I'm 24 years old and i think i am going through a mid-life crisis?

Question

where do i begin? i moved to another state with my boyfriend immediately after graduating college and I've gained back all the weight i lost before moving and I'm losing it. i have a house, a good job, dogs, cats, a new car, a great guy; I'm living the life. But i still feel like I'm missing something. I've started crying a lot lately; even crying at work! {embarrassing} so I've come to the conclusion that i must be going through some sort of mid-life crisis. Honestly, I think the real problem is that i don't have any friends here. Being a girl, there is that certain bond that you just don't get from a male... the type that lets you know, it's ok if you've gained a little weight, you still look beautiful.... women, you know this.... guys just don't do the same thing... I'm lonely; i feel like I'm at the age where it's not possible to make new friends, not the kinds you have for a long time through high school and college. I almost don't even know what type of friends i want. help!!!

Answer 1

It is more like Anxiety. It happens when you make huge transitions into uncharted waters. You can now sit back and say that you have arrived into adulthood. The next step, marriage-ville and parenthood. Don't be afraid once you get use to your surroundings you will be back to your old self in no time. I would suggest you and your boyfriend set aside some time everyday to physical activity while the weather is still warm (bike riding, walking, jogging, join a gym). That will help you to start loosing weight again and regain that self confident you once had.
As far as friends depending on the job you have if you are employed in a competitive field don't make friends at work you will live to regret it. Get involved in your community that's the fastest way to make friends.

Answer 2

This isn't a mid life crisis, this is a transitional crisis. Look at all the things that have changed recently in your life. You finished school (the most social time of ones life). You moved away from your family home, got into a relationship (good or bad it's still a transition). You left behind all of your life long friends, but remember they are only a phone call away and you are lonely.

Loneliness is a very difficult thing to get over but it can be done.

Get out, do the things you love most and try to meet others who have similar interests. Maybe even set up a girls night out once a week, or invite women over, they may not be close friends now but over time they could be.

I went through this same feeling after having my son, I build a new home and we moved in. The neighbours are nice but really keep to themselves and I'm a bit of a home body so I got very lonely. I had to force myself to get out and visit people and believe it or not before long the feeling of being lonely did go away and I formed some great friendships.

Hope you have the same success.

Answer 3

OK, what you're weeping about is part of the grieving process at having left familiar surroundings and familiar people. It's always possible to make friends. I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I'm still making friends. What you want are friends who are congenial; who have likes/dislikes similar to, but not exactly like, your own; people who can carry on an intelligent conversation. You're not really in a mid-life crisis here, so gather yourself together and put yourself in social situation where you'll meet new people and form new friendships. It will take time and effort, but in the long run it's all worth it.

Answer 4

Welcome to life. It sucks when mom and dad take their money away, doesn't it? How can you have a great guy and still be lonely? Women are a lot more hateful towards other women then men ever are. Exercise if you are getting over weight or you will lose that great guy. Quit whining, junior high is over! If you're worried that this is your mid-life crisis, well some of us have to die young!!!

Answer 5

Your having a crisis all right, but not mid-life. Your no where close to being in mid-life. You need to make some friends, (girl friends are so important) and you may also have a hormone imbalance. Go to the doctor and get a check up. Tell him/her exactly how you feel. You have made a lot of important changes in your life recently. Maybe things happened to fast.

Answer 6

I went through something similar when I was 21. My mom died, I started a new job, and I got married. I think I was just really depressed and overwhelmed, adult life hit me very hard and all at once. It got to the point where I didn't want to get out of bed and getting through the day was a chore. Fortunately I had an understanding wife and friends who went out of their way to spend time with me. It was the worst time of my life, but after a few months I came around. I've never felt that way since and I'm 38 now. Hang in there!

Answer 7

It's alright, I don't think it's a mid life crisis, more like what you explained about your loneliness. Perhaps you should go out with some friends at work, call up old friends. Join community events, for dogs and such, maybe you can meet other dog lovers there as well. Remember, your never to old to make friends =) Good Luck.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to tell you but this is not a mid-life crisis........ you have everything it takes to be happy, just not friends??? That is not a crisis..... A crisis would be losing your house, car, boyfriend, dog something completely devastating. Maybe you should take some classes to make some friends, maybe yoga, spinning, art???? Something fun just to make friends.

Answer 9

Oh yes, I'm 23 and I feel the same way about the life crisis, or at least I used to. You need to figure out what you want out of life and how you're going to get it.

Answer 10

just turned 43 and I KNOW I'm in the malais of a mid-life crisis.