My mum and dad argue a lot... When this happens I am being put in the middle and it is like choosing every single time who I love more. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents so much and it is pretty painful seeing them going through all this. When they are both happy and not mad at each other I get amused how much they love each other. They both had bad problems at work (my dad had to find a new job because of political issues and my mum's school got closed so she has to work in another town) so they are both under a lot of pressure.
My mama never cries... now when I see her doing it, I don't know what to tell her... I can't be the parent of two kids who don't want to forgive each other!
How do I make things better for them and help them realize that they need the other one to survive? Sorry it is so long but I have to help them... I love them too much to watch them hurt each other!
2007-09-13 11:38:25 · 4 answers · asked by alLe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey A.nik
Sorry to hear things are a little tough right now.
The above answers are all good advice - let me just add that my parents (when they were alive!) used to argue sometimes, but in a way I found that preferable to friends parents who didn't talk at all - or just split up!
It seems like they have a strong loving relationship which is struggling to deal with external (work) pressures - that's not uncommon, and you may find that these arguments are more "pressure release " than deep seated loathing. They may need to be able to voice these frustrations to each other if they have no other outlet.
You need to stay out of the way when the fur flies, and let them know in the quieter moments that you understand that times are difficult, but you can't be piggy in the middle.
Keep your chin up girl! Fancy that Martini now?
2007-09-14 20:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dingo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi dear!This doesn't sound unfamilar to me,my parents also have quarrels often and I've asked this question to myself thousands of times.I don't think that there is sth special you can do but talk to them.When they argue(it's so terrible to listen them do so) go to them and say"Would you please stop.Why are you doing this?What sense does it make?I can't take this any more,it's very hard to me too.".It would at least make them stop arguing and think things over because of you.And if you catch your mum crying you can just tell her that this is a temporary situation and anything will be ok.Don't be afraid to talk to her,she'd appreciate your support a lot.
Good luck buddy...
2007-09-13 20:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by sunny_babe_ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
You're a good daughter and want to help but
Wise Guy is right. It's not your job, and they
should know better. Get out of the middle.
The first one who tries to 'drag you in` should
be answered with :
" I Hate it when you fight! I love you both!"
That should help a lot, .. for all of you.
2007-09-13 15:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing you can do. They have to work it out.
2007-09-14 10:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋