okk so i have this friend who is starving herself and im the only one who knowsshe is on and off with stuff like this but i dont know if shes doing it for the attention or just doing it to loose weight. she says she thinks shes fat and wants to loose 30 lbs but shes in a healthy weight range.. is she telling me because she wants the attention or because she is just trusting me and needs someone to telll?shell say stuff to me like dont bring up anything to anyone else. she barely talks about it with me but im the one who asked her about everything and she told me but rarely brings anyhting up what should i do? should i tell somone else
were 16
2007-09-13 15:12:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
She will have to see for herself (no exception) how being skinnier cannot and won't get her whatever she believes it can and does.
Improving the story of her life will not get her any lasting peace and happiness,
only being here in this moment enough will allow her to experience the peace and happiness that is inherently here in this moment.
2007-09-13 15:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if she barely talks about it - then she's not looking for attention. But the fact that she has shared this very private issue with you is definitely a sign that she trusts you. There are certainly specil groups that can help her. I'm not computer savy enough to provide you with computer links but I am sure that if you look up Eating disorders on the Net, you will find a whole bunch of information that can give you and your friend a good idea of how to get help. Aside from that, you can go to any medical facility to obtain literature on eating disorders ( usually they have the name and phone # of organizations) where your friend could receive the help that she needs. In the meantime, sit down and talk with your friend and let her know how concen you are for her.
2007-09-13 15:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same problem as you are right now! She is only doing it for attention because she is a drama queen. I was anorexic and I was not doing it for attention. I was actually sick and needed help. And I really needed the help. So, if you know your friend and she is a drama queen she is probably just doing it because she wants you to say oh your not fat. But, if she is not a drama queen I would for sure tell some people.
2007-09-13 15:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by jenn h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 is a hard age and you both are going through so much right now. I would definitely talk to her first and see if you can get her to seek some help. Chances are, she won't, then I would speak to either a school counselor. If you want to start there and be annoymous that would be good too. Just as long as an adult knows what is going on so they can watch her along with you.
2007-09-13 15:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by MLH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a mental illness in females who cant handle the changes in life to become a woman . Society has so many donts and life is hell at her age . They have chosen to remain pure and never have a period and avoid love and losing love and all the pain in the world. Also there are adults who are preaching at her real hard.
2007-09-13 15:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow people who have real issues with ED's keep them very hush-hush and are afraid of people knowing or pointing it out...so i hate to say this...but there is a chance of her doing it for attention...but i would tell the school nurse so it doesn't get out of control...
i kept mine well hidden...and made everyone else look like THEY were crazy...but i got caught in the end...i was annoyed then but am better off now...
2007-09-13 15:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be doing it for attention. (this girl in my grade pretended to be depressed and cut herself to get attention, which is kinda offensive, because, i used to be really pissed about life and I was a real cutter....) Is she actually starving herself? If she's anorexic, you need to tell someone. 1 out of five anorexics DIE.
2007-09-13 15:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I staved myself when i was younger and i did it because i wasn't happy.
It makes you feel that you have control over something!!!!!
Ask your friend if there is something wrong at home, is she worried about something?
No one knew that i did as i had no one to tell, she obviously trusts you so you must be a good friend.
I grew out of it when i left home as i had very strict parents (I wasn't allowed to leave the house only to go to school) and i finally felt free.
This was me though and your friend may have a different reason. Talk to her about it and encourage her to talk to an adult she trusts.
Hope this helps,
Sonia
2007-09-13 15:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by sonia h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, you need to tell someone. I don't think she would be telling you to get attention if she's just telling you. She might get mad, but tell her that she needs help. That's not healthy for a growing person...for anyone actually
2007-09-13 15:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell anyone, the worst thing you could do is lose her trust. Be there for her, she needs someone to lean on right now. You need to make her feel good about herself. But watch her and make sure that she is ok.
2007-09-13 15:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋