my self confidence is shattered....?

Question

i eat one small meal a day
and i get max 3 hours of sleep a day
so i look pretty skinny and tired.
iv always thought this but i kept it to myself coz i just thought it was me bein paranoid.
untill 2 ppl in a week sed i look annorexic. i turned to a friend and asked her if she honestly thought i was too skinny and she said yes and that i should see a doctor and i said i dont want to and that my mum is trying to make me go about me not sleeping and she said yeah that shows as well. you look drained and deprived of sleep in ur myspace pics. the moment she said that what little self confidence i had was GONE. i deleted all the pics where u see my whole face and refuse to go on webcam etc.
i was in tears because of it earlier.
what can i do?

Answer 1

Honey,

You are the most important person in your life right now...and the people you asked are people who love you...that is why they were honest with you.

Sometimes the truth hurts...what your mum said was the truth, and it hurt...but USE IT to make yourself better!

What is the worst thing that could happen at the doctor? If anything, they will help you get to the bottom of what is going on in your body.

You also have to deal with your heart...what is up with YOU...what's bothering you....depriving you of sleep, food, etc. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF.

My heart goes out to you....and I'm praying that you make the decision to LOVE yourself and take care of yourself. The fact that you are concerned about your own well being is the first step...so you are on your way....

Answer 2

Are you hanging out with the wrong crowd? You don't say what has actually caused this...If it was a one-off knock-back then I wouldn't worry about it, because all you are feeling is injured pride (which isn't worth jack!) If this is a longer term issue the you must remember that self confidence is not worrying about what others think of you, and loving you for yourself warts and all. It seems to me that you've lost sight of what's really important. Focus on your friends and take up a new sport or hobby that challenges you. I know you're down, I've been there myself. Pull yourself up, look in the mirror and give it your best smile (I mean this nicely hon...) get over it, and get out there.

Answer 3

Do you have a negative body-image that keeps you from eating?

Whatever the issue is, it's obvious that people around you care about you, and want to see you survive.

What I find curious is if you need more than 3 hours of sleep, and if so, how are you managing to stay awake - if you are using speed or meth, etc., then you're likely headed for some serious health problems.

Speed type drugs would also account for your lack of appetite, and unwillingness to go to the doctor, lest your habit be detected.

It's up to you if you survive - anorexia can be fatal. Get help.

Answer 4

I don't exactly know what you're going through but I too have my own insecurities....We ask people for advice but yet when we get the advice that seems good, we still aren't satisfied. know why? cause anyone can say this and that but if we can't break from the prison in our mind, we will never see the positive things people are telling us.

I guess before anything else let's learn to love ourselfs and embrace the things we cannot change. We have no control in some situation and we cannot control people's opinion of us.

Answer 5

Try to be more confident and find YOU ARE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF! Loving and accepting ourselves is THE MOST CRITICAL FACTOR in experiencing joy,happiness, and success in life. When you really love yourself and you really love other people, you find that life is really an incredible journey where things flow, and no matter what happens you always find a way to enjoy yourself and you feel fulfilled. You MUST love yourself completely.
This determines your STANDARDS for what you are willing to accept or settle for. It determines how well you treat your body and your health, how much money you feel you deserve to earn or feel you can make, your belief in whether you can achieve your goals, how much others RESPECT you and how they treat you, and even whether people like you and want to be around you. People love being around confident people. You see, confident people do not feel the need to judge you or tear you down in order to elevate their own self-worth. They radiate a positive energy. You feel safe around them. You need to consistently and confidently take action to move towards your goals, and towards your ultimate destiny. People who lack in confidence often get ‘stuck’. So you see, your entire DESTINY is shaped by your degree of confidence. True self-confidence comes from an absolute sense of certainty deep within, that you are able to handle anything life throws your way. Truly confident people exude calm, control, power, certainty. They care about people, and they make people feel good when they are around them.They never brag – after all, actions speak louder than words. People who brag are just masking their insecurities. People have varying degrees of confidence depending on what activity they are performing. For example, someone might be totally confident in performing a piano concert, or driving a car, but feel totally inadequate at a new job they’ve started, or at flirting with members of the opposite sex. People with Total Self-Confidence, though, have complete belief in themselves. They never ask themselves “Can I really do this? What if this doesn’t work out? Am I good enough to pull it off?” They know that if they really want something, and they are committed to getting it, it will happen. They know that it’s just a question of time until they’ve mastered the skills and knowledge to make whatever they want a reality

Answer 6

uhhhh r u gettin bullyed in school n depressed or something? u may have a sleeping problem and as for eatin a small meal wtf i could be really tired and still feel hungry thats strange. u should eat at least 3 meals a day lol that would make u fall asleep if im tired and cant go to bed its bascially for 1 reason im to hungry i got an answer to ur probs eat moreeeeeeeeee if ur afraid of getting fat eat haelthy then

Answer 7

Well, sweety, if yu can do it alone--and at this point--I don't think you can--you need the help of a doctor. He maybe could give you some medicine to help you get more sleep--and more sleep with help lots. Get yourself some vitamins. Sounds like you are at rock bottom and need help soon. Please go to the doctor. Get some help. You are too nice of a person not to get help. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Make an appointment with your doctor. It sounds like you are suffering from clinical depression (loss of appetite and poor sleep pattern). A psychiatrist can prescribe medication to help you with your appetite and sleep problems associated with depression. Here's a depression test you can take online and show to your mother.
http://www.med.nyu.edu/psych/screens/depres.html

Answer 9

im sure you still look fine, although it sounds like you need to eat more, and try to enjoy it whaile your doing it bc some ppl cant eat more then they want to. also i would try to sleep more, if you cant get sleep and you try to, i would see a dr about that, pretty simple

Answer 10

It's not about your damn appearance. Stop worrying about it. Your life is at risk.