how to make my 2.10 yr old boy to learn abc, numbers, poems and other preschool things?

Question

i have twins. my daughter picks up things and concepts very fast, but my son although knows how to place alphabets on the activity board doesnt call out abc, or numbers. but can sing film songs when in mood. throws a tantrum or speaks other things to simple questions as what is his name etc. calls out for a fruit of his choice but when i ask him to name fruits he wont tell me. at times he tells poems but wont tell other things. how should i make him learn and more importan is to make him speak new concepts as in numbers, alphabets, poems, colours, name of animals, fruits etc.

Answer 1

Your children are very young and have many, many years ahead of them to learn. While it is hard, do all you can to resist comparing your children. They are 2 very different individuals. It is not a blanket statement (i.e. ALL boys), but boys tend to be slower at academics than girls. On the other hand, boys often develop large motor skills before girls, thus can kick a ball, run, jump, and climb a tree sometimes more easily than girls. Take a good look at your children as individuals. What are your son's strong points? Perhaps it is not something as easily measured as always placing the letters or numbers on a board in correct order, but he is able to throw and catch a ball, makes friends easily, and shares well. Not all children liked to be "quizzed" about what they know. If he can call out the fruit he wants than you know he knows the names of them so maybe you can let that be enough for now. Some kids like to be "performers" and some don't like the spotlight. You run the risk of setting your son up for a life-long dislike of learning if you push him too hard. He likely has a different style of learning than your daughter and may need to work on some of these things later, when he is ready for them. Or, he may know them but just isn't comfortable always being put on the spot. Many of the skills you mention, especially letter, number, and color recongnition are a big part of kindergarten curriculum. Early mastery of these skills does not necessarily translate into superior intelligence. Some children are simply better at memorization skills than others. I suggest that you focus a lot on fun learning and play. Shift the focus from wanting him to speak what he knows and use your observation of him to determine what he knows and what he doesn't. He just may not be ready for quizzing or his personality is such that he is not as outgoing as your daughter. I am mom to 4 kids, ages 28, 25, 22, and 10. None of them went to preschool yet the older 3 graduated with honors from high school and went on to be college students. Our youngest does well in school and plans to attend college as well. My oldest is a teacher, as was my mom, and I have an early elementary education degree, too. My profession the last 20 years has been providing child care in my home. I do no formalized lessons with my daycare children but incorporate a play-based curriculum. All children are different so it is a dis-service to compare them. Some of my daycare children who didn't know their ABC's until 1/2 way through kindergarten are now doing just as well as those who knew them at age 2. Relax the academics a bit, especially for your son. Studies have shown that children who learn early in their childhood do not necessarily do better than children who begin their formal schooling at age 5. Some studies have even shown that children intentionally taught at a young age are more prone to "burning out" early in their schooling and do poorly, especially in their middle school and high school years.

Answer 2

Preschool isn't about just learning abc's silly. Preschool is about learning to be social while going over basic things like abc's and 123's. If you want to do the right thing by your son let him have this year to learn how to be a friend. I took my son out of pre-school because I thought I could do a better job than his teacher when in reality I couldn't expose him to what the students in the class were. You can't teach your child how to get along with different personalities and what to expect later. My son has a really hard time with other kids. He's very shy because I didn't give him the chance to learn in pre-school. He is however really smart but he'd rather be smart and have friends. Good luck to you in your decision making.

Answer 3

he is still very young. so i wouldn't worry too much about it. you will be amazed how he develops by the time he is 3. i'm sure he will be talking a lot more and when he can talk better, he'll be more likely to do all those things you are asking about . i understanding wanting them to learn tho. i have an almost 3 yr old and he has only just started to say his abc's and count past 10. just keep repeating it every day. he will pick it up.

Answer 4

Talking to him a lot ought to do it. He sounds like he's well in the normal range of development for his age. Try not to compare him to his sister, as they are different people with different strengths and weaknesses.

Girls seem to develop and learn evenly and smoothly, where boys tend to do it in spurts. Even at this young age girls are better at multitasking!

Enjoy what both your children have to offer, even if it's easier to converse with your daughter right now. Your son will get there sooner than you think.

Answer 5

You can't "make" him and the more you try the more he will resist. It sounds like he's right where he ought to be. Girls generally develop faster than boys but the boys do catch up. Make sure he has lots of opportunities to play and explore the world, read to him as much as possible and stop pushing him to speak.

Answer 6

Just because they are twins does not mean that they will learn at the same rate. Girls usually do things sooner than boys especially verbally. Just be patient and keep working with him, but do not make it negative or he will resist learning even more.
I have 2 girls and they are as different as night and day and my youngest was much more resistant to learning than my oldest was, but once she gets it she gets it right.

Answer 7

Repetition, repetition, repetition. Remember, boys usually pick things up a little slower than girls do. No big deal. He's probably just a late bloomer. It sounds like you're doing a great job, so just keep it up. Don't try to MAKE him say things. Just keep talking to him and showing him things. He'll pick it up in his own time.

Answer 8

Do you have books about alphabet, numbers?

That is what worked for me.

Talking a lot and reading A LOT is so helpful. (Maybe you already do that?)

Answer 9

boys usually develop slower than girls its ok if hes 2

Answer 10

do not force it upon him, he is learning in his own way, he may be retaining what you are teaching however is having difficulty vocalizing