Lately I have givin up on ever being better. I used to be able to put on make up on, take a pain pill and go out smiling. People I think are unawear of my health issues..
I can't even do that anymore.
I wonder if I will ever have over come deep depression along with health issues. Gosh-I feel like I am at the end of my life and I am not that old (57) I had a nasty divorce- and my youngest child died. I have mulitable health issues and to top that off everything seems to be going wrong..
Should I just give up and never hope to have energy again to be half way normal again??
2007-09-13 21:53:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Pain & Pain Management
Hi,
Yes lots of persons had pulled out of deep depression and living happy life. You will also be one of them. You are a young person of just 57 years the at which the real life starts.
Look when every thing is lost hope remains.
Do not give up .
Pl. try following Tips for Finding Happiness
Connecting with others and feeling a sense of oneness with life itself brings lasting happiness--and that connection can take many forms, from a warm hug to the rapture we feel in nature to our work on a creative project that touches others. It is when we give of ourselves that we find ourselves. Here are seven tips for permanent happiness, all based on reaching out and offering yourself to life.
Make a Celebratory Visit
This is a special visit that celebrates what someone else means to you and what they have given to you. It is a joyous form of gratitude, which has been proven in studies to boost mood and health. First, sit down and write a thank-you letter to someone for whom you feel deep love and gratitude. Describe their qualities, such as courage, loyalty, kindness, wit, persistence. Then visit that person, and read your heartfelt description. Celebrate with them the miracle of their life and their presence in yours.
Look at the Big Picture
Remember that you are an essential part of a very alive universe--no matter how tough your day or week or year might be. You are part of the greater whole, the weave of life and all of humanity. You can remind yourself of that feeling by looking up at the night sky, or going to a religious service where everybody joins hands and sings, or even volunteering at an animal shelter. Your life has ups and downs, but embrace the large scale of all of life in its great diversity with a huge hug.
Be a Keeper of Meaning
Knowing that your life has meaning brings a deep-down satisfaction that offers lasting happiness. One wonderful way to experience more meaning is to bring meaning to the lives of others by teaching them a special skill of yours--whether it's a new language, a new recipe, how to sail, or simply how to listen and be a caring person. You have something unique to share.
Forgive Yourself
Okay, you've made mistakes. We all have. Going over (and over) your missteps keeps you feeling disconnected and unloved. Here's how to forgive yourself: Bring to mind an incident for which you were forgiven. Remember the good feelings and bask in them. If you believe in God or a higher power, ask for forgiveness. While doing this, try to see yourself from the perspective of someone who loves you unconditionally. Would they judge you as harshly as you judge yourself?
Tune in to Those Around You
For one day, decide to be courteous to everybody in your path--even buoyantly so. Your neighbor, your mailman, a stranger at the coffee shop, a cashier, colleagues, and of course, friends. Greet them, ask how they are, hold a door, give a smile and a compliment. At the end of the day you'll feel much happier, relaxed, and more connected.
Be a Good Friend
A good friend wants the best for you and is happy when something great happens in your life. Be that friend. Repair rifts in your friendships when possible. Rekindle old friendships--look up friends from childhood or college, or those who have moved away, and reach out to them. Reshape your friendship networks to be sure your friends provide a supportive mirror for your own values in life.
Nurture Your Creativity
Creativity brings joy, and the personality trait most linked to creativity is being open to experience--trying new things, being open to fantasy, discovering new connections. Foster your creativity by listening to music, reading literature, and viewing art. Try a different approach to a familiar routine, such as planting only purple flowers in your garden, or garnishing a salad with unusual delicacies, or mixing and matching your clothes in a new way. Or join a scrapbooking club or pottery class--anything that will get you in touch with your creative side, and with others in the process!
2007-09-13 22:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Brij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss.... You sure have had more than your fair share. While I do not suffer from depression, I do have one friend who has just recently overcome a 20 year depression, for many of the same reasons. She was pretty much at the end of her rope and wanted to just wrap it around her neck and die... pretty much like you are sounding. Then, she decided that she was too young to give up (54) and went to see another doctor... actually she just went to a clinic in her area for referrals. She also went to talk to the pastor at a local church. With her new drugs and a support group, she started feeling better and started becoming more involved in life again. Now she is thriving. She has a new job, she walks every day which renews her energy, and she has a new outlook on life (even better than mine!!!). She takes one day at a time, and enjoys each day fully. The way I see it, the past is behind you and you have at least 30 more good years left in you!!!! Take charge of your life and move forward... While you will never get over some of the pain and heartache you are feeling, you can learn how to cope better with that pain.
2007-09-13 22:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by suisse shoggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.
Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.
Depression Free Method?
2016-05-15 23:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you as I too suffer from chronic pain and find it hard some days to put on the make up, the smile and act like I'm fine. I suffered from such major depression, anxiety and some other things and I got so bad I didn't want to ever leave my house. I had agoraphobia really bad. My therapist, my psychiatrist and family Dr. decided something need to be done. They threatened me with hospitalization and a lot more. I got scared (I also used to suffer from suicidal idealtions) and took 700 prescription pain pills I had saved up over the months. I died on the table but they were able to bring me back. I was in ICU for a while and on a respiratior and the whole 9 yards. I don't remember any of it. I don't even remember going to the hospital afterwards for inpatient treatment. When I got up and around I had pretty much decided that I had taken too many very serious attempts on my life and won't have another chance. With therapy and meds I began to accept the problems that made me so depressed and I gradually got better. It has been 5 years now. I have no depression, still have some anxiety and have a normal social life. I think the main thing that changed this time was the fact that I truly wanted help and accepted it and used it. It was an uphill battle but so worth it.
Sometimes my pain gets me really down but I try my best to do or think of something else.
To this day I think that God really did give me a fourth or fifth chance and I am so happy he did. I now only take 20mg of Paxil a day because pain can be very depressing and I nip it in the butt before it becomes a problem. I don't see a therapist or psychiatrist anymore. My family Dr prescribes my meds.
I credit myself first for taking control of my life and finding things that were worth living for. I try now to live each and every day to the fullest. I am disabled now because of an accident at work. The pain is terrible and has put a crunch on my life but I try my hardest not to make it a big issue.
You have to get help. Then when you get help you have to use the tools they give you to rearrange things in your life. There is a brighter side out there for you. I am 47 and am so glad that I finally can see the sun and appreciate it for the beauty it is. Please seek professional help. You need to do it before it gets out of control and from your question I can see you are right on the edge.
Love yourself. What ever it is that deep down inside you makes you feel worthless and shameful you have to let it go. Put in a safe place in your heart and leave it there. Get help and open your heart and mind to change. It may seem all fake now but I am here to testify that you can get better and live as normal as a life as possible with your disabilities. Pat yourself on the back. Compliment yourself. You have to learn to accept good things when people say them to you. Take pride in yourself and others around you. It all starts with just one day of deciding to get help and then use that help to the fullest. You can find happiness and peace. I wish you the best. God bless and good luck!!
2007-09-13 23:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... I'm sorry for the way your feeling, I really do feel for you and I wish I could do something to help you. I am 25 and I fall in and out of depression all the time. I've never tried to kill myself but I do cut myself sometimes and I hate doing it. I've never tried to get help though but maybe you should. Speak to someone, you have nothing to loose, you never know, it could be the best thing you ever do! Have you ever thought about getting a dog? If your a dog lover and don't already have one then that might make you happier.... I can't have a dog as I live in shared accomodation but I do know that this is one thing that would make me truly happy.
I hope you feel better soon and try to keep your head up high :) Have a blessed day, take care x
2007-09-13 22:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by me_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, i have been pretty down before, so bleak that i thought there
was no hope, but i started hanging out with a friend that had sum
of the same emotional issues i had, i also started seeing a pyschologist whom i have known for 10 years now, took wellbutrin for a short time, i felt much better a year or so later. You have to
work HARD at getting better, it just dosnt happen, hope you feel better, MoUsE
2007-09-13 22:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by gimelessdanger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya, you have been through a rough time and right now life might have a bleak outlook. i know how it feels to live with a dark cloud over you're head, after i separated from my partner of 8 and a half years i was lost, i had no home, no job, no way to support my children and i lost all my Friends. A year later i decided enough is enough and I'm going to try to pick myself up and live life the way I'm supposed to. Please don't give up hope. I wish you all the best and send you hugs. Good luck x
2007-09-13 22:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by kb2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never give up on trying. And I'm sorry to hear about your youngest. But think about it.... is that what he/she would want? Their mom giving up on something that you only get once? Do you really want to leave your loved ones behind?
Keep a journal or a blog.... express everything you feel and think. Or talk to a friend or co-worker even. Do something that makes you smile... its there... you just have to find it =]
2007-09-13 22:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was very depressed for a long time and no one knew it I have tryed to take my life x2 well I still here it was not my time to go.come close I did die and the amblacne ppl got me back. I take meds to help me out, It will get better put your life in Gods hands.
2007-09-13 22:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by ida s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear ya , 2 yrs ago i took over 400 pills, different kinds, when i woke up sick i was pissed, ,i also have lots of health issues. my life isnt perfect, but i dont want to die anymore. but i am very tired of being sick all the time.
2007-09-13 21:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by imalickyouallover69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋