How to ignore rude people?

Question

I find my self constantly caring what people think of me, and even when derogatory comments are not directed at me exactly, like one about americans or whites, I find myself dwelling on it making absolute sure that I know its not true and people don't think that about me, its gotten to the point that I don't like talking to anyone except my fiance and I don't like going out at all, and I will be starting college soon so I really want to find a way to get past this.


Sometimes I don't even want to check my email or youtube because im just so worried some one will have said something mean and ill have to dwell on it for 2 days.


Also whenever I find myself in a verbal confrontation, I very quickly try to avoid an argument by making it a physical confrontation. I feel much more confortable with physically intimidating some one into leaving me alone than having them insult me and shake my confidence.


I really just want to stop caring what people think, what should I do?

Answer 1

Realize that its that you actually don't care what people think thats killing you. Now I know that doesn't make sense quite yet, but let me explain. It comes down to the fact that you don't really understand why people think the way they do. You can understand the husban, he is in a way pretty safe person to understand, shoot you married him. But other people seem pretty comfontational and worse of all hard to please. So your just sort of.. coping with the rest of us in your own way. Yea its a bit.... hermish, but then again others do that to, its all a matter of realize more about yourself and getting more comfrontable with different aspects of this world. Getting some hobbies, visiting maybe some family, re-connecting with old friends. Just try and keep yourself moving forward so you don't beat yourself up about it. We have free choice, yea its harmful in an emotional sense, but different strokes, pretty sure (hopfully) the husbans, got your back and got some ideas about getting to met some good people. Hopfully thats the case and he should help you thru this, if not, he might not actually be helping much which does happen, but thats really more of an assumption. Just relax and try and care more about why people think the way they do, act, its a bet of a self-exploration really, but understanding that makes you see how people feel the way they do. And its really not a bad truth to know... well bitter/sweet