And I'm always shy when around him..damn!
And I don't want to tell him directly that I like him because I'm not sure he likes me.
He invited me out for dinner twice but we didn't touch this matter at all ( we almost didn't talk). I'm dying to tell him but I don't want to lose him if I do.
What should I do?
2007-09-13 17:04:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me on this one...
...shy guys like aggressive women. They want women to come to them. Just tell him that you like him, or at least ask HIM out.
2007-09-13 17:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by SoulDawg 4 UGA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a shy man myself, I think that is a VERY safe bet that he wouldn't have mustered up the courage to even ask you to dinner if he wasn't thinking the same thing. He is probably wanting to see if you're interested before he makes a move. (A common shy man technique).
I have been in these situations many times, and I can tell you that shy men use caution and don't want to rock the boat if it isn't mutual. I remember telling myself many times that I liked a girl but didn't want to spoil the friendship. Therefore, nothing happened unless she indicated she was interested pretty clearly.
You want my advice? Tell him how you feel and ask him point blank if he likes you back, or if you are feeling bolder, just kiss him and see how he reacts. He probably likes you, and even if he doesn't, what have you really lost? If you barely spoke you guys either need to break the tension by making a move on each other, or stop hanging out.
Please do something about it, because he probably won't, unless you hit him over the head with how you feel.
One last thing: it is worth it to take a chance in a situation like this. If you "stay friends", chances are you two will eventually drift apart anyway in the normal course of life. But if you get together as a couple, the rewards could be huge, well beyond simple friendship. So do it. If someone offered you a casino bet where the winnings were a million times higher than the bet, wouldn't you do it? In my experience, that's what these things are like. The jackpot is so huge, it makes all the risks seem small. You don't want to wonder years later about what could have been.
2007-09-14 00:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Alexander S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he invite you for dinner twice, there is a high possibility that he like you a lot, pick up your courage and ask him. All the best
2007-09-14 00:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by unsastisfied 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask him. Because you will never know whether you talked him into a relationship. If he likes you enough and doesn't want you just for a friend, he will ask you in time. He may just want a friend and is gay. Who knows. So wait your time and if he never asks you, you will be better of, just being friends.
2007-09-14 00:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Renee B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a shy guy so i know this stuff-make the first move.its the only way once he sees the signal he'll either that you like him and he'll pick up from there or just politely say that he doesnt want to
2007-09-14 00:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sigh, there is no way around it. u have to be direct and tell him ur feelings coz u will get nowhere if u dont do anything. if he doesnt reciprocate the same feelings, settle for being friends and move on.
2007-09-14 00:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by blueberrymuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was in the same situation kinda.
i was scared to tell ryan that i liked him because i didnt kno how he would take that but i told him and now we have been dateing for a month.
im jsut trying to say that you never know untill you try.
so just go for it
2007-09-14 00:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by GhOsTy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just casually imply that you have a crush on him and he most likely will not get scared off. Trust me, I love it when girls tell me that they are interested in me... even if I'm not interested in them.
2007-09-14 00:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a note.
2007-09-14 02:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by zotzotzot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends.
2007-09-14 00:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by tanjie_092557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋