My dad was amazing when I was little. Now he can't let me grow up, and everyone says that. He yells at me and gets mad at me for anything he can, no matter how stupid he looks. He says I never do anything right and make him look bad. I'm almost 17 and don't have to go see him, but some people (like his girlfriend and mom) feel badly for him and say I should just deal with it. Why would I wanna be screamed at every weekend? Am I wrong here? Honestly?
2007-09-13 10:53:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His mom, not mine and yah I've tried talking to him a million times about it.
2007-09-13 11:30:22 · update #1
I have had the same problem, my parents are divorced and I live full time with my dad and stepmom, and sometimes it seems like he makes a bunch of dumb rules just so he has something to enforce. some of them appear to make it so I don't grow up.... at all. (ahem, no cell phones, no going on dates until i'm 17, etc) but remember dads don't always know how to be the perfect, so cut them some slack. And don't fail to communicate, a little understanding can help clear up a problem quick.
2007-09-13 11:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by theFlyingPinkDutchgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. Maybe the next time he starts yelling at you for something you have not done to his satisfaction, tell him that you do not have to put up with that sort of disrespect and walk out. If you can, you need to try and keep some sort of relationship with him, he is the only father you will ever have. The other suggestion is to get him on his own in a quiet and peaceful situation, (possibly by running water because that seems to help in keeping people calm), and try to talk to him about how his yelling etc. affects you.eep your voice low and calm. Try not to get heated and too emotional. You know, a fathers great fear is that his 'little girl' will grow up and not need him anymore? That idea is very hard for some men to deal with. Be the caring young adult you sound and I hope things will work out for you.
2007-09-13 11:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll ask a stupid question- have you talked to him about this?that would be my first idea. i'm curious to know why your mom and his girl feel badly for him? is he ill? it sounds as though they believe something is going with him and aren't letting you in on it. if talking to him doesn't help to resolve this problem and you really aren't doing anything to be yelled at for, maybe you should take a break from him for a while. don't forget about him, just limit your visits a bit. i hope things work out.
2007-09-13 11:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop going. then try to call him and ask him if he cares to see you ? if he says yes then tell him the only way that you will see him is if he shows you respect.tell him you will get up and leave if you come over and he starts with you. you dont need to be spoken to from anyone like that . dont put up with it. hes an adult and he knows better.
2007-09-13 14:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You don't have to deal with someone who badly needs anger management. Just tell your Dad that you are tired of his temper and it hurts you. If he won't get help for his temper, you don't need it.
2007-09-13 11:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men scream thats just the way they are
2007-09-13 16:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a parent my self and a dad,, I would say he does not want you to grow up, he is sad and mad cause your the only one that he thinks still loves him, just talk to him and give him a hug and kiss and just say ,, daddy i love you !!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-13 11:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by bigdaddy9965 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just can't let you go because you is little girl.
2007-09-13 11:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋