I really believe that my mom is chooseing her biyfriend over me. My mom is 45 and is old enough to make her own decisions but yet acts childish due to being an alocholic. He is an abuser and many ohter things. Im 17 and moved out is there any way that i can get her to realize what she is doing? And for her to realize that he is controling her life to a point to hwere her daughter cant live there or even get along with her anymore?
2007-09-13 13:32:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should knee him in the nuts as hard as you can to knock him out so he doesn't even remember what happens when he wakes up!!!LOL!!!!
2007-09-13 13:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is there a school counselor, a pastor, that you can talk to?
First of all I respect that you see this as a problem and that you are the one having to step up and be responsible although as a mother myself, ideally it shouldn't be this way.
I think attending AA could help you. When people bring up questions, this would be an excellent one to bring up. There are as many non-alcoholics (friends & family members) that attend AA as the alcoholic themselves.
Whether you are spiritual or not, attending a good church always helps. Also, you shouldn't have to carry this burden yourself. I would also recommend that you join a Young Adult church group.
Although you aren't the problem, you are the one who is competent and mature and sober enough to recognize it. Attending things like this can help you to help her.
Best of Luck sweetie
2007-09-13 13:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Diane P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you moving out didn't rattle her brain, I doubt that any thing will until she desides not to drink any more. She has to make this decision, and until she does, just be there if she comes around. She loves you, but is really mixed up because of her alcoholic haze. The more you tell her how bad he is the more she will defend him, so don't talk about him.
2007-09-13 13:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, touugh situation. Not only are dealing with a person who is blindly in love, but it is complicated by alcoholism as well.
My suggestion? Write her a letter, tell her how you feel. But be gentle and make sure you reassure her that you are concerned because you love her. Be loving above all else, and don't be accusatory. In the end, it is her choice though, and love her anyway no matter which choice she makes.
2007-09-13 13:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry honey but unless your mother comes to her senses there is little you can do to make her see what is so obvious to others. It is good that you have removed yourself from the situation to someplace where you will be safe I hope. You can't help her but you can help yourself. Use this as a model of what not to do with your life. I am afraid the only one that can save your mom, is your mom.
2007-09-13 13:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it might be - many people TRULY need to hit "rock bottom" before they realize how bad things have gotten...
Just be there for her whenever you can be - even if all she does is push you away. One day, the will wake up from the nightmare that her life has become - and she will be PROUD that you are there for her :):):)
2007-09-13 13:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find an al-ateen or Al-anon meeting and go, They might be able to give you some direction. But your mom is an adult, and someone, finally, is paying attention to her and she is *** giddy as a schoolgirl. yeah, she's vulnerable, and will get hurt, but if you try and intercede, she will turn on you!
www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html
2007-09-13 14:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am very sorry to hear about your terrible situation. but am afraid no your mom is alcoholic. and that is governing her emotions. at this present time. in other words your mom can see no further than a bottle. god love her. please don't be harsh on your mom. iam sorry . have you no next of kin father that can help you. i wish you all the best . god bless.
2007-09-13 13:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is explain to her how you feel and what it is doing to your relationship with her.I have an alcoholic mother myself and as she tells me she is old enough to make her own decisions.We cant make people do what we want unfortunately in this matter.
2007-09-13 13:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sad.well mabe you should sit down and have a tlk with your mom about how you reali feel about her and her boyfriend.if she dosent understands or says okay then you know that she is reali blowing you off but if she takes it to deep consideration then things should be better.and if she hasnt relized yet . . . then i dont know.hope i helped :]
2007-09-13 13:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋