hey..
im 13 now and iv been feeling really weird lately and i dont know why i dont like school much or anything but i have no reason to feel sad and i cut myself smetimes for no reason at all i dont have any problems like medicaly wrong with me but sometimes i feel like killing myself just to get to heaven and be with God..is it okay to feel like this or is this bad and what should i do i try praying a lot all most 3 times i day but i dont read my bible as much as i should.a little while back my best riend told me she had sex and that made me feel really bad and it felt liek she put a lot of presser on to me because she was teh only one i told i havnt told my mum or dad or anything i keep everthing inside of me and i just feel like dying what should i do.. and i know jesus loves but it it hard sometimes...
2007-09-13 20:38:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Kids cut themselves for a number of reasons... usually they are hurting inside, depressed, angry, feeling left out and alone, etc.. and they find cutting a way to get fast relief from the emotional pain. Then it becomes addicting.... First, know that you have take the first step by admitting that you have a problem!!!! Kudos to you.... This means that you know you have a problem and you are willing to seek out help. Also, please know that the teen years are the hardest... they do get better, trust me... Now, to help yourself, you have to take some major steps. You have already taken a big step by writing and asking for help... Now you must take an even bigger step, and it will be very hard, but once you do it, you will start feeling better. ##Take a deep breath... then, You have to tell someone about this... A counselor at your school is a good place to start. They are there for the children, and they will talk to you in confidence. They are trained to deal with this and if you need further help, they will get that for you... If you feel you can, talk to your parents and tell them you need help..... Or your pastor at church, or a nearby church.... Or your doctor. Ask your mom to make an appointment for you, or go into a clinic. You must start talking about the feelings you are keeping bottled up inside, because when feelings aren't expressed in a healthy way (talking them out), tension can build up — sometimes to a point where it seems almost unbearable. Cutting may be an attempt to relieve that extreme tension. It's a confused way of feeling in control. I am a christian, and I trust that God put you on this earth for a reason, and probably wants to keep you here for a while. When He is ready for you in Heaven, He will come to you!!!! .... You also cannot shoulder the burden of your friends sex life. Worry first about yourself, then you can be there to support your friends. Your teen years are some of the hardest, but it gets much better!!! You have so much to look forward to.
The following is from this site: http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html
1. People who have stopped cutting often say the first step is the hardest — admitting to or talking about cutting. But they also say that after they open up about it, they often feel a great sense of relief. Choose someone you trust to talk to at first (a parent, school counselor, teacher, coach, doctor, or nurse). If it's too difficult to bring up the topic in person, write a note.
2. Identify the trouble that's triggering the cutting. Cutting is a way of reacting to emotional tension or pain. Try to figure out what feelings or situations are causing you to cut. Is it anger? Pressure to be perfect? Relationship trouble? A painful loss or trauma? Mean criticism or mistreatment? Identify the trouble you're having, then tell someone about it. Many people have trouble figuring this part out on their own. This is where a mental health professional can be helpful.
3. Ask for help. Tell someone that you want help dealing with your troubles and the cutting. If the person you ask doesn't help you get the assistance you need, ask someone else. Sometimes adults try to downplay the problems teens have or think they're just a phase. If you get the feeling this is happening to you, find another adult (such as a school counselor or nurse) who can make your case for you.
4. Work on it. Most people with deep emotional pain or distress need to work with a counselor or mental health professional to sort through strong feelings, heal past hurts, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses.
...and know that YOU are LOVED by God.....
2007-09-13 21:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by suisse shoggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a great sin. Nasty thoughts that get into you . Don't let them get in your head. Pray constantly and ask a sign from Jesus to help you . Whatever it is that you feel right now be assured that this too will pass. Be strong and Have faith in God. God doesn't want his children to suffer. What you are feeling is called deppression . Its normal . Find someone to tell about what you feel and it lessen your burned. God has a purpose for you in this lifetime so don't ruin that.
2007-09-13 20:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey bud
I wouldn't feel that way if I were you. No way can you keep living like that. Something has got to change. Who knows? Do you think she wanted to have sex with you first? if so, dont worry. girls are like that. you will NEVER have a perfect soulmate that can read your mind. forget it. its impossible. I live with a polar opposite in more oppositions than one and i can tell you from experimence, (im 19 and have had the same girlfriend for 5 years.)
no pain no gain.
you are not going to die over a stupid girl.
just think, of all the girls that are out there, one wants to sleep with someone just like you at night.
but dont listen to me. I was just like you. and now, im a creep with a g/f i never even wanted.
2007-09-13 20:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by spoon_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to talk to your parents and someone from the church, as well as your doctor.
You are truly depressed and cutting yourself is NOT the answer. You need to find ways to cope better and the only way to do that is to open up. I know that it can be tough to open up but you need to.
Talk to your pastor/priest, your mom and/or dad and please talk to your doctor about getting you some help and support.
2007-09-13 20:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Paramedic Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on trying life and seek treatment for depression. I've been there, and the best thing you can do is to get help. Sticking with your life and waiting to see what God has planned for you is the best thing for you.
And remember, please seek help and be persistant! It's not your fault; depression is an illness. You can be healed if you stick with your treatment and your faith.
2007-09-13 20:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by Shimoyake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really sorry but i am not a christian but i think i can help you you need some cheering up
tell ur friend how you feel an your pressure will go down a bit and you really shouldn't be cutting yourself
2007-09-13 20:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better go to the doctor and tell him/her about the cutting.
You'll be referred to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
You'll probably be given meds to take.
2007-09-13 21:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋