Abandon me because i choose to live my life differently? Even as christians should they disown me....act as if i wasnt apart of the family. I'm slowing trying to come back to god. But i dont need them to push and force things to happen. For the last 10 years they refused to see me. They wont even talk to me on phone. I have spoken to them on the phone a total of 5 times over the last 10 years and half the time say forget my name or refuse to say "I love you" back to me when i say it to them. I know that homosexuality is not condone by god. But im dealing with things they do not even understand. They say even seeing me would be a sin, they would say "its okay" for me to be gay if they were to see me. From another christian i would like thier opinon on this...would you walk away from your son or daughter? Someone that you once pushed out of your body..someone you raised. How can a mother do something like this and have christ's love in her? shouldnt she be loving me unconditionally?
2007-09-13 19:01:16 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are absolutely right. I am a Christian and I have two children. If they came to me and told me that they feel they are "gay" I would love them unconditionally. A parents love is (or should be) like that of God our Father. We all sin and yet He loves us more than we can fathom. Parents are not perfect, and so you should forgive them. My mother is similarly cold (after I married a non-believer she stopped talking to me) It took a few years for me to realize this is just my mother, and I have to accept her, just as she had to learn to accept me. When you are seeking the love and acceptance that is perfect, seek it in God. He loves you regardless of your choices in life and seeks only to free you from your earthly chains. (Coincidentally, that marriage lasted 8 years and became the stumbling stone in my life that I sacrificed my salvation for. Nothing is worth that. Mom was right, but I needed her to love me and not say "I told you so." I probably would have gotten out sooner had I not dreaded hearing her say those words.)
2007-09-13 19:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, she should. I'm sorry that your parents are so legalistic in their faith. They have probably been living under Old Testament rules, and haven't heard enough about the grace of God. Though the gay lifestyle is not condoned by God, God still loves the homosexual, and so should others who profess Christ. The sin of homosexuality isn't any worse than the sin of adultery or lying. It's just a different kind. But sexual sin has a tendency to get Christians bent out of shape. Hypocrisy and pride are far worse sins, if we are going to rate sin. Your parents need to love you anyway, because you are a person created in the image of God.
You could say that they are acting very unloving, prejudiced and prideful toward you. Those are all sins too. Should you say that you cannot see them anymore because that would be saying 'it's okay to be prejudiced and prideful?" Their logic is flawed. Just remember that not all Christians are mature in their faith, and may not understand the nature of God. They forget that God extended mercy and grace to them when they were sinners. They need to do the same to others, not judge and condemn.
2007-09-13 19:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not the person to judge your mother, but man she must feel some harsh pain to abandon U in a time of need. I know that U must be going through some heavy thoughts and feelings. I'm impressed that U have made an effort to be strong and stand up for what U believe to be the "right" thing in life for U to be happy. My brother who has passed on, had to deal with his sexuality in a time when there were many homosexuals who suffered harshly. God loves U and forgives U. I'm sad that U're mother isn't there for U when U need her strength. I pray for U and know in time things will work out ok. stay strong!!
2007-09-14 04:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by zenawarrior0421 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I would not push away my son or daughter for i understand spiritual warfare and the devices the enemy uses,and I do not feel your parents are christians if they were they would be praying for you ,loving you unconditionally and the Love of God would be shed abroad in their heart and it is not,all things are possible thru God,they can pray for you and still acknowledge you as their son and Love you back to Christ,and all you need to do is ask the Lord to deliver you and he will,and they have a misconstrude look at what sin is Jesus says its not the righteous i call to repentance its the sinners Jesus ate at zacheues house the tax collector,Jesus associated with sinners to bring them to himself and noone is better than anyone else we all fall short of the glory of God continually but hes there to pick us up,I will keep you in my prayers Lisa
2007-09-14 13:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by God Child 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me you're only thinking of yourself. You can't see it from their perspective: homosexuality is a grave sin and they shun away from it. They feel ashamed that you should choose this path. Looking at it from their perspectives, how would they hold their heads up to God and be able to say they brought their son or daughter to His table?
You do make some valid points too, their seeing you is not a sin, but clearly it wouldn't be okay for them to say it's okay for you to be gay, because that's against their faith. It would be a lie.
I wouldn't ever walk away from my son or daughter in these circumstances, but I wouldn't tell them it's okay to be gay. I would tell them that I still love them but can't condone what they're doing. If you would be prepared to see them on the basis of the understanding that they can never condone you're being gay, then there might be some room for communication. Tell them you don't expect them to approve what you're doing, that you understand where they're coming from, but that you love them and want to keep the door open for communication. Good luck with that.
2007-09-14 12:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by dweebken 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you and your parents both may know some things that you may not have revealed here tonight. But a Christian parent is bound to love ALL people including children. You are there "one flesh" spoke of in the scriptures. Some people just can't or won't let some things go. Presumably they want the best for you but that does not mean they should disown you. My advice to you is to get to know your TRUE FATHER GOD through His Son Jesus Christ. Then you will experience both salvation and what it is like to be really loved.
God bless you . I will be praying for you.
2007-09-13 19:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are lousy examples of Christians. If they even understand having Christ in their hearts, they are obviously allowing their vanity and egos to get in the way. Start by praying for them, and keep loving them. Maybe the Lord can break through and speak to their hearts. The love of a parent for a child is the most basic instinct God has given us. There is no excuse for breaking that bond. God bless you.
2007-09-13 19:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by babbie 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Christians are supposed to hate sin not the sinner. Jesus died for ALL sinners... He LOVED them enough to die for them even in their sin. We are supposed to do much the same thing Love the sinner while hating the sin. So, I would say that your parents may have been taught incorrectly and are therefore wrong(giving them the benifit of the doubt). That is, unless you have left some of the facts out of your statement of facts that accompanies your question and even given that possibility... I'll answer by saying; As a parent, that there is NOTHING that one of MY children could do that could make me STOP loving them.
2007-09-13 19:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Chaplain John 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No this is not right, I believe homosexuality to be a sin, and it is OK for me to hate the sin but God tells me to love the sinner. To treat you as they do is a sin. You are 'falling down' (pretty much every other human on the planet is to, so don't feel picked on k) you need compassion and understanding and all the other human needs just like anyone else. Some people will never see their own hypocrisies.
Peace and Love and May God bring his light into your life.
2007-09-13 19:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by LaptopJesus 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
No it is not alright. The person you love is something that is wonderful and should be embraced. The fact that you are attracted to people of the same sex, is simply a biological trait just like your skin colour.
We have someone in the family with exactly the same issues. While his brother (my husband) and I embrace him and his partner in our lives and our children's lives, his parents feel the same as yours. They are christian and we are atheists. It comes to a point where sometimes the love of those who do accept you has to compensate for the lack of ethics and compassion your family is showing.
Good luck, and I do hope that your parents become more enlightened over time.
2007-09-13 19:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by nicelyevolve 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋