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Question Details: I'm going to lose it...the pressures...the strain...i'm ready to run away and become a homeless, baglady...and i'm not kidding. there are moments when i want to die and drive off a cliff, but i don't want to leave behind a devastated family. :(

i just started a job as a teacher, but i hate it. we need the paycheck desperately and the medical benefits so i can get help and meds, but i can't make it until then. it's not good to be depressed as a new, first year elementary school teacher.

if i walk away, i walk away from hope, but i can't cling to it...i don't want to go back...the thought puts me over the edge. i'm taking tomorrow off (i'm getting the stomach flu passed on by my daughter.)

i feel as though i let everyone down (and incurred loans to pay for the education) but no amount of positive talk is getting me through this. i am crying all the time. not in front of the kids, of course. my own kids are young adults with depression problems, too. they can't work either. help

2007-09-13 14:21:16 · 20 answers · asked by hope03 5 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

20 answers

Good Grief! I feel absolutely horrible for you. First of all, I want to thank you for becoming a teacher. You chose a very honorable and underpaid profession. There is at least one child in your classroom that worships you, even if you don't know it. That child will talk about you when they are an adult, and tell their child how you made a difference in their life.

It sounds like you are suffering from depression. Maybe the whole process of going to school while you were raising a family, and incurring expenses was too much to deal with when you were experiencing it. Now that you are done, and can see the light at the end of the tunnel, your body is finally able to release all the stress it felt during that time. I admire your strength to make it as far as you have.

Please talk to someone. Maybe you need something as simple as a change in routine, or maybe you need medication. But you need to do something so you can enjoy your life.

Good luck and God Bless!

2007-09-13 14:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 0 1

Hope - only can be found in Jesus. I know how you feel, I am so sorry because this is a difficult situation and so hard to go through. I know what you mean about running away. I felt this way at one time also, because the pressure of life can be so over burdening. Try to listen to some praise and worship music. I also would watch Christian TV, this would soothe my nerves and settle me down. Do you have a local prayer line you can call to speak with someone. I wish I could say the words that would make everything okay and go away. I will pray for you this evening. You can also find a walk in mental health clinic where you can receive some emergency care.Please let us know how you are doing.

2007-09-13 21:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I can totally understand how you feel. I've been there, trust me.
My only advice is probably what you are sick of hearing.
Please don't do anything crazy like take your life or walk away from everything, meaning your family who loves you.
It would be okay to walk away from the job, I think, if you simply cannot stand it.
Is there anyone you know who has a positive effect on your mood and is clear-headed enough to help you see light in all your darkness? You need to talk to them. Someone considerate and caring. That is the only remedy I've ever found for my bouts of depression.
Please hang on. Don't give up. There IS hope and you will see it again.

2007-09-13 21:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by My Name Is Ken 5 · 1 0

Go to www.focusonthefamily.com, the founder of this site is Dr. James Dobson. It's not just a family site but since you do have a family and yourself that depends on you then something I'm quite sure will come out of this. He's a good Christian Dr. I've heard him talk a lot on the radio. Father God, I'm asking you with all love and compassion to help her. Right now God I ask you to do for her like you did for Elijah and send to her ministering Angels. Give her what she needs, whether it be physical, mental, financial, or spiritual. In Jesus' Holy Name. Amen.

2007-09-13 21:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by vanda hash 1 · 1 0

I'm in the same position as you. I'm 25 and single, living on my own with a very bad job, very bad paycheck and hardly anything to cover the expenses. It's driving me crazy and i cry too. (Yes and it takes a man to admit crying)

But what i would do is take charge of my life and choose good options, devise a plan to make things work, talk with the family and friends, work it out. Don't give up. Even there is times i wanted to desperately die but i rather fight hard. Trust in yourself and trust your family.

You are not alone, in fact millions of people are in our shoes as well.

2007-09-13 21:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by mystic_lonewolf22 5 · 2 0

ok i know that teaching is a time consuming line of work, if you can't seek professional help right now, try to engorge yourself in family and work. Nothing is woth taking your own life or running away. Think about it: if you become a homeless bag lady, you'll be a homeless bad lady with even MORE problems. Keep your head up until you can get help.

2007-09-13 21:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

Hope, why do you hate being a teacher? Is it the work the children or something else. You mention you have older children, so I must assume you like kids. You say if i walk away, if your kids are grown, that would just leave your husband. does he work, does he know how you feel. I cant imagine how he could not. but that may be part of the problem. Do you know Jesus. I don't mean do you know of him, do you KNOW him. There is a peace that surpases all understanding that can only come from him in our times of greatest need. He is there waiting for you to reach out for him. but you must do it. Call upon his name, he is your creator. Don't scoff, in your heart you know he is, look at your name. (Hope) do you think that is just by chance? God does not work that way. He is there waiting, call out to him, open your heart and your mouth and cry out to him. don't cry for your depression, cry out for your future, God knows you heart, speak it out in his name, claim his promises, fall to your knees and tell him, 'Father I need you now! open my heart that I might see you, feel you, know you" he will. Hope there is always hope, its yours but you must reach out and take it. I plead the blood of our savior over you, if you do not know him as your redeamer, now is the time. Set your course, let him lead, you will never turn back.

2007-09-13 22:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Feel free to run away from your problems, to take some time for yourself. It may jeopardize your career, but that means little when going about your everyday life is causing you undue stress. But, you may want to go about the less extreme route. That is, you should just spend some time, everyday, alone for a little while, doing nothing but relaxing and not worrying about your life. Try to let go of the thoughts of suicide, it is okay to accept death as it comes, but, for the time being, life and death are not your concerns, or your answers...your problem is that you feel that you have no purpose and that you overwhelmed with the burden of providing for your family and overcoming your debts. Just be patient, pace yourself, and find something to do in your spare time to calm and entertain yourself....something that is fulfilling and, if it is not your purpose, it can at very least serve as a comforting distraction.

If worst comes to worst, seek psychiatric care.

2007-09-13 21:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

You need to go to a doctor and talk to him/her. Don't tell me you can't afford to go because you have no choice. Your depression may be as simple as a chemical imbalance which can be quickly resolved. Life is too good to give up. Especially a teacher with so much hope for helping those kids. If you can't find in yourself to do it for you, do it for them.

2007-09-13 21:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 1 0

Hi hope03. You should see a doctor. We all get depressed at times and we can all put too much pressure on our self's at times also. God gave us doctors and it is not sinful to see one when we are not mentally or physically well. A doctor may be able to give you something to even out the highs and lows. Keep praying. God bless.

2007-09-13 21:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

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