Today, as I was coming home from work, I heard my name being called, it was my ex-fiance that I haven't seen in 2 years. She cheated on me with a friend of mine from college, I loved her so much and she broke my heart. Surprisingly, when I looked over at her I was astounded to see that she was EXTREMELY PREGNANT!! She told me that the relationship just ended with him and he left her 8 months pregnant, she was so happy to see me and wanted to do dinner, I am single at the moment just out of a long distance relationship , Does it hurt to do dinner?
2007-09-13 16:02:07 · 25 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That would depend on what either of you expects to happen there. If its just two old friends catching up (remembering the way you broke up) then its fine. But if either of you has another agenda (finding a new daddy for her baby, revenge - look how far you've fallen), I would ask you to think, is it going to be worth the pain?
So you have to decide - What do you expect, and what sort of answers are you prepared to give if the questions do come up?
2007-09-13 16:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with going to dinner with your ex but keep in mind a few things while having dinner. She is pregnant with hormones that are going faster then she can think. And you are the one that she lost cause of what she did so there is a chance she wants to try things out with you again especially if you are a good guy that would help be a daddy for her baby. A woman never really wants to raise a baby alone. Also remember this there is always a connection with a woman and the father of her child and unfortunately you are not the father. Be her friend but don't step back into the role you once shared.
2007-09-13 16:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi :) You talk about your feelings towards this girl but say how you don't want her back after what she's done and you can't forgive her - what has she done that has been so bad? You admitted you made a mistake with the relationship too, and doesn't everyone deserve a second chance? Are you sure you wouldn't want her back, because she gave you the happiest days of your life - I'm not saying you couldn't find these feelings with someone else if you genuinely didn't want her back and wanted to move on, but since you've been thinking about her a lot you obviously still care very much about her. If it were me, I would try and make it work again with her because of the way you feel about her, but if you do decide to move on with your life and not be with her, then my advice would be to talk to her about it, apologise for the wrongs you have done and ask to remain friends - that way you will still have contact with her. Don't do this however if you have romantic feelings towards her however, as that will just end in catastrophe. You seem like a nice honest guy - hope it works out for you! :)
2016-05-19 00:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd steer clear of going out to dinner or anywhere else with her at this point. He recently left her and she may be looking for someone to replace him, without realizing it. Be her friend, calls and emails (limited) won't hurt. She probably needs a little extra support right now. But if you want to be her friend or more again, take it slowly. There was a reason you broke up earlier. Maybe she's grown from that experience and isn't the "cheating type" anymore but there's no way to know that right now.
2007-09-13 16:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do yourself a big favor, don't go to dinner don't call here don't talk to her don't do anything but turn around and find yourself a knew girlfriend or take a brake for a while and do some stuff for yourself like have some fun.Do not hook up with her you think u hurt before you will hurt even more in the future with her RUN.
2007-09-13 16:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by David J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Doesn't hurt to go to dinner.
Does hurt to get roped into a relationship based on the past so that you're there to see her through the end of the pregnancy AND possibly help raise the kid.
On the upside, if you do sleep with her now at least she can't get more pregnant.
2007-09-13 16:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, she made a mistake and left your relationship. It doesn't mean she is evil or bad, she just did not have the feelings for you at the level needed to keep her loyal. You can be the bigger man and take her dinner and have closure. I am sure along with dinner she will have a little humble pie.
2007-09-13 16:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not even think of doing dinner! This is not a person with whom to spend time. She doesn't deserve your company. I think it is really rude of her to even suggest dinner after the way she treated you.
When you think of the most painful events in your life, she is responsible for one of them. There was no/minimal concern for you or your feelings. Her behavior was unacceptable.
You shouldn't have any kind of relationship with a person of this character. And you should ask yourself why you would even think of wanting to have dinner with a person like this. You deserve to spend your time meeting and eating with quality women who treat you well.
She is not trustworthy and so you have no way of knowing whether she means anything she says.
After years of relating I really feel like I could come up with exactly what she would be planning to tell you. Her goal would be to get back with you. In order to do this, she would say that she was immature and made bad decisions back then, but she has learned her lesson and she would be the last person to cheat now that she has seen the consequences. She would want to keep seeing you. No one else is going to date her now. She would try to get you emotionally involved. You really wanted her and you'd be willing to forgive her if she works on you enough. It's probably fine to forgive her, but don't subject yourself to her and her behavior. You can get a quality person, you don't need to put yourself at great emotional risk just to have someone.
Members of our society need to learn that they can't treat others really badly and then expect that they would want to spend more time with them.
2007-09-13 16:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if you want to accept her totally and completely. She is very needy right now. It's up to you. If you want to be her husband and help raise the baby, go for it. You have to realize that she'll want that. She needs someone to help with her life and the new baby. Do you want to take all of that on? In other words, don't count on just dinner.
2007-09-13 16:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG DON'T DO IT!! Are you stupid or something? Dense? Can't you see whats gunna happen? Shes a user , wants some comfort for a while then I GUARENTEE as soon as the baby comes, 'Bingo' there-s the old boyfriend back again suddenly wanting to play Daddy, also have you forgotten that she CHEATED on you?????????????????????? Politely turn her down and find a NEW girl with zero baggage and a good relationship ethic.
2007-09-13 16:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by Renesme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋