my man is fed up.?

Question

me & my man is already been together for like 2.5yrs.he cheated on me 1st when we are just starting the relationship.but he did let me know & feel that he regrets it.he did proved that he loves me & all,but i didn't really believe it until now.one day he got fed up & broke up w/me, coz' we're seriously fighting & hurting each other-like literally.the thing is i begged & asked him to come back w/me. now,he is treating me so wrong & now that he even said that he don't want to prove anything.like that he's not cheating on me after two years. in short he doesn't wanna make any efforts to prove it to me after all he did or after all the efforts beforehand. if i want him to love me again then it's all up to me now. my worries is i am putting up all the efforts but i am believing & feeling now that he don't love me anymore or the attraction with h should i still continue the rltxship? but my worry is if i did break-up w/him then i realized that i can't live w/o him,& then im gonna beg again??

Answer 1

Yea you pretty much gave yourself your own answer because the underling element is, thats right, YOU. Your going to go back to him for the same reason you got with him, you think nothing better of yourself. You have to realize two very important things that MIGHT break your cycle. One is that love isn't enough, its takes things like trust, compasion, passion, companianship, understand, just things that you guys havn't really gotten close enough to have. You've put TO MUCH importance on just the love alone, now he's got you. Its simple as that, you've made your goal to small, you have to realize the second thing. Your not love yourself in this situation. The man cheated on you, but was that enough? Nope. The man abused you, was that enough? Nope, all for just love? Think about it, love suppose to give you so much more right? Its not happening becaues he doesn't know the most important thing about love, namly HOW TO USE IT! Thats right, but thats the thing, the mans really sort of a boy. Yea I'm sure you guys have great sex, the fact is WE ALL DO! Thats why we do it like animals! But unless he stands for something, (other then his love for you, which hunnie he did a horrible job of standing by) like a darn purpose in life. Anything, something, outside of you that you can TRUST that he'll hold on to, too..... see that WAS religion, but thats a dead as far as our personal lives go, so we NEED something, anything else..... its not easy...