i was born 1970, i am looking for birth mom?

Question

i was born in tarrent county october 1970
i was taken at nine days old from my mother
. the people that raised me have lied to me about what really happened. i am afraid they told you i died. i am here alive.please if you have any information on my mother or what really happened.

Answer 1

Um maybe you should look at your birth certifacate if that helps

Answer 2

Don't give up. - I almost did. (Well, maybe not... but I did put things off for a long time) I had gotten so frustrated with the system and the way the laws are written, its very easy to say "forget it". But, I know most adoptees won't ever say that, but will feel that way some times. The needs you feel, are strong ones. Don't ignore them. The laws are changing in some states. Information is more available. The internet can help you, and most of all, other adoptees will help you. All you need to do is ask. Listen to all of their stories, their successes, and failures. You can probably learn more from their failures.

Find a friend. - Maybe 2, I did. They see things in a different light than you do. They sometimes think clearer, when you mind is busy with something else. When you find out "Good News", you want someone to share it with... and when you get "Bad News", it good to have a shoulder to cry on. Some of the best friends to have, are ones that you may not see every day. (See 5th hint below)

Consider all the options. - If you don't know the reason you were adopted out... remember it may be something you don't want to hear. Sometimes, the mother didn't want to place her child up for adoption, and she will be very excited to see you. But, also think about the fact that maybe she didn't want you, and she won't want anything to do with you when you find her. There are no reasons better than others, but rape and incest are heavy weight reasons to give up a child. You might bring back memories they don't want to think about.

Keep every clue. - Be somewhat organized. When you collect a clue, put in with the others. Don't just scribble it somewhere, and think it will make any sense later on. After all, it is just a big puzzle. Sometimes stories and clues get twisted and misunderstood as they are told over and over. Read over them regularly and carefully. Every time you read them, something else may come to mind. Maybe a small clue was missed before. I had some clues for years and never realized it. (But, I've never been very organized)

Take it easy with loved ones. - This is your mission. They know what your doing, but may get tired of hearing about it all the time. Maybe "tired" is a bad word, and "frustrated" is a better one. They get frustrated in not being able to help you. They may even start to wish you would give your search up, and go on with your life. Spouses, kids, relatives and neighbors have their own problems. Be sensitive with their needs also. Those friends I talked about earlier come in handy now... you don't see them as often, and they are more likely to lend a hand when you need it, and listen when you need someone to listen.

Be Prepared.- You will be challenged by friends, family, neighbors, and others. They will tell you that "...you don't need to know who your parents are," or "... why do you care?, your adopted family loves you and that's all that matters." They know who their family is, they know where they came from, they know their medical history... and you need to know too. Stand up to that fact, and don't let them discourage you. Don't let it upset you. You have to learn to understand other mentalities. Since they were not adopted, they may feel that you are lucky to have such a good family... (You already knew that, your not trying to find a better family) They may not understand why you want to know your medical history, if you appear to be healthy now. When your approached with these issues, sometimes it's a NO WIN situation. Some people just CAN'T understand. So.... go somewhere else.

Don't forget, you do have a life. - Don't get so wrapped up in your search, you forget about the life your living. There are people around you that care for you, and when you can't find time for them... they get hurt. Don't let your job suffer. Some bosses will support you in your search, and others won't. ( I was lucky, mine did when I needed time off, they gave it to me, and they were very supportive when I found out bad news, and gave me a couple of "vacation days" to recover.) For those that don't have supportive bosses, don't bring it to work with you. Leave your search at home. If you wrap yourself into your search so much, that in hurts your job, you will only make things worse for yourself and loved ones. Remember the "5th hint", about loved ones. They like your attention to them too. If your going to be gone on long trips, maybe take them with you and drive, and make a vacation out of it. Why, not... stop along way, and smell the roses. (Or go to an amusment park... same difference) The point is, don't become a stranger to your loved ones, looking for someone who may not love you as much.

Answer 3

this is not what this site is for. please use a search company like usa people search