Have you ever been in relationships that you have given of yourself with no sense of satisfaction?

Question

either you were giving for the wrong reasons or what you give is not being received??It is being denied its being dishonered???

Answer 1

Actually I have learned that every relationship has a point, has given something in return. I may not like it but it is a fact and therefore I find satisfaction in the fact that I learned something .......one way or the other. Thus being able to pick up and move on , or kick up my heels and dig in, or learn to release and live.

Answer 2

I think no one has ever been in a relationship who didn't achieve some satisfaction with it, either through the events of the relationship, or the experience the relationship created, even the worst of them.
You can certainly be in a relationship that brings no happiness or fulfillment over time, or is personally damaging pretty much from the get-go, but you can have the satisfaction that once it's ended, you can recognize the signs the next time around and avoid it.
Besides, if you've given your all or your best, you can be satisfied with your own giving, regardless of the other party.

Answer 3

This is how we learn about relationships, both proffesional and personal. Sometimes its trying too hard that becomes the problem, or as it may be ouor expectations are a wee tad high. As for unconditional love, well thats a different thing al together. Its the sort of thing a parent has for thier children, a dog has for its master or indeed God has for his flock. I would go with disrepectful rather than dishonoured. I feel that honour is part of personal integrity and its not something any one can take from you. But hey we are all indaviduals

Answer 4

Yes. I felt it was the right and honorable thing to do despite the lack of satisfaction. Its the wrong thing to do because the other person in the relationship wanted me to feel the way I made him feel. Not being able to do so and staying regardless ends up hurting the other person even more.

Answer 5

Hi Rena, When my relationship ended because horrible tragedy. I was left with a gut wrenching emptiness.Which went on so it seems forever.I was left disappointed and hollow.I even get heart pangs now thinking of the past events.I was very saddened because we could of shared so much more.Plus i feel responsible is some way.Guilty that i could,NT prevent it.And my recent split with Sarah, Has left me hollow again with mixed emotions.but it feels different then before. Maybe i,m getting immune to heart break now.

Answer 6

No. In any relationship worthy of the name, satisfaction comes from giving, and from what one has to give being received, whether it is appreciated or not. But when it is rejected, or one's inclination to give has been exhausted, it is time to move on. There are many pebbles on the beach. That's what makes life so rich.

Answer 7

The relationships I have are only of my Family, since I have been Married for a lot of years, they are the only relationship I have had. I am a very satisfied, wife, Mother Grandmother, and Great Grandmother.

Answer 8

Before meeting my future wife, I was in a very bad relationship this way. I thought I could buy myself respect and love and turned out I was becomming her sugar daddy. When i realize i was being used, I bolted.

Answer 9

Absolutely - I've given without it being reciprocated. I'm not sure why. I'll respond (for others to read) the same way I did with your other question ... I feel my learning experience is one that can teach a lesson to some poor, unsuspecting, person who will get their heart broken:

I've been married, once. I got married when I was 22 to a man that I was so in love with the sun might as well have risen and settled in his eyes. Now that I look back at it, I can certainly tell you that it was true love on my part, not just infatuation. Unfortunately, the true love was not reciprocated to me. For him, I think it was a marriage of convenience, a little bit of infatuation, and a means of "getting whatever he wanted" as Shahbarak pointed out.
My ex-husband was in the military, and two months after we got married, he was deployed for an 18-month tour in Afghanistan. We knew the deployment was approaching, and I knew it would be tough to be newlyweds, and be separated for over a year so early in the game, but I never expected that we were not "in it together."
He ended up cheating on me with a female soldier, then after I decided to make it work anyway and "take him back" he left me when he got home for an ex-girlfriend of his. He communicated, come to find out, with her the whole time unbenounced to me. They were married 3 months after our divorce was final.
After moving on, I fell in love again, and the man moved in with me. He was 35 years old, had been married twice before, and had a 9 year-old son from the first marriage. He was loving, kind, and attentive. After being "burned" the first time like I did, I was very cautious, but ultimately decided it was not fair to him to have him "pay for my ex's mistakes." So, I opened my heart again.
We unexpectedly got pregnant (I was on the pill), and about two months after the fact, I found out that he was leading a kind of double-life. He was highly addicted to gambling, and took out loans in the amount of monthly payments equivalent to my house payments without discussing it with me before he agreed to it. It got so bad financially, that I was literally one week away from having my car and my house reposessed. It was horrible. I asked him to move out due to the irresponsibility on his part - I thought that if he could do this while I was pregnant to me and the baby, nothing would change once the baby was born. It was the hardest decision of my life thus far.
I haven't heard from him since. Come to find out - he won $75,000 in the local lottery (brought home 50K of it), and is dating a woman with two girls of her own.

So, it's been my experience that people do marry for convenience, or money. But I still believe that people marry for love. It's just more rare than it used to be. Or, in fact, love may not be more rare, but dedication definitely is.


My baby (as son to be named Gabriel) is due in 5 weeks.

Answer 10

yes i have. i was in love with this guy. i was buying him things, i was giving too much. i felt like i was the only one trying to make it work.