So, a few weeks ago I cheated on my bf with a guy I met and I wrote & sent a letter to him telling him that I did, but then all of a sudden, his family members start calling me, first his brother and then about 20 minutes later his grandma, and asking me why I did that (sent the letter).. Personally I think he has more of a right to know than they do, but yea.. Anyways, they were all trying to think of ways to keep it from him. Should I be mad about that, first off?
Then, I am supposed to be moving in with him in like a few weeks (yea I know I am stupid for cheating) but everyone is like just come down anyways, but I am thinking I'm not going down until I hear something from him. I mean it's his extremely meddling family telling me to still come down and what not, but I haven't heard anything from him and I am assuming he has known for almost a week now. I don't know what to do. Should I stay here and wait to hear from him (like I want to) or go like his family is telling me to?
2007-09-13 16:30:11 · 9 answers · asked by britnic7687 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me add this... First...He is in jail (and has been since March), so I can't just pick up the phone and call him or talk to him face to face. So a letter was the ONLY way that I, myself, could tell him... Trust me, I wanted to actually be talking with him when I told him... Second...It's not like I had intentions to cheat on him... I did NOTHING the entire time he has been in, up until this point anyways. I barely even went out with my guy friends (which means I pretty much stayed in all the time)... So if you are gonna say something, don't make it sound like I am a common slut who does this all the time. This was the first time in 20 years that I have cheated on someone...
2007-09-13 16:43:33 · update #1
I think that you should definately wait until you hear from him. He is obviously upset about it, as he has spoke to his family about it. It seems weird that they are the ones calling you and NOT him, and I know he could call through his normal channels if he wanted too.
IF he wants to talk to you at all period, he will call. If he does not call, I think it would be wise to move onwards and upwords. You can't unring the bell, and something tells me from his silence about the whole thing that it is something that would be held against you, not something that makes life easy, trust me I know from experience!
2007-09-15 02:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you send a letter? That is the worst way to tell someone you cheated, you could have at least told him face to face or over the phone. You don't seem remorseful at all. I think you should hold off on moving in with him, but go see him to discuss the cheating issue. Who knows after he finds out the relationship may be over anyway.
2007-09-13 23:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you tell him? Some things can be kept a secret. He probably isn't calling you because he doesn't want to be with someone who cheated on him or because he thinks you should be the one to call him. I think you should call him and ask him if it's on or is it off. What is the point in sitting around wondering. He deserves some kind of explanation from you. Next time keep your mouth shut. Good luck.
2007-09-13 23:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a relationship with his family. You are with him. You need to call him and talk to him. A letter is probably not the best way to let him know something like that. Call Him.
2007-09-13 23:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by tauros519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... ummm id say txt him or some thing if possible let him know he has a letter waiting for him and you want to hear from him... i dont think u should go down because if he finds out after u go down there.. then what will you do.. its better off u stay where u are but best of luck
2007-09-13 23:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I can't tell you whether you should be mad or not. While his family shouldn't meddle in his affairs, they must like you a lot to overlook your cheating and still want you to come and live with him. However, it is his decision and yours, not theirs. So I would say, wait until you hear from him.
2007-09-13 23:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don't go down there and it was good of his family to not tell him about the letter, why are you trying to hurt him more by being selfish enough to tell him what you did to begin with ??? leave him- he obviously deserves so much more then a woman who cant keep her pants on!!!!
2007-09-13 23:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have told him to his face. You should be the one to talk to him first. Don't move in with him until you handle everything with him.
2007-09-13 23:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats bigg.. i think you should go and talk to him.
2007-09-14 00:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by AKR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋