she will have sporadic moments of talkativeness if there are only a few people around (1-3). Usually it's only when someone invites her into the conversation or asks her a question. What would you think of her?
ALSO, if you invited her out with the rest of your coworkers/friends and she asked you if the place gets crowded or if a lot of people go, what would you think? What would you think if she sent you a text message later in the day saying she can't make it, but to let her know if they do anything later?
Would you think badly of her?
2007-09-13 10:44:52 · 8 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, she sounds like she is shy. She needs encouragement and support to feel comfortable enough to join in a larger group.
Let her know that you understand and keep encouraging her to come along.
2007-09-13 10:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by tsalagi_star 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, she may just be shy in general. If you say she usually keeps to herself, then it's just her personality. She's probably more comfortable in a small setting/environment rather than a crowded area. I don't think it's a bad thing, it may be her preference. If she's a co-worker, it's best to keep everything cosher, don't judge her for her preference, after all, I'm sure she respects the fact that you've taken the time to invite her. Get to know her a little bit more but having one-on-one convos with her at work, maybe one day she'll come out of her shell... when she's a bit more comfortable. Keep in mind, she's a co-worker, she probably doesn't want to mix business with pleasure- in this case, social life.
2007-09-13 11:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by CrankyWhenHungry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope, I'd think she has other things in her life. It's not a big deal, and I wouldn't take it personally. She doesn't completely feel comfortable with you or the other people involved, or she's shy. Maybe she wants to keep her work life separate from her personal?
She's smart to do so, and I don't feel badly about people that like to keep things professional.
2007-09-13 10:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you have written, I would say this young woman is more comfortable in a small group. She may be claustrophobic or very nervous around crowds.
I would not think badly of her at all. I am a little like that myself.
She may have more fun and be more like herself with one or two people around.
2007-09-13 11:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think she sounds completely normal, and possibly shy and/or uncomfortable with crowded social situations where she doesn't know a lot of people or possibly thinking that she's not a party person. Nothing wrong with that!
2007-09-13 10:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's not comfortable in crowds and is more comfortable on a one on one (or a couple of people) basis. Nothing wrong with that. I'm sort of like that myself.
2007-09-13 10:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by gbravo04 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if maybe she's unsure of herself or she has some sort of mental disfunction. I would think she's very strange but maybe you just need to get to know her??????
2007-09-13 10:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Synchro Girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i wouldn't think badly of her. i would think she doesn't do well around crowds. this is not so uncommon actually.
2007-09-13 11:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋