getting another pet.

Answer 6

OK, first of all it's very very hard to "get over the sadness." My Koty passed in February in my arms and I still have moments where I miss him so much it hurts. He was my best friend as well and had been for most of my life (we adopted him when I was 12 and he lived another 13 years.) The first few months (yes months) were the hardest for me. One thing that helped me was to make little memorials for him. I used a shadow box and put his mementos inside and created a beautiful photo album of pictures of just him. I also joined the rainbow bridge pet loss yahoo group and they help greatly. In a way it helps knowing there are others out there going through the same thing. Part of my therapy is to help them through the pain as well. If you are interested in some books try "The loss of a pet" by Wallace Sife or "Dog dogs go to heaven" by M Jean Holms. Both helped me through my time of need. Finally, if you need someone to chat with try the association for pet loss and bereavement (www.aplb.org) They host on line chats a few times a week with certified counselors and have a lot of helpful information on their website. Oh, also check out www.pet-loss.net. They have links to wonderful memorial products you can buy to help with your grief. Good luck and take care.

Erin and my forever angel ^Koty^

Answer 7

I tell myself when i lose a pet that he/she was lucky as i gave them a great time and none of us live forever,i find it a comfort to give another pet a great home,your dog could have ended up in a bad home ,but it didnt because it was with you,so you gave it a great life,there are lots of dogs out there that would love to jump into your arms,you need another one to give your love too
loving mum to 1 boxer,1 shih tzu 2 chihuahuas,8 tortoises,1 cat,11 hamsters,1 gerbil and 2 fish tanks(marine and tropical)

Answer 8

Sorry about your dog,but hey honey don't sit there and gloat just think of all the fun you two had together,and places you went and things he or she did that made you laugh and cry, and remember they day you brought it home and all the love you gave him or her and just the times you spent together,its going to take time to get over your lose but in time you'll be okay, and hey you got the best gift all to always go back to the memories of your friend.Wish you the best, and hope you cheer up soon.

Answer 9

I know this sounds crazy, but a guy I used to date had the same thing happen to him. He was very close with his dog. He was depressed for a week, then decided to talk to a pet psychic . He felt very relieved after the experience.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to hear about your dog. I understand your grieving. Dogs are our best friends: they are always there for us and give love unconditionally. It's OK to feel blue and grieve the loss. That's just something you have to get through; you can't avoid it. Spend time with your family and friends so you don't get isolated while you go through this.