How to know when its time to quit a relationship?

Question

I am in love with a woman. On many levels she is wonderful. She is very beautiful and we have had some great times together. I am good to her - I help her out financially and treat her well. We live together. She is good to me sometimes. It sounds petty but she is crap at housework and initially i didnt mind but lately i am becoming pissed off with having to clean up all the time. We have great sex but often she is not in the mood etc but i know she watches porn and masturbates sometimes. This didnt obther me initially but now it kind of does. We have spoken lately about a long term future. I honestly think she wants it - marriage kids etc but I wonder if it can work. I suppose it comes down to the fact that i feel as though i give 110% to us and she gives a lot less. I do love her though and would miss her terribly. How do you know whether or not things can work out longterm and when it is time to quit. Advice appreciated. P.

Answer 1

Lets just say love isn't enough, if all you have is the love for each other, it isn't going to work. Its just a fundemental fact of love, that unless you know what to do with it (she apparently doesn't, and your no genius with it) your just going to end up hurting each other. Lets just say love lends to the big things like, trust, understanding, compassion, passion, companianship, purpose, the things that actually matter the loves just the fuel. She is doing a terrible job of it, but again not all our parents taught us how to do it. Like in your case you seem to be doing a good job of loving her, but not yourself. And just so you know WHEN YOUR IN LOVE THE SEX IS ALWAYS GREAT!!!! RRRRRRRRR I hate when people do that, they act like the sex being wonderful is some god darn act of skill that proves the love is strong, no, love just makes sex good, geeeze.......I guess people want to believe that sex means love, when in fact love means good sex, so don't but that as a desciding factor when you want to know weather its going to work out or not.... guess how good it would be if you guys were actuall more in love! or rather felt more for each other.... but unless she can communicate more to you about WHY she acts the way you do, she isn't ready for a actual relaitonship, which in all reality most of us are not....