Is it just me or do any of you other guys get told how dumb you are by your wives?

Question

What's really funny is that I got almost triple her score in maths at College. I got a score that was well above a pass with a commendation. She barely passed at all. They had to be lenient on her.

I just say, 'yea, yea, I am dumb. Real dumb'. And just leave it there........ Though even that doesn't keep her happy. Like JFK said to the feminists, 'I'm sure that what ever I'm doing, for you, it won't be enough'.

Though, she's a worker, so that part makes up for it. [She's in banking would you believe?]

Answer 1

my girlfriend tells me all the time and i have a phd in molecular biology

Answer 2

First of all that is verbal abuse. I would tell your wife that you deserve respect. Why is she doing that to you? Have you two got into the situation where you are always in competition? That is not good at all. I think you both need to do some real thinking or your marriage is going to start to be more and more negative. One of you is creating a monster and it may not be her alone it may be both of you. Look what you just said how you tripled her score in math. Who the h--- cares? Do you really think a high score in math says how intelligent you are? Stop competing and start appreciating and praising or your marriage is doomed trust me. Good luck.

Answer 3

I would be if I was married but I have to make do with my mother treating me like an imbecile; it's OK when we are alone but gets really aggravating when we are alone; she forgets or cannot visualise how difficult life is when you have restricted vision and poor balance and nobody can grasp the effect of low blood sugar on mental functioning.
As for the careless lack of respect that creeps between people living together for a long period of time that is a separate problem; you cannot have total formality all the time between people under such circumstances and i wonder if it would be too much to ask you to be a saint and look upon it as indication of her love for you that she feels she can say that stuff to you, i.e. she trusts you enough not to be afraid of saying that.
one of my pools customers was slagging off her son when i said to him, 'don't worry, my mother is rude all the time to me as well.' She was shocked and showed me that through sheer force of habit they don't realise that they have drifted into this rudeness.
Problem.
And I keep wondering how to approach the problem with her without upsetting her too much. The pressure of being with other people does tend to alter most people's behaviour.

Answer 4

Men and women tend to be dumb about different things. There are men who divide all their feelings into "okay" and "angry." There are women who divide all airplanes into "big" and "small".

It's a broad generalization, but it has some reality behind it. As a stereotypical woman, I regard feelings as vital, the essence of life, and airplanes, machines, cars, etc., as total trivia, so unimportant that I can't at the moment think of a simile for them.

I still cannot believe the things my husband will and will not read books about. He will study, hard, about some collection of things he has, and ignore what (from my p.o.v.) really matters.

Luckily, there's enough overlap so we can still talk politics, history, and science!

Answer 5

I don't tell my bf he is dumb. I sometimes tell him that a particular action he has done is dumb. Like not putting his car in "PARK" before entering the grocery store, whereby his car rolled down a hill and hit a tree. He is a super smart guy and I tell him this all the time. Although being smart has nothing to do with always being totally aware of what you are doing.
She should understand that if you do something dumb, its not because YOU are dumb. I do dumb stuff all the time too. But I am not dumb.
Why don't you tell her that you do not like it when she tells you that you are dumb. Because you are not. Maybe she'll stop if she knows it bothers you.

Answer 6

You should have a talk with her about respect. Marriage should NOT be a competition. You have to respect each other for there to be any kind of intimacy. Do not resort to her level (which it sounds like you don't) and just continue to let her know that calling you stupid isn't respectful. If it continues I would suggest couple's counseling. I would never call my husband stupid, and if I hurt his feelings I always feel bad because we're here to be supportive to our mates, not degrading or demeaning. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

I think you must be very dumb for taking such abuse. Do you think she would take that from you? Hell no. Grow a backbone, buddy. Lord only knows how she must walk all over you in other ways, sounds like your life is an absolute, worthless mess because you married your Harpy.

Answer 8

My wife never calls me dumb . She respects me as I do her.
people who fling insults usually do so due to their own ignorance for it would only be beneficial to explain the difference in opinion being discussed and not at all by belittling the other.
Thus Her time would be better spent educating in areas she believes you lack understanding .

Answer 9

If my hubby ever called me 'dumb' or anything else derogatory I'd walk out the door. I'd fully expect him to do the same. If you truly love someone you DO NOT degrade them, jokingly or otherwise.

Answer 10

you need to get your tesicles back , find some back bone
how about this for starters next time she says lok her straight in the eye and say"f@@k you " and walk out
stay at a motel you dont have to do anything but it will eat her up not knowing women cant stand not to know
it will be your first step on learning to be a man

Answer 11

A lot of my friends are in unhappy relationships, mostly because of there girlfriends nagging (i know for a fact not all girls are like that). they are all so desparate to have sex with something that they will put up with humiliation to get it (or they might enjoy being humiliated, i don't know).