ive been with the company for less than 4 months now. good pay, fantastic benefits, am and pm shift (suitable for me) and also quite a lot of things for me to learn. but today, ive been dignosed with adjustment disorder. the doc said that its just a step away from nervous breakdown and depression.my manager and a few other colleagues out of 17 IS the problem.
1. fault-finding - anything so minor would be put under "stand up" for so and so. and reprimanded in front of WHOEVER - including patients.
2. constantly bad-mouthing each other behind and even if the person is around.
3. open sarcastic talk when ppl dun get along with another person
4. ZERO tolerance of anything that may cropped up during work. (no professionalism)
5. CONSTANT putting down on others to show one is more intelligent.
6. Put the blames on other when something goes wrong. (i witness how one of my colleagues was being blamed for something she wasnt responsible for!)
2007-09-13
18:59:02
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my manager said she had some feedback for me and brought me to a room. (i knew what its all about - a SUBORDINATE went to complain to her about me) she actually believed her! they said my manager has light ears and all these is proving it so. i was having struggling thoughts if i should tell the manager about that particular subordinate's working attitude but ive decided to live and let live. she, however, went on and created stories to make believe and looks like a pathetic victim! i have conscience and i know GOD is watching.
my beliefs:
1. to go easy on others mistake unless repeated more than 3 times
2. smile and always treat ppl with sincerity
3. always eager to learn and have no ego when im being "taught"
4. respect the seniors and come to work with a "beautiful heart"
5. dont gossip and ruin others reputation
6. if at fault - admit sincerely and learn from it (i even wrote all my mistakes down, so i wont repeat it! stressful!)
tell me, will i go crazy if i stay on?
2007-09-13
19:07:38 ·
update #1
Gary K - dont think little of what a constant blaming, negative work environment can do to a person.
2007-09-13
19:19:20 ·
update #2
dear J P, u seemed to be answering a few of my qns lately - negatively. ( i wonder why) well anyway, ur gut feeling and yrs of counselling didnt help. and ur wrong. This is my first full time job after my graduation last yr. ur sense of "smell" is not working too, sadly. why do i need the approval of strangers to decide if i should quit my job? i needed to hear what others have gone thru and i so appreciate it. my qns is asked that way because i wanted to attract more ppl, not because i needed votes to support my decision to quit. something u learned. apparently there are some nice souls here who are willing to share their life-experiences with me. and r u also trying to tell me that ppl who shared their stories here r job-hoppers too? how do u counsel others when u dun give ppl the benefit of doubt? another wonder.
take care and try to have a heart sometime in ur life.
2007-09-14
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We spend more than 1/3 of our adult lives devoted to our jobs. Do you really want to spend this much time being unhappy? Life is short. You should consider some alternatives.
I quit a job that paid over six figures because of some of the reasons that you listed.
Money isn't everything and since I've always landed on my feet, I personally had no reservations about leaving such an unprofessional and depressing work environment.
Judging from your question, you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders and I'd guess you would have no problems finding a better job with better working conditions.
One really sad fact that you do need to consider is that in ALL work places, especially in the medical field for some reason, there will be a few bad apples trying to spread some of the workplace diseases that you described in your question. You should be prepared to deal with these types of people (on a much smaller scale) even when you do find your ideal job.
Bottom line, get out as soon as humanly possible or as soon as your financial situation permits. Do some homework before you accept a job and talk to some of the employees to determine how the work environment is. Be persistant and you will find a place that suits you.
2007-09-13 19:30:08
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answered by Whoda thunkit? 5
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Your health and well being should come first honey. Stuff the job!
I have been up and down on anti depressants and anti phycotic drugs most of my life after going through a crap childhood and teen and i found that it didn't matter how much i was scared to change the moment i left the town i lived in and all my old friends and started fresh, I met a new man who got me off the anti depressants and i now have 2 kids am happily married i have a great new job and i will never look back.
As much as change seems to suck, maybe the best thing to do is follow your brain not your scared heart.
2007-09-13 19:09:36
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answered by pardygirl23 2
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Ok... I'm about to get into personal matters about a family member of mine who just went through the **exact** same thing as you are.
If you're going through all of that... I don't care how well they pay or how well the benefits are... they're not paying you good enough to put up with abuse.
What they're doing to you is abuse... and it's a bad thing.
Mental and verbal abuse are the 2 worst abuses because they mess with your mind and you'll be messed up for the rest of your life.
My mom let her work get to her so bad that she ended up in a mental hospital. She's gonna have to be on SSI and use medication for the rest of her life! She tried killing herself... she cut her wrist and she just flipped ~~ I found out that she was in the hospital for almost a week ON MY BIRTHDAY... becaue she didn't want the family to tell me she was in there. We live 2,000 miles apart from each other. Even thouh I am not there... I am hurting for her because I know that she was never like this before she started working at that awful place she was working at.
Please.... for your own health and safety... QUIT that job.
I wouldn't want ANYONE to go through what my mom went through. It's an awful thing and you have to put a stop to it before it gets any worse.
If I were you... I'd definitely get your physician to write a statement on your behalf what is going on at your work and seek legal advice.
Mental and verbal abuse in the work place has got to stop!!!
I wish you the best of health and luck.
Please, please... quit your job!!! Find something else!!!
2007-09-13 19:09:57
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answered by s!mply ♥ ad0rabl3 2
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I would look for a job and have it lined it before you quit. But I would think what is the price if you quit your job, what is the pros and cons? List them both and take a look at them. Give a day or two a break, go back the list and take a look at them again. If the list still make sense to you, you would know what to do next.
2007-09-13 19:05:56
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answered by Anonymous
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that is the same type of crap that I deal with on a daily basis...I know exactly how you feel. Just make sure you use the company for what it's worth. If it's not worth anything, I would leave. The only thing that really keeps me hanging on is that they pay for my college, until I get a degree, I don't have many options but to deal with those types of people. Also, worry about what is going to get you ahead and try not to let any of those people get you bothered. It sucks that we have to work with those types of people.
2007-09-13 19:15:56
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answered by FerretLover 3
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Yes, you will go crazy if you stay at that job. No job is worth ruining your health and well-being over. It will carry over into other aspects of your life such as substance abuse, reckless behavior, and cause problems with your family and relationships. You need to find a new job and walk away from this one.
2007-09-13 19:15:39
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answered by RoVale 7
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I have a gut feeling (from years of counseling) that this isn't your first work related situation where you haven't been able to adjust. If you have a therapist, take his/her advice; if you don't have one, get one. If I'm right and you have a history of bouncing around jobs which you haven't mentioned here, and your question is just to get the approval of strangers, then you don't have mine. I smell underlying problems.
2007-09-14 06:01:30
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answered by Anonymous
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...its the same crap in any company; all people want to do is gossip, and create problems.
Get a new job and leave, if you feel you're being mistreated report them to the state labor board.
2007-09-14 00:47:45
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answered by samdugan 4
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If that is all the problems you have,you haven't got a clue to what a stressful job is. Stop whining and get back to work.
2007-09-13 19:10:10
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answered by Anonymous
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think of all the bills you must pay...we all have stressful jobs but mine doesnt even pay well so think of that part of it...i know how it is...i had an illness that made me lose the previous job..
2007-09-13 19:03:54
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answered by Anonymous
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